What’s something awesome I can do for my boyfriend when he’s had a rough day?

[TinyGirly]

I cook, clean, and give him massages. What else can I do?

[Anonymous]

A lot of men said blowjobs, some of the women did as well. Which ok might be a quick fix for a little while but this doesn’t get to the root of the issue. A lot of times when it comes to a man being angry or upset women simply tend to look at it as he’s angry or upset. They don’t usually figure out why he’s actually like that. They just know he’s not happy what can I do to change his attitude. Let’s say a girl is constantly overspending on their budget. Rather than fixing the issue, which is her overspending, she’s going to try to make him happy or forgive her by having sex w him or coming him his favorite meal or something. Now in this situation, to me, especially for most men, I think you just need to give him space. Trying to talk to him isn’t the same as trying to talk to your female friends about their issues. Men need to resolve things. Most times women just want someone to listen. Plus your life experiences are very different. I tend to think women usually get their emotions hurt easily. So a girl will hold that in all day. For instance if her boss calls her incompetent, that’ll ruin her entire day. Most men it won’t unless he’s really weak minded as a man. So if he’s really upset it’s cause something really got to him. He needs to process that on his own. We tend to do a lot of our best work when we’re alone thinking. You can just give him a hug, maybe make him a little something to eat or drink. Let him know you’re here if he needs you. But he needs to most likely figure this out on his own. That’s how men have been taught growing up, to go out, conquer the world. That no one is coming to save you. Plus as a man it’s on me to keep my girl from whatever issues I may have that I see as minor. Men know that to put these things on others is a burden. We usually don’t do these things unlike women who will tend to unload everything on you. Once he figures it out there’s a better chance he will tell you what was wrong, or he may just return to his happy self. I know I know women aren’t going to agree w this but this is how a lot of us handle things.

[Anonymous]

It may sound trite and cliche, but just hold him in your arms. Don't say a word, maybe give him a kiss and reassure him that he is loved and that things will get better.

My girlfriend and I tend to have a very "natural" sex life. I tend to be the dominant alpha male and she tends to be the submissive female. Again, it sounds trite and cliche but it works for us. (As our three children - plus one from a previous relationship - amply demonstrate.)

So when I have had a rough day I tend not to talk about it. I keep it to myself because I really do feel it is my responsibility to be strong for my girlfriend and our children.

Funny thing is, my girlfriend will notice this. So when we climb into bed - I sleep in the nude - she will strip as well and just climb into bed with me. She will hold me and let me feel her soft warm skin against mine.

No joke, it is like magic. Suddenly I feel safe and wanted and reassured. We don't have sex - well, sometimes we do - but we just lay there naked and holding each other and it is like magic to me. (In fact, and I am a bit embarrassed to admit this, a couple of times I even started to cry. That is so unlike me and yet, in a very real way, being held by her and made to feel safe and wanted and loved just overwhelmed me.)

Without knowing your boyfriend, I cannot 100% assure you if that will work. However, for me, those moments just holding and being held by my girlfriend - the tenderness, the warmth, the nakedness, the emotional openness - was the very essence of awesome.

Give it a try.

[provokeesmokee]

Listen to him talk, ask if he wants emotional support, and compliment him genuinely on things that you love about him (personality and mentally wise as well as physically).

When my boyfriend or girlfriend get super upset, I'll snuggle them, offer tea and snacks, and we'll just chat about it if they feel up to it or distract ourselves with a comedy show.

Be genuine in your affections and do your best to inuit what he may need. Ask questions to confirm when you need, and remind him he can be himself around you.

[Altheavas]

These are small talk and things you figure out about your partner during early dating stage. How to address him/her, how to cheer him/her up during downtimes.
So you don’t feel stuck to interact with him/her out fear of aggravating the situation, or feeling ignored.

