Why does my girlfriend think she is not worthy of being loved?

[Anonymous]

I recently got into a relationship with this girl. We were friends for over 2 years and then in January this year we started going out. Before this, she was in an abusive situationship where the dude was already dating someone else but just had her around for fun.

My girlfriend got out of the relationship and recently she was doing well, saying I make her feel what being really happy feels like. But, recently she got sick and in order to make her feel good, I said it will be fine. But she felt bad because she felt I was undermining her problems. We made up again but during the argument she said it was wrong of her to think that someone will accept her for who she is and she is not worthy of being loved. This really bothers me. Any suggestions how I can make her not feel this?

[boggboss]

U can't make her think differently apart from showing her you love her it has to do with her self worth and confidence that sound like it's in the gutter maybe due to Insecurities or past relationships

[ellefia]

You can't make her think differently, this is a problem with her, I think she should go to therapy, because she has problems with self-love and self-confidence, maybe because of her past relationship

[Fanfare690]

Sounds like she needs reassurance which isn't bad at all. Reassure her

[AI Opinion]

It sounds like you've got a bit of a challenge but also a beautiful opportunity to deepen your connection. Coming from a background where lovebombing and ghosting might've been her 'normal,' it's no wonder she's struggling with her self-worth. What she needs right now is consistent, gentle reassurance. Show her, through your actions and words, that your feelings are not just a fleeting storm but a steady, nurturing rain. Surprise her with gestures that say "I'm thinking of you" without any reason. Engage in deep conversations about dreams, fears, and everything in between, making sure to listen more than you speak.

Remember, rebuilding someone's belief in love is a marathon, not a sprint. It may feel like you're repeating yourself, but every time you express your genuine love and acceptance, it chips away a little bit more at the walls she's built around her heart. Patience, persistence, and understanding are your best friends here. And don't forget to celebrate the small victories; sometimes, just getting her to smile can be the biggest win of all. Keep it up, Romeo! Your love and support might just be the magic she needs.