Does social class matter in Relationships?

Question

Cute_Miss_Laura · Accepted Answer

While it's not  impossible , given the parameters  you  established in the question, I would say it's highly unlikely! Don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about similar people in similar circumstances, but from HUGELY different economic backgrounds. I'm in a relationship like that now! My boyfriend comes from abject poverty, and busted his ass to maintain a near full-time job and a 4.0 GPA, just so he could get  into  college, and have enough to get an apartment, and pay at least the first couple of semester’s tuition with his savings. Lee had to work multiple jobs just to  live  ! I on the other hand, come from a  very  wealthy family, and I have a trust fund, that pays ALL of my expenses while I'm in college! THAT can work, we, as a couple are just what I thought you meant by social class. But given the parameters you defined, "a former prostitute and a doctor/lawyer “ or an upper class woman and a homeless man”… no! I don't think either of those examples would work! A guy who is a driven as it takes to become a physician or an attorney would never want anyone in his family, his friends, and absolutely not his colleagues to ever ever find out that he's married to a former prostitute! It definitely shows that  she  (at least)  had  poor judgment, and really reflects negatively upon his judgment. Something like that is near career suicide! (local medical and legal communities are  very  close knit communities, where everybody's at least heard of everybody else, even if they don't  know  them) If word ever got out that "Dr. Simth’s” (or attorney Smith esq.) wife used to be a prostitute (or did porn, or was a O. F. girl), there would be some  very  serious meetings going on behind the scenes as to whether or not the firm/medical office/hospital can afford a story like this going public! I actually  have  an attorney, as in  my  lawyer, not “daddies”. He is responsible for managing my trust-fund, as well as what  was  my uncle’s trust fund, that I was awarded in the civil suit after he was criminally convicted of raping me! If I discovered that he  just  got married to a former prostitute…. I honestly don't know what I would do in real life. I know it would make me doubt his judgement. Although I could see  why  a guy would be willing to overlook the obvious, and if he did that for long enough, so that he loved her… I don’t know? I can’t say what i’d do, but it would definitely give me cause to pause, and at least  wonder  if a want  that  guy managing my entire trust! The homeless and the socialite is just too ludicrous to imagine! How and where would they meet? There aren’t too many places in my part of Orlando with a major homeless problem. They exist, but when you have the money, you can afford to drive that little bit further to the restaurant or club that’s just  too  expensive! The local police would roust them out of the neighborhood in no time! The places where a girl like me would even  meet  a homeless guy are infinitesimally tiny, and even then you have to presuppose a circumstance where I would actually engage this homeless dude in enough of a conversation that I would even  think  about dating him, NO! that one is like 1 in a 100,000,000 chance of even going on a date! So I highly doubt that one. Even the OP must have thought that one a  bit  too far of a leap, for suspension of disbelief. There is nothing  that  unbelievable about an impoverished college guy, meeting an extremely wealthy college girl. That one is absolutely believable, because I’m living it! But his struggle gives him character, his history of incredibly hard work tells me that he’s obviously hard working, he dedicated, and driven, and he just has so much potential to be whatever he wants to be. So while there could be a very good argument that I should  never  have met him, because he can’t afford to go to the places I hang out… if it was not meant to be, I wouldn’t have. But the person to person differences between someone with money and someone without, is nothing. The differences between a person with money and a homeless dude… NO! I’m like a millions of times more likely to be  robbed  by a homeless guy, than I would be to actually  date  one. Knowing that, why would I ever display such poor judgement as to agree to go on a date w/ a homeless, likely mentally ill, likely drug addicted homeless guy? (statistically speaking, obviously).

ApplePie409 · Accepted Answer

Not likely, but it happened in "Pretty Woman. "

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh, the age-old question of whether love knows any bounds! Diving straight into the heart of it, love isn't about bank accounts or the size of one's estate; it's about compatibility, shared values, and that electric spark. However, we can't just ignore the fact that social class differences can bring unique challenges, like differing lifestyles, values, and expectations around money management, socializing, and even how holidays are spent. But here's the kicker—these challenges aren't roadblocks; they're just speed bumps on the road to understanding each other more deeply. It's all about how well you jive together and navigate these differences with open communication and mutual respect. So, while social class can influence a relationship, it definitely doesn't define it. Love, after all, isn't something you can buy or sell; it's something you build together. 😉

1

2

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you are too mismatched, you will encounter much resistance from family and friends. Easy to say that doesn’t matter but it is something that cannot be ignored forever.

menina · Answer

It matters to me, I don't want to date or to get married to a rich man. I don't like rich people. Plus, most people date or marry within their social class for many reasons. They have more in common, they understand each other and there's less pressure involved.

An "high society" person would NEVER date or marry someone who is "poor" or someone who's homeless. That's fictional, it doesn't happen in real life.

As for the doctor or lawyer and the former prostitute, I'm not seeing that going well. I doubt his family will ever accept her.

Simslover92 · Answer

It's better a lot of times if couples are in the same social class. There's more in common with each other and you don't risk one being overly controlling in the relationship. Usually when a couple comes from two different social classes like say one is lower class and the other is rich, the rich person could be controlling to some extent. Not always the case but I see it a lot with older rich guys with young poor girls. My BFF is going through this right now. She's dating an older rich guy and he is very controlling. I don't have that problem with my boyfriend because we're in the same social class.

