Is it worth it to date someone who always accuses you of cheating?

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Big-Joe · Accepted Answer

I have found that more often then not when a person is accusing you of something that is totally out of your character to do it is usually an attempt at a smoke screen to keep the focus off of them because that is exactly what they are doing. My usual response to this sort of thing is to ask why are they acusing me of it? Is that what you are doing so you accuse me out of fear it might be done to you? Usually the reaction they present next will clearly tell you if they are or have cheated or if they're just stupidly insecure. Either way you end up knowing the truth, but bottom line is whether they are cheating or are just that insecure things never get better with time they only gain momentum which means if you have a good guy then with time he will become a better guy, but bad feelings, like insecurities, and bad behavior, like cheating or verbal abuse, they only ever get worse over time so it would be better for you, if you haven't already become emotionally invested, to move on and find someone else. And if the guy asks why you left be honest and say his insecurities make him too immature for you or his lack of fidelity makes him not good enough to be with you. If you do that it should influence him to better himself to spite you but regardless of his reasons for the change at least he changed for the better and you helped to stop him from victimizing another girl with his bad behavior.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Nooooo not even... Why would anybody want to be in a relationship like that..

It either means that they're so totally insecure are they are the ones that are cheating..

What are the best parts about being in a relationship is that you have each other's back that you trust and you respect each other to the extent that you know that they're not cheating or they would not do that to you and you walk around with that confidence each and every day...

And. For me each and every day that I wake up why would I want to hear something like that when first of all it would not be true and the more times I would hear it the more times I would just want to walk away.

Life is just too short to go through something like that and if your partner does not trust or respect you then there's no reason to even be with him. Or them

1073sucks · Accepted Answer

wether you are or aren’t, If you’re giving motives for people to think you’re cheating or to doubt you, then it’s your fault to put the person in that position because honestly nobody wants to feel that, but sometimes there’s actual motives

However if you’re not giving any motives and a person is constantly accusing you, then that’s not good.

You either need to have a serious talk about this or end it.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

Of course not, he’s probably cheating himself and that’s why he keeps accusing you. On the off chance that he isn’t cheating, then he’s an incredibly insecure person who never healed and therefore, has the baggage from another woman and you are having to pay for her mistakes. That is never ok, especially if you don’t do that to him.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh honey, you've hit one of those red flags waving so furiously it could generate electricity. Dating someone who constantly accuses you of cheating isn't just about the lack of trust; it's a marathon in an emotional minefield. Love should feel like a cozy blanket, not a detective interrogation! If your heart races for reasons other than their sweet texts or cute gestures, it might be time to reconsider if this love story is worth the drama. Trust is the foundation of any great romance, and without it, you're building a castle on quicksand. My advice? Have an open chat about these accusations. If things don't change, you might want to find someone whose default setting isn't 'suspect'. Love's too short for constant trials, darling!

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

You are describing a partner who has a pathological jealousy. Constant unfounded accusations of cheating will make you miserable and ultimately end the relationship.

kylee2437 · Answer

I think it depends on many circumstances. Why you both trying to solve the issue, or is this person illogically accusing you all the time to the point where even going out with friends is an issue

V_Injector · Answer

No... and why put up with her shit? ... or his if you're a woman.

snowboarder720 · Answer

After a lot of thought, I’d say yes.

Honestly if they do this to you then they probably had to endure something that triggered them to be this way. Maybe their previous partner cheated on them, maybe their mom/dad cheated, etc.

There’s an underlying problem when people throw accusations like that. If they are willing to admit their problem of accusing you of cheating and showing effort to being better at not doing that while receiving therapy then yes. They absolutely deserve to be in your life. That is if they make you happy. That’s a small price to pay if you’ve found the love of your life and you have the patience to be with them while they overcome their own personal problems.

It’s just going to take patience.

HawkPerception · Answer

Nope. If you aren't giving them a reason to doubt you, then they are extremely immature and it's best to jump that ship asap.

However, if you're being shady like hiding your phone, not telling them when you're going out and who you're going out with and just overall not being communicative, then you're in the wrong and either need to change your ways or continue to be unsuccessful in relationships.

