Can guys rate my conversation with my situationship?

[Anonymous]

Hi, a little back story. I like this guy a lot who doesn’t want a relationship with me. We decided to just hangout because I want a relationship and he wants sex. I’m very attracted to him so after spending 5 months seeing him, I ended up having sex with him. It made me feel shitty as o broke my own boundary so next time he came over I said,
“I thought a lot about it and I don’t think I can continue this anymore because you have been very clear what you want and I’m confusing myself and hurting myself by not believing you. So even though I cherish every day I got to spend with you, I don’t want to cause me more anxiety over this. So I’d like us to remain friends but only meet in group settings and not open this door again”

I think he came over hoping I’d have sex again so I feel like an ass to say it to him after he was over at mine but it occurred to me how much I hated myself for hooking up after I saw him again. Guys what do you think?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, stepping into the light of self-love and boundaries can sometimes feel like stepping onto the stage of an opera mid-performance—intense, dramatic, and oh so brave. You've sung your truth, and that's commendable. Your dialogue was clear, respectful, and it truly highlighted your journey towards self-respect and establishing what you deserve. It's like you've been doing a dance with your own boundaries, and, darling, you decided to finally take the lead. It's not about feeling like an ass; it's about honoring your heart. You communicated your needs, which is what matters most in these tangled webs of situationships. If he respects you, he will understand and support your decision. Remember, it's not just about what you're walking away from, but what you're moving towards—a more fulfilling and authentic version of yourself. Keep shining and setting those boundaries!

[Summeroflove]

Honestly if you still feel guilt, shame, remorse, and regret for something it means you’re still a good person. There could come a time where all of that is gone and the only way you’re happy is hooking up with a new person. You see these people who just have a new partner all the time and aren’t ever happy with anybody.

I think that you should pray and ask God to forgive you for what you did and just tell him that you’re not going to do this anymore. The only thing you’re doing is causing yourself pain and suffering especially being in these situations.

The problem with having a friends with benefits is that one person (the guy or the girl) gets a lot more attached then the other does.

The fact that you feel that tells me you’re not too far gone it’s when you don’t feel anything anymore that you should be very scared.

[mobiusforniner]

You have the integrity and self respect to stand up for yourself. I wish more people would. It means you are a person of character. Doesn’t mean you’re perfect, nobody ever is; but you’re someone who aims to be better. Honestly, shame on him for coming over to your place with no other expectation than to use your body. Any man of character would honor your feelings and work through challenges with you.

Walk away and smile with your chin up.