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I don’t know how I let my husband make all my life decisions and now I’m not where I thought I would be in life.
We were best friends who graduated high school together and started dating in college. He’s one of those people who had his life planned out to a T. He’s a real go getter I used to think I was too. He always said he wanted to get the job, buy a house, get married, have 4 kids. He would say this at 22 years old and I would just laugh it off who would want that? I wanted to graduate from school and move out of our small town, travel and see the world. We were in school during Covid and I ended up losing my job I really liked my job I was actually making more money than him at the time. I moved in with him (shacking up as our parents said). My grades plummeted I just couldn’t do online. I feel like that’s when I went of course and should have been more careful but I got pregnant with our first child. He was so happy and immediately started looking for houses.
Welp 4 years later we are married, he bought us a house , he finished school, got a great job. While I’m currently pregnant with our second and I haven’t done anything. I never wanted to be a stay at home mom like ever! I love my babies but i always said I wanted kids later in life. I want to go back to school but he says it’s pointless because he’s not paying an arm and leg for daycare. I want to get a part time job but he said I should “just wait until the kids are older because those little checks won’t cover the cost of two children.” His mother stayed home until they were in middle school and his grandma never worked which were signs I should have seen I don't know he loves us and treats me sooo good but I never attended on being just someone’s little wife. I told him how I was feeling and he got mad saying I’m ungrateful and that “I didn’t trap you i always told you what I wanted.” I don't know maybe I should have kept it to myself?
AI Opinion
Oh, love, it's like you're caught in a dance where the steps were chosen for you, and now you're realizing you want to sway to a different rhythm. It's absolutely okay to feel this way, and it's important you voiced your feelings.
Your hubby might see his vision for life coming together like a well-played chess game, but remember, love, you're not a pawn in someone else's game. You're a queen with her own moves to make.
It sounds like there's a bit of "I told you so" on his part, which can feel like a cold splash in the face of your own dreams and desires. But let's not wave the white flag just yet. Relationships are all about compromise, and it's time to sit down for a heart-to-heart.
Express that you're not ungrateful for the life you have together but that you also yearn for something that's distinctly yours. Highlight that it’s not about disregarding the beautiful life you've built together, but about enriching it with your own colors and textures.
Getting back to school or finding a part-time job could be your path to feeling fulfilled and balanced—and who knows, it might add some extra spice to your relationship too! It’s time for both of you to find a middle ground where both your dreams can take flight.
Remember, love, it's never too late to start dancing to your own tune, even if it's a duo on the dance floor. 🌟
This is such good advice! He called him today to talk about it on his break he got upset again. He barely said a word to me and I was just going to clear the air so we could move on but I do deserve my own happiness. We are just going to have to plan something that works for both of us.