Do you think couples say “I’m sorry” more or “I love you”?

[OddBeMe]

I love you

I’m sorry

[DishLady]

Great question… I think “I love you” (or mentioning a singular thing you love about a person) has become a buffer in couples communication. Perhaps even to avoid the “I’m sorry.”


Apologies are harder to come by, for some reason. Perhaps bc the ego takes a hit.


Wouldn’t it be great if someone loved the way you apologized? Positive reinforcement… hmm.

[OddBeMe]

I recoil at “self help” shit, but love languages intrigue me. Not to say they’re 100% or even 50% right. It I like the idea.

I try to apologize with an action. Like one time I cleaned the garage and purchased a top of the line car garage opener for her car.

[TrueConfection]

My husband still says, "I love you," but he's only said, "sorry," once in the quarter of a century we've been together. I prefer hearing, "I love you."

[OddBeMe]

I see that as an issue..(whisper) of toxic masculinity. Great book about it: The Masks We Live In.

[TrueConfection]

It could be, but we rarely argue. I think I can still count our arguments on one hand.

[OddBeMe]

I’m just joshing. Sounds like you guys are doing great.

[OddBeMe]

We’ve married as long and I’m kinda opposite your hubby. I say sorry more. But for good reason.

[TrueConfection]

Thanks for the MHO ❤

[midnightmoon05]

I say I love you more and mean it.
he used to say sorry more and it was a word… I had to explain to him to not over use that word.
he learned. 😊

this society is overly abusing the word I’m sorry… it has lost its true meaning.

to me, sorry is only used along with a note… and to never do again.

[OddBeMe]

Yes…if it’s parroted it loses all meaning. Does he even have “ditto” work for love to you?

[RavVid]

I'd expect couples to be very polite to each other and express regret at any inconvenience. My apartment kitchen is so small that there is a high risk of accidental scalding and stabbing with two in it. So maybe my view is distorted by this need for excuse me's, sorry for bumping you, I need to open the fridge now, can you move so I can get to the sink please.

Do we have any statistical data on this? I feel it is a trick question and 'love you' is far less frequent.

[OddBeMe]

Scalding and stabbing? Jesus Christ man, schedule your meal making!

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't think so... people learn and try not to make the same mistakes over and over again, so with time, the need to say "I'm sorry" decreases and positive feelings and impressions make people happy and open to share what they feel toward their partner

[Anonymous]

I rarely ever say “I love you” to my man but I always say “I’m sorry” when I’m in the wrong. I think apologizing is basically my way of telling him that I love him, I hate being wrong and I hate admitting that I’m wrong even more but I don’t want to lose him over some stupid argument so I swallow my pride and apologize…

[Juxtapose]

If the relationship is good you should be much more positive than you are negative. Constantly fighting is not good. I don't fight with people I am close to more than a few times a year while meanwhile I tell them I love them multiple times a day.

[smashleyy]

Probably “i love you”. A lot of people lack accountability😂

[Nikki1989]

I have never had to say sorry to anyone.

[dustybiker2]

Hopefully more declarations of love or that's just... sad.

[NathanDavis]

I'm hungry...

[Sevenpointfive]

hello? did you get hacked?

[OddBeMe]

Fuck off, post nut clarity Q. Lol

[provokeesmokee]

My partners and I say I love you way more often.