Open and honest communication is the solution to most issues in a relationship.

ManOnFire · Answer

Absolutely not. It means they don't respect you, and also means they are very likely a cheater. Most cheaters tend to worry that their partner is doing the same thing to them.

Anonymous · Answer

there's worse things to be accused of than cheating i. e. rape

that being said, if being accused of being a cheater is a big deal when it's false, then so is being accused of being a rapist when it's false

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Nope. What's the point of being in relationship if there is no trust?

Purpleronnie · Answer

Worth it? It depends on whether as a couple you could move past it. Is the end result a loving caring supportive relationship? Wouldn’t you owe it to yourself and them to try? There are generally always obstacles in telationships , the point is to try and overcome them

Skinhead-1979 · Answer

I've been one who has accused me of cheating for 10 years; it got worse after I had proposed to her.

So, no... it'll bring your self-perception down and it causes you to doubt yourself... which will eventually affect your mental health.

In the end my ex is the cheater and not me; she cheated with me on her predecessor and she cheated with my successor on me.

avery58 · Answer

Nopeee. It's a very toxic relationship, if there isn't any trust then you're wasting your time on the wrong person whether you don't trust them or they don't trust you. It's just not healthy for either of you but especially not for the person that keeps getting accused without any real reason.

Meisdipa · Answer

I want you to think carefully and tell what you think.

bolverk · Answer

Usually if someone you are dating constantly accuses you of cheating it will usually indicate that it is they who are cheating as cheaters automatically assume that because they cheat everyone else cheats, The best you can do is distance yourself from them.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Can be when they’re jealous, but they’re also often projecting - if you’re not cheating, they probably are, or have and hiding their guilt.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. I would end the relationship the first time it happened.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Sounds great for me. Not saying it is for you.  Reason why to me, is if she's insecure enough to think that about me then she probably ain't going to leave me.

HalalCabello · Answer

Yes because they are guilty of the cheating if they are accusing you lol. They are extremely insecure

firenine909 · Answer

No. If you like the person, you can work it out. But it would be something the average person would be annoyed about.

slatyb · Answer

Huge red flag. End it. He's a cheater and assumes everyone else is too.

shortster · Answer

Depends on the seriousness of the accusations. My ex would do it out of anxiety; which was clear to me. So I would reassure her of my commitment to her.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Of course not, because relationships are based on trust. I don't see any trust in that scenario ;)

elizamichale1 · Answer

Not at all coz u will end up in tears n fights all the times

strangeatcircleK · Answer

It's a tough place to be. I think boundaries and limits need to be set. There has to be a respect for your social circle and trust in the relationship

genericname85 · Answer

lol of course not. except if you are actually always cheating xD

worldscolide · Answer

Absolutely not, it's almost guaranteed that it's projection when they are accusing you.

pethouse · Answer

If they are accusing you of cheating it might be because they are cheating. Or they are super insecure. Ether way it’s not right for you.

handsomelad70 · Answer

No, because you always have to prove your faithfulness to the person.

In_Trance · Answer

It's never worth it to live by standards that cater to someone else's insecurities

soulsoother80 · Answer

I wouldn't do it. Just because when they're accusing the other person of doing something it's because they're doing it themselves.

Markella2003 · Answer

No basically their calling you loose. If they can’t trust me we don't need to be together.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Nope. Because they’re probably the ones doing it

DishLady · Answer

Nope.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No, not if you’re innocent

msc545 · Answer

Absolutely NOT worth it

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope not worth it at all

ProbablyClueless · Answer

No. Why on Earth would even want to?

exitseven · Answer

It would get old pretty quick.

clampfan101 · Answer

No because we need to trust each other.

Nifrayu · Answer

No. Definitely not.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Definitely not it's a headache and a ball ache 😕

strongandsexy · Answer

No. I've been there it's just chaos.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Obviously not lol

Julian7312 · Answer

Not to me.

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

TallBlondeJohn2 · Answer

Nope not worth it

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

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