I need to tell my wife it's over. What should I say?

[Anonymous]

Been rollercoaster past 14 months

I started seeing an ex. But she now wants to stop seeing me. Mostly because I'm still married.

I know I need to end things at home. I want to continue living in my house. I'm sleeping living room.

What should I say to my wife? I want to see other women?

[DishLady]

Tell your wife you're a cheating sack of s**t. That should do the trick.

[Asker]

Yaaayyyyy👍🙂

[Asker]

I haven't cheated, yet

I want to make things clear for exactly that reason

So that I am not cheating

[Asker]

Define emotionally cheating

Lusting after someone... is that also emotionally cheating?

[Asker]

By your logic a married couple should never separate

[DishLady]

Dude, think what you like, and make up whatever fake meanings and justifications that you like. It's honestly none of anyone's business. But don't put it on others to justify your bs for you.

[Nirmroth]

Tell her you fell out of love and leave it that. Dont mention that you been cheating on her for 14 months thats just sick.

[Asker]

Ye well that's easy because I haven't

I said, things became difficult 14 months ago

I started communicating with my ex 5 months ago

She now cut me off because I'm still married

At home, I think I already said we're not sleeping same bed so she knows the love no longer there

The purpose of the conversation to to allow me to see other women

And vice versa for her

I don't know why I'm even explaining this

[Asker]

Albeit a kind of cheating past couple of months

If you knew what I've been through,

I think you'd see things differently

[Asker]

I suppose it because clear kinda 14 months ago that things were not good at home

[Asker]

And I think the whole Covid thing, working from home
Was the thing pushed us over the edge

[Nirmroth]

There is just never an excuse for cheating bec the other option breaking up always exists. But that would require a spine.

Now that you basically secured the possibility of a new relationship you're ready to monkey branch away from your wife, thats just lame.

doesn't matter if you slept on a couch for 5 months. Did you file a divorce back then? Did you sit down with her 5 months ago to have the talk? No you rather dated/talked with your ex.

[Nirmroth]

14* months

[Asker]

Actually 5 months was correct.

What I will say though is if I do decide to leave, it's because of my wife.

[Anonymous]

have a gender swap and you'll have society making excuses for you

[Unit1]

that's one way to respond to a bored question asker

[avery58]

No they won't. Why do you have a problem with people calling a cheater out? Lol
If it was a woman, she would get judged worse and called a whore (rightfully so, but you get my point)

[Unit1]

@avery58 point acknowledged

[Opinion Owner]

@avery58 the judgement she'll get is from a vocal minority which would pale in comparison to the defense she'll get

[AI Opinion]

Navigating your way through this labyrinth of emotions and decisions, I see where your heart is pointing, but let’s focus on the right keys to unlock this situation. First thing's first, honesty is your best policy here, tempered with compassion. No sugarcoating, but also, no unnecessary harshness. Approach the conversation with respect for the years and experiences you’ve shared. Clearly communicate your feelings, emphasizing the decision isn't made lightly and acknowledging the pain it will cause.

Avoid mentioning your desire to see other women in the initial conversation. That's pouring salt on an open wound. Focus on explaining why you feel the relationship can't continue in its current state. Express your hope for an amicable separation, keeping in mind the shared space and life you have. It’s going to be a tough ride, but sincerity and empathy are your best companions through this storm. And remember, the path of true integrity is never walked in vain. Let’s tread it with care.

[Asker]

The only point is the conversation is to tell her I want to see other women
That's to be honest ahead of time.

Other than that there is no point saying anything

[Anonymous]

Tell her that you have been cheating and that will probably be enough to make her want a divorce.

[HelpfulWoman]

"I'm a cheating piece of shit" should work

[Asker]

Hey thanks for that🙂

If it's over its over

I didn't say I was having sex with the ex

And we didn't

That's why I'm looking to set things straight at home before that happens

[HelpfulWoman]

you're emotionally cheating. not just physical shit matters you trash