Do you think it is ever too late to say "I'm sorry"? Why or Why Not?

[LovingLoverReturned]

Inner child

To others... sure apologizing to yourself is alright, but specifically I mean to others.

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Yeah to clarify, I didn't mean trying to get forgiveness, nor trying to convince the person to something... just if you or they simply apologize. Wouldn't it make you think: oh so the world does have remorseful people?

[Anonymous]

That’s a good question. I did something selfish and shitty during a trip to Las Vegas back in college. Instead of driving back with my friends (and help giving them a turn at taking a wheel) I used my flight then príveleges to fly straight home. I remember there being tension between all of us. I wanted to get away from them. But I left them to figure out the drive home by themselves. This was over 15 years ago.

I still hung out with two a few times afterwards. But I noticed a change in their behavior. Then one time friend completely cut me out.

I was younger, dumber and much more selfish back then. However I felt increasingly guilty about that years following. If I had a chance to chat with him ever again I would let him know that was shitty. Apologize.

The truth is I have some old wounds from what people did to me. Most specifically from exes. One ex in particular did something extremely over the top, unexpected and nasty to me a few weeks after the break up. I now know she hangs out with a far left woke crowd that hates men (she wasn’t friends with those kinds of people when we dated). So she is in an environment where she is being told her shitty behavior is justified. Still though an apology from her about she said and did would go a very long way with me. I don’t think she is even remotely realized how much damage she did. But again I doubt I will get it.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Thanks for sharing. You have real experiences. And pride is funny (strange) thing... I think in some cases an apology can be comforting.

[Smoothing]

It is never too late to say "I am sorry". It does not matter whether you the person you say it to forgives you or not. As long as it is sincere, at some point, the person will realise how sorry you are and it may make them feel better even in your absence. For you personally, it is also good because when you say it, it is the beginning of self forgiveness.

Do not listen to any body who holds a grudge that might tell you it's too late. Their bitterness is an obstacle to healing and growth. As humans we are in this world to grow. Growth involves experiences of all kind. Good or bad. And getting past getting past doing bad deeds and learning and also doing good deeds are stages in growth.

Never allow yourself to be filled with bitterness otherwise your growth get stagnat.

[DizzyDesii]

Yes if you dont say it and mean it right then and there then you sure as hell dont mean it later on when you’ve had time to think it through and practice a manipulative speech to slide your way back into their good side

[MrPickles13]

I think it's not to late to apologise for something however I do think that the longer before that happens the more damage to the relationship so if you wait to long it can cost you.

[MrPickles13]

I guess overall it can just bring peace of mind and maybe heal some of the damage there actions did but it doesn't mean that you'd ever talk to them again or anything like that. If that makes sense.

[MrPickles13]

I guess I would consider them being remoseful but I'd also wonder if it is remose and not something else that made them choose to apologise. As if it's been a long time it would seem odd for them to apologise.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Unless circumstances... like you moved away or something

[MrPickles13]

That's true yeah, I should have thought of that.

[LovingLoverReturned]

🙃 it's fine

[Andres77]

It's never too late to do the right thing.
If I screwed up and come across the person I offended years later I'll say I'm sorry for whatever I did.
Mostly it's appreciated.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Saying sorry too late can just make the issue worse like scratching the healing wound sometimes ita just better to accept and move forward

[RealMarek]

It’s too late after the person owed the apology dies.

[loveslongnails]

Yes, there's a point where "sorry" means nothing. Most of the time, even if it's timely, it doesn't mean all that much.

[Hanrej]

It's never too late. Depends on weather or not you're hoping for a particular outcome.

[roy_ricky09]

I hate that word sorry. Everything that we do, we do it knowingly.

[baserunner611]

? More information needed

[LovingLoverReturned]

It's a general question

[baserunner611]

Okay, in general, what did you do? Or don't? ? In what setting in your world.
Be sorry for something of past experience and present experience of someone's life

[baserunner611]

Why not or why is your opinion of the situation

[baserunner611]

Or. my mother, the medical doctor 🏥 all way say each floor in the hospital 🏥 is in their own little world

[LovingLoverReturned]

In my opinion is it is never too late. I currently have nobody I genuinely want or feel the need to apologize to. If I did a serious offense and was not given the "chance" to apologize but I was later able to, and it won't make the situation worse, then I'd do it.

Some victims want to know... maybe it satisfies satisfies to know the criminal suffered from guilt... they may ask.. or maybe they wonder if an ex hated them so much or never felt bad for what they did (... others who are grudging may not want to hear.

[baserunner611]

You being the big person or adult in the room

[LovingLoverReturned]

Some things should not be apologized for... it makes no sense... but if something can be apologized for then it is never too late. ... reading the victim is necessary.

[baserunner611]

Beautiful said

[eagle1951]

yeah i believe can be to late

[NathanDavis]

I'm sorry...