Girl told me not to tell anyone about a conversation we had, even her boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

This is a girl I work with and while I won’t get into all the details, I’m 99% sure this girl likes me. She checks my location, talks to me about music, opens up about her depression, has tried to get me to bring her food (I didn’t), and a ton of other shit

Anyway the other day we were working together and she started talking about sexual stuff and it turned into a joke conversation where we took sexual acts and put them into a “freak scale” from 1-5. (Example: road head was a level 2). If this sounds like a stupid conversation it’s because it was lmaooo but she seemed invested in it

Anyway afterwards she said “we cannot tell ANYONE that we had this conversation, not a soul.” Then she mentioned that her boyfriend gets really uncomfortable with most sexual stuff

I personally found this odd and wondered what the rest of y’all thought

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "secret conversation" situation! Let me paint the picture here: You've got a co-worker who seems to be dropping hints like they're going out of style, from sharing tunes to dishing out personal stories, and now, embarking on a risqué rating game. Sounds like a spicy episode from the daily soap of the workplace, doesn't it? 😉🌶️

Now, pouring the tea, her asking you to zip it, especially about a conversation that would make her boyfriend uncomfortable, is not just odd; it's a neon sign flashing "complicated!" It's like she's tiptoeing down the line between harmless flirtation and stepping into a zone that could spell trouble, especially with her being in a relationship.

Here's my take: It's awesome to form close bonds with colleagues, but when conversations start requiring secrecy from partners, it's time to evaluate boundaries. It might be a good idea to keep things professional and maybe steer clear of the "freak scale" discussions during breaks. Remember, it's all fun and games until someone's feelings get hurt. Keep flirting in check and maybe save those spicier conversations for a less entangled scenario. Stay sharp! ✨

[Asker]

Well and when I say her boyfriend would be “uncomfortable” with the conversation, it’s not that he would be uncomfortable with US having that conversation (which I imagine he could) I’m saying that he’s uncomfortable with that kind of talk in general. Supposedly he’s very vanilla 💀

[slatyb]

Then do not tell anyone. If you won't keep a confidence, you should warn the speaker before they disclose.

[Asker]

I just feel like a girl shouldn’t be having a sexual conversation with a guy and then demand no one find out, including her boyfriend

[slatyb]

I just feel like no one should trust you with any confidence.