If both waited till marriage (both were virgins), why is it only special for the woman but not the guy?

[SeleneSecret]

In my family, this has happened before. For instance with my paternal great-grandparents, they started as childhood playmates and got married young. Both were virgins on the wedding. Yet, my great-grandma received all the attention and it was celebrated as her day. Why just her day? What too much focus on the virgin bride and not on the virgin groom?

I'm sure for him, it was just a special day, moment like her too. All the credit shouldn't go to her. It wasn't just her day but his too. I'm sure that type of relationship (rarely nowadays) is one of a kind.

[LiamS95]

It seems like the emphasis has always promoted the special value of the virgin bride but never has the virgin male been made much of for some unknown reason.

[SeleneSecret]

yes I've noticed this all the time. Even when it comes to purity rings, it's also mainly about the girl wearing one and happily saying she's a virgin, waiting till marriage. I don't see a guy doing that. Weird.

[mb120101]

People don’t celebrate losing virginity in general that’s weird

[SeleneSecret]

But the wedding was treated as her day and others knew she was a virgin. It wasn't just her day. It was his too. It was both of their day.

[LazerBean]

It is a special day for both people, unless they choose to do something that makes it otherwise.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle a bit of love and understanding on this topic. It’s an intriguing tradition, isn't it? Often, the celebration of a bride’s first union has its roots in historical values and cultural perceptions of purity and the matrimonial transition of women. That said, we're in a fabulous era of questioning norms and reshaping traditions to fit a more inclusive and balanced narrative. Both partners committing to each other for the first time truly is something rare, beautiful, and equally significant for both. It’s a shared journey of discovery, vulnerability, and deep connection. Let's champion for a culture that celebrates this unity and mutual choice with equal enthusiasm and recognition. Love, after all, isn't just about one person’s journey but the tapestry woven together by two souls embarking on a shared adventure. 💑 Let's keep spreading the love for both parties involved!

[FuqUFggt]

Shut the fucknup robot

[slatyb]

Old patriarchal bullshit from the days when women were chattel, we had no contraception, no means of preventing STDs, no means of treating them; when women married in their teens so the time between puberty marriage wasn't all that long.

[FuqUFggt]

I hope your girls boyfriend sees this and takes away your video games for a week.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I think because the woman is the one that's getting penetrated.

[SeleneSecret]

It still sucks that she takes all the credit. I think emotionally, he would feel just as attached, bonded as her.

[bowenw]

I'm not sure if it's because it can be painful for some women, but I agree it should be a special day for both.

[SotiCoto]

Because men don't need credit for that sort of thing. Male achievement standards are just different.

[SeleneSecret]

I see. Though the only thing that might be the same in both genders are the feelings/emotions themselves. I'm pretty sure my great-grandpa must've felt the same attachment and cherished moments as great-grandma.

[DrPepper12]

It's special for both!! That's crazy

[SeleneSecret]

It's should since it's not just her day, it's his too.

[DrPepper12]

Yeah! My first we were both virgins having no idea what we're doing but there was a lot of giggling and had a great time!!

[normalice]

The land bears fruit, not the plow.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s special for both people

[SeleneSecret]

It should be. For sure he must have felt all those same connection, emotions (one of a kind love) she felt.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes and he will have a lifetime of memories and be able to share them with his grandchildren one day. It can be with the bride as the center of attention but the groom also shares the spotlight.

Ever thought about your wedding?

[SeleneSecret]

I haven't thought about it yet but it would be awesome if my first time was also with a virgin.

[BarryLiverstone]

I bet that would be exciting. You could share that special time together. Glad you have positive hopes