[AI Opinion]

Feeling like spicing things up after a tough day, huh? Love that for you! Well, diving beyond the classic trio of cooking, cleaning, and massages, why not create a little escape adventure right at home? Transform your space into a mini getaway. Think themed movie night with a popcorn bar, or a backyard camping experience under the stars (if you have a backyard, that is). If you're up for a little challenge, how about a surprise treasure hunt leading him to tiny pampering gifts or notes of appreciation? It's all about weaving in that extra layer of personal touch and playful surprise. Remember, sometimes the best way to lighten the mood is by adding a sprinkle of unexpected joy and a dash of creativity. Keep dazzling with your love and imagination!

[RavVid]

DON'T try to make him talk about it! That only works for girls.

I might tell my girlfriend I have had a bad day and give her the gist of it but that is just so as she knows there is an external reason for me being down in the mouth.

Typically girlfriend's have wanted me to talk it out with them and sort of take it personally when I don't want to. I don't to because it just keeps it - and the emotions - in my mind longer.

What I would prefer my girlfriend to do is simply acknowledge my bad day and show some care - like massage - and be bright and entertaining and diverting. Diverting is the keyword. Taking my mind away from the bad day onto something else.

Sex is the penultimate diversion.

In the scenario above, if you said "Oh. Well I had better suck your dick then", that would be a great response from a precious girlfriend.

[natured]

Literally give him space if he wants it, prepare his gaming console if he has one and is a gamer, and i think cooking and cleaning and all that is something he will appreciate either way.
But sometimes, Men need space after that... communicate though

[Finchie40]

Set up his gaming console? You must be taken already lol

[bobby_bush_eater]

Sexual things if you guys do that. There's no one size fits all though, sometimes being appreciative of your relationship and saying it to him, talking about his day, giving him space etc.

It's the small stuff in my opinion but it sounds like you're doing a lot of good supportive things

[dustybiker2]

Focus on the tiny things. Those add up and really matter. Handing them a fav snack and drink when they come through the door after hearing word it was a tough day can gain a warm hug and delicious kiss. Win win.

[CrabCakes11]

Ask him what makes him feel better. It’s different for everyone

[Unit1]

This is the right question but you need to direct this directly to your boyfriend. He'll tell you.

[jahaims]

Communicate with him and ask instead of asking strangers

[Vegasrunner]

TBH, you're already doing it all men are very simple. Those three things alone make you better than 99% of women out there

[TheSpaceGnome]

Any kind of physical affection, being silly, playing co-op video games, helping problem solve whats causing the stress if possible, or at least siding with him on it.

[Yannae]

Mine prepares a bath. I can go home and a hot bath will be ready.

[TonyMetal___86]

Give all yourself, let him feel your powerful love towards him, make him happy in all possible ways...
Anyways you're excellent the way you are now, i how that he appreciates what you're doing for him 🙂

[Finchie40]

Give him amazing head

[Massageman]

Cater to his Love Language (ref Chapman). If physical touch is his love language, touch him. If it's words of affirmation, affirm him with your words, etc.

[In_Trance]

Easy

[Astarlessnightsky]

You should ask your boyfriend.

For me it would be to just leave me alone.

[DishLady]

You can try to help him relax and feel good, but he also has to want that….

[Billlewis]

Do you give him foot massages? That's one way to make him happy.

[msc545]

A blowjob with a prostate massage at the same time.

[dolemite58]

Let him enjoy peace and quiet by himself lol

[Anonymous]

Be waiting for him when he comes on your knees right inside the door

[Apple1996]

Whatever he asks for

[Apple1996]

My husband usually wants to cuddle after a rough day

[bowenw]

Talk to him about his day.

[kinkynicci]

Come on now, no guy will ever turn down a bj

[handsomelad70]

Lay a b. j. on him, lassie !!!

[gorydetails]

There's no problem a blowjob can't solve.

[LaurenM1997]

Buy him his favourite snacks

[JonCobretti]

Add a BJ too

[Loner111]

BJ all the way

[Anonymous]

Suck him off.

[Kit_Kat88]

Blow him

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Suck his dick.