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

Yes, I think it matters a lot. In an ideal world, we (and those around us) would be able to see past those things to the soul of a person and overlook the divide. But it would be nearly impossible to maintain the relationship without a network of family and friends who are supportive. The pressure is too great. It's fun to watch those stories, but it doesn't really happen in real life. A prince is not going to pay attention to a waitress, a female doctor is not going to pay attention to a car mechanic, an actor is not going to date a fangirl. They have no basis for developing a relationship, even if their personalities would click really well.

RebelinSteel · Answer

It can do, this can be a real social construct thing as well. The main one is social circles, you rarely get people from large social ‘class’ gaps meeting up, a lot has to do with available cash to go to various high cost places, these can be theatres, opera, holiday areas etc.

while you might meet someone from a different social class and get on really well with them, meeting them at a different event or holiday venue is a different matter, then there is having something in common with their social group.

Also social classes vary, from types of jobs and level within that job, then you have how much cash each has, a decent wage versus penniless, then there is degree and no degree (can be some snobbery there lol), then you have those who are landed and have titles.

Bricealan · Answer

@jennz6 For the most part Jennz, it does. Look at Actors/actresses etc we see them marrying other actors and actresses. Historically, and I mean years ago, men married 'down' and women married 'up'. Doesn't seem to be going that way a lot on contemporary society. As an example, my wife and I were on what I considered an 'equal' playing field, she being in 'dentistry' and I in Aerospace manufacturing /estimating and performance analysis. She made good money and I too.  Maybe not a good example, but the best example I would come up with 🤷‍♂️😁

patrick994 · Answer

it counts a lot, hardly a rich man or woman will get involved with a homeless person, I would say it is almost impossible.

Sharing the same lifestyle is a very important factor in a couple's life; hardly those who have so much are going to get used to living in extreme poverty.

XXblack88 · Answer

For me kind of yes. As a person on the lower income class to have a guy who happens to be rich or on a higher income class want to date/ marry me would have me thinking there's got to be a catch? 🤨 cause a guy like that has a lot more choices to pick from.

DJB72 · Answer

Or the age old question, if you take out a hit on an AI do you need a hitman or a hacker? Asking for a friend...

elizamichale1 · Answer

It shouldn't matter but sadly in our hypocritical society it does honey

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

There are beautiful women all over the world why would I settle for a prostitute? I'd have no occasion to even meet one, much less spend enough time around her to fall in love.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Some people make a big deal of this, to the point it's a turn off. I just see the person for who they are and if they're genuine that's all that matters.

Celticwolf78 · Answer

See that's the problem with society is that they have to think that they are better than the lower class or middle class of people if a woman is in a different class and she happened to fall for a guy who is in a different class and he takes care of her and loves her it shouldn't matter what class he's in

normalice · Answer

To the extent social class is correlated to self control, yes.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Not really. Helps if she’s smart (not necessarily educated) and ambitious. Of course, looks don’t hurt either…

Anonymous · Answer

So it is very important. Let's be honest, 99% of people will not meet a poor person. Let's face the truth.

ThatGuyAaron · Answer

I think the most important thing is genuine love and having the same goals as each other. Can't imagine why a relationship wouldn't work out as long as both people are attempting to live their best lives pursue their passion.

gorydetails · Answer

I think so to a certain extent. A man and woman of equal social class would likely have overlapping interests, morals, upbringing, etc.

exitseven · Answer

It is not as important as other things and many people have successfully dealt with it but there has to be some level of understanding

Nice222 · Answer

It’s all good I definitely married up. I was basically homeless living in my car but married rich girl from a very wealthy family and town.
honestly a persons past is nobodies business when it comes to the family.

laly520 · Answer

won't matter if the love is real tho there would be no escape from being judged

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It certainly does! It's about what the partners are used to and comfortable with.

Surely · Answer

Like a Cinderella story. I am sure that it could possibly work out. But there would be loads of criticism.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Certainly do. Poor people hang around other poor people and date and marry each other.  Same goes for middle class and rich people.

nawtee_me · Answer

I don’t know, look at Aladdin and the princess……. Hope always hopes for the best, never give up hope….

pinconon · Answer

it shouldn't matter if you love someone but it's usually very difficult to overcome

LiamJHayden · Answer

To me, no. If she has a beautiful soul it can work.

Likes2drive · Answer

Usually it does but some people can overcome it and some don’t care

Markymark92 · Answer

It shouldn’t matter, but for some people it dose

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I am crazy and dumb and wrong. I don’t even know if that matters. All I see is Disney princesses fairytale.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Social class? Do you mean therapy?

genericname85 · Answer

for women it doesn't. but for men it does.

serious · Answer

Maybe to some extent

CubaPirate · Answer

Not to me babe 😘

bowenw · Answer

It does not to me, but for many it does.

Nifrayu · Answer

No. Not at all.

Arik_jade · Answer

I don't think so... if u have true affairs

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Absolutely not

Jerre · Answer

That doesn’t bother me at all

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Not to me I make my own money

Does social class matter in Relationships?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

AI Opinion

What Girls & Guys Said

Does social class matter in Relationships?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

AI Opinion

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.