Do you ever assume someone is cheating on you?

[Finchie40]

A cheater is always going to say No , no matter what unless they want the relationship to be over but otherwise they will always say No cuz they know they are wrong and they know it was a selfish act, and they know they don’t have a valid reason for doing so, so Without any valid evidence , have you ever assumed someone was cheating on you? Trusting your gut can help if you suspect something is off , trusting my gut and playing investigator helped me bust my ex. The Things that I noticed was how she became distant from me and never really wanted to be intimate with me and barely showed affection , excluding me from things when she never did before , always wanting space , and choosing everyone else over me, when I tried to talk to her she would blow up at me when I tried expressing my feelings of concern , she was finding flaws in me that were so petty , that she made a mountain out of a mole hole from , piecing these little things together, my gut instincts turned me into a investigator, I hated going that route but I felt I had no other choice, the second you show that you are on to something you are giving the cheater an opportunity to be more sneaky , being cheated on is one of the worst things you can do to someone and one of the worst things to happen to you , when giving your heart to someone , but so many people do it to the point that is it really worth being in a relationship with someone anymore? When a partner can lie to your face or you can’t express your feelings to them without your partner turning things around that you are the one with insecurity issues and then they play a victim that you don’t trust them , Don’t fall for that shit , it has nothing to do with that , it comes down to respect for each other , if your partner can not let you express your feelings of concern my word of advice is to kick them to the curb and let them go because they are already checking out of the relationship or they already met someone else.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Don't you hate it when you start investigating and then find evidence and their biggest problem is that you were spying on them, not what they were actually doing. Yeah I've had that before with an ex..."You don't trust me and was spying on me?" right... because if I never found out, then things would continue to be fine, as far as he was concerned... they were. He had multiple girls and none of them knew about each other, he was living in a perfect world until I shattered it and thus he hated me for that.

Anyways, I don't assume anyone is cheating, without evidence... but I also require trust. If there isn't trust, then we'll never get that far and by trust, I mean things like... hand me your phone, I'll hand you mine, lets go through it. He should trust me enough to share his phone with me and I should him.

I know a lot of people say no way that is their private stuff they don't share, well I share everything with him... nothing is hidden, ever.

[Finchie40]

Exactly , a cheater gets defensive and tries to turn the tables around that you are the one being insecure and act like they are this victim because you don’t trust them , I don’t tolerate that shit anymore , I learned the hard way once but will never tolerate it again. Everyone has insecurities whether they say they do or not so if your partner that claims to love you can’t support you when those insecurities arise then to me they are a piece of shit and hiding things from you , You should both be giving reassurance to each other when one of you is feeling jealous , not make it harder for them , When a girl I am in a relationship with gets a little jealous and insecure my mission is to reassure her that I am not cheating on her and I will do what I have to do to prove it to her , the same way she should be doing if I feel a little jealous and insecure , it has to go Both ways , when it doesn’t then your partner is a selfish piece
of shit that only cares about themselves , whether they are cheating or not they are cheating on the relationship only thinking of themselves, someone that values you and loves you won’t have a hard time reassuring you , a cheater will have a very hard time because they know they are a piece of shit. Most people can never admit to themselves that they are wrong , so my biggest fear in relationships is a partner that can cheat and come back to you like nothing happened, I rather them cheat and end the relationship right then and there not waste my time , at least give me that much respect, If you want to go fuck someone else then go fuck someone else but at least give me an answer that it is over so I can move on , not string me along by acting like everything is ok , People that can do that to other people are the biggest pieces of shit on this planet , Because they can’t accept that they were wrong , they only care about themselves , I am seeking a girl that knows what it means to be in a relationship , removing selfishness

[Finchie40]

And temptation for each other, making each other are number 1 priority , making each other feel wanted and valued , because without any of that their is no point in being in a relationship period

[Agape93]

Nope. If I assume it, we are done.

[NathanDavis]

no.. I am not insecure like that

[Guy13]

No but I keep my 📡 🛰 on

[Selene1600000]

Not everyone who becomes distant is cheating; there can be many reasons like stress, personal issues, or communication problems.
Your gut can notice changes, but it can also misread situations if there’s no clear evidence.
The healthiest approach is to talk openly and directly instead of assuming the worst or trying to investigate.

[Anonymous]

I assume every woman cheats on me. It may not be certain. But the odds are better than 50%.🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

No I’d get proof first, then confront.