I’m gonna try my best to describe this situation so both my and my boyfriend’s feelings/POV is not misunderstood. So basically before meeting me he had 2 other relationships in which he was horribly cheated on. I don’t blame him and it must’ve been horrible to go through that betrayal. I am a more social person than him I would say and I have a lot of friends and also enjoy meeting new people. He is a jealous guy ngl but he is not toxic about it. He was honest with me and said he tends to het jealous easily but he never says anything bad to me or tells me what to do if he feels a certain way. Mostly he stays quiet and I have to drag it out of him to confess something made him uncomfortable or jealous. He has established boundaries and so have I about things that make us uncomfortable when it comes to friendly relationships, and he has told me he doesn’t care if I talk to guys bc he trusts me and that he doesn’t mind unless I flirt with them obviously (which I don’t). We have said that we don’t like phone calls or long phone calls with the opposite sex friends and if they want to do that then maybe we give eachother a heads up, unless it’s someone we have a very close or old relationship with in which I don’t care if he lets me know or not same with him to me. However I tend to overthink a LOT and have diagnosed OCD, and EVERY time a guy friend whether close or not texts me I feel guilty and the urge to let him know that I am or was talking to this person. He has NEVER told me I must do this and has made it clear he trusts me but every time it happens I just feel like I must tell him to see if he is bothered or not. Its very draining bc then I start to “believe” he is a toxic/controlling boyfriend but he isn’t even the one telling me to do this, I am. It might be the interior thought of him thinking I might be cheating on him or something but I don't know. Opinions please.
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In general, talking to other people of the opposite sex while in a relationship can be a sensitive issue and it is important to assess your intentions and the consequences of your actions.
For one thing, talking to other guys while in a relationship can be harmless and just a way to socialize or maintain friendships.
However, it's important to make sure you're not sending mixed signals or flirting inappropriately, which could lead to doubt or jealousy in your partner.
On the other hand, if your conversations with other guys are more than just friendships and you have a romantic or sexual intent, this may be a sign that you are not satisfied with your current relationship or that you are looking for something more.
In this case, it would be important to reflect on your feelings and have an honest conversation with your partner about what is happening.
In short, talking to guys while you're in a relationship can be normal and healthy, as long as it's done respectfully and doesn't cross relationship boundaries.
If you feel that your conversations are causing problems or confusion in your relationship, it may be necessary to evaluate your actions and speak honestly with your partner.
Honestly as a guy, I tend to keep it pretty simple. If I'm in a relationship, no talking to other girls unless necessary. Easy
You lost me at talking to guys while in a relationship
Not talking like u are thinking. Its literally like answering a text to someone of the male gender even if its nothing. I feel like I have to report it no matter what
It's only a matter of time until you are talking the way I'm thinking. I don't think you boyfriend would disagree with me.