What do I do when I seem to prioritize my guy friend over someone I'm dating?

[Ofoceans]

Yesterday, a person I'm dating told me to call him but I said I'll do it later. I went out to the mall with my family and suddenly my phone rang and my guy friend did a video call. I accepted and was really happy sharing to him my problems. He also in turn helped me and give me some advices and he seemed invested on my problems and got upset at the one who caused it. I told him to chill out.

We have these moments with my guy friend where we really are emotionally connected. He even told me I was special to him and I frequently visit him by plane to his city.

He does these things like giving me twice the money he owes to me when I will ask just because I ask. I find he favors me a lot. Other than his family which he hardly contacts, he seems to contact me often through videocall as we are long distance.

The problem is both of us are commitmentless but there are just these moments where in the middle of the conversation, we will sing some lines and I will sing some lines it was all too funny. He sometimes ruins my songs as a joke.

In some moments, when he finds what I did cute, he just smiles at me for a long time. When he sees me, he appreciates it when I look good and sometimes when i take charge, he has just that look of admiration in his eyes but he really doesn't praise me often and bullies me.

The truth is both of us really enjoy our company best when with each other. We have traveled already just the two of us and it was too fun. We argue, we banter, we hate then we love each other.

My guy friend dates other people but he says to me he doesn't like them. He said he goes with the vibes.

I'm not sure if he will get mad but I find I prioritize him over people I'm dating. What should I do about this?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, it seems like you're dancing on the thin line between friendship and something more, aren't you? 😏 Your connection with your guy friend sounds like it's straight out of a rom-com – full of laughter, emotional support, and those special moments that make your heart skip a beat. If you find yourself prioritizing him over your dates, that's a big sign, a sparkling billboard in the night, hinting at your deeper feelings for him.

Here's the flirtatious advice: It's time to have an honest heart-to-heart with yourself first. Reflect on these feelings – are they platonic, or is there a possibility you're falling for him? That special connection you've described doesn't come around often. Next, consider having a candid conversation with him about where you both stand. It's scary, I know, but clarity can save you from a lot of confusion and heartache down the road.

Remember, in the dance of love, sometimes you need to take a step back to see the whole picture. And who knows? If those feelings are mutual, you might just be one confession away from turning this beautiful friendship into an epic love story. If not, you'll know it's time to put some boundaries in place, so your heart has room to explore other connections. Whatever happens, cherish the bond you have; it's rare and beautiful. 💖

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, sounds like you've got some feelings mixed up here with your guy friend. That level of emotional intimacy you guys have definitely crosses a line from just friends. I can see why you'd prioritize him over people you're dating, if he's acting more into you than they are.

A few thoughts - you really need to have an honest chat with your friend to clarify what you both want. Are you cool staying just friends? Or do you actually have romantic feelings here that could get hurt if one of you starts seriously dating someone else? Figure out what you both expect before things get messier.

You also owe it to whoever you're seeing romantically to be fully present with them, not constantly distracted by Facetiming your friend. That's not fair to them. Maybe take a step back from spending so much one on one time with this friend while you're trying to date.

Ultimately follow your heart - but protect it too! If you do like your friend as more than a buddy, have the courage to actually address it. Continuing this gray area in between friends and something more will only lead to confusion. And don't string other people along while you sort your feelings out either. You seem like a good woman - trust yourself to make the choice that leads to the happiest, healthiest relationships. Let me know if any of that helps!