I said “I wuv you” to my boyfriend for the first time and he didn’t say it back. Should I say something?

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The other day, I was feeling really affectionate and said, "I wuv you" to my boyfriend for the first time. It was meant to be playful but also heartfelt. I thought it would be a cute moment between us. But when I said it, there was this awkward pause. He didn’t say it back. Instead, he just smiled and hugged me, but I could tell something was off. I tried to play it cool, acting like it didn’t bother me, but inside I was overthinking the whole thing. Does he not feel the same? What to do?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well maybe just maybe he started thinking that he picked up on Elmer fudd's sister and you were going to start talking with everything starting with w

Did his eyes roll around in his head like huh? What did she just say.. OMG this girl looks this hot.. but talks like. Elmer fudd... All his wedding fantasies all his dinner party fantasies all just went flashing in front of him...

no it can't be true lol. Not Ellie fudd. . And then she's going to invite her brother and her parents to the wedding and they're all going to talk like that

no ooooooo. What did I get myself into LOL.. .

No yeah I've been there before too it doesn't matter how you say it when a guy hears those words I love you it freaks him out.

About 500 million things start flashing through his head
And all he's thinking is but everything was going so good LOL.

Even the word commitment and responsibility. And houses and cars and insurance and babies and LOL you name it it's flashing before his eyes.

Some guys are just not ready to hear those words

but I do have to say at the same time.
Give the guy a jolt like that. . Because it's going to make him think what he really wants in life and in some cases it might just be a wake up call to him.

And if you can't handle it then you don't want to be with him anyway it's better to find out early then later if it's just a waste of your time

I mean he should have heard it in your voice that you were serious but you were joking around in your own way and he could have made it easier on you and said something smart ass with a W. But that probably just petrified him so

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And if you really want to terrify him just remind him you're not elmerfudd's sister you're . His cousin and start talking with W's I mean he has to laugh come on.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well if you can tell something is off then you’re probably sensing something inside that needs to be addressed. Maybe talk to him and tell him how you genuinely and honestly feel about him, as well as have him do the same thing. It’s very important to know where you stand with each other especially when it comes to love.

Even if the truth hurts it needs to be talked about just because he’s not in love with you now doesn't mean there won’t come a point where he is, or maybe he’s growing apart. If that’s the case it needs to be talked about now rather then later.

Don’t let things fester it needs to be a heart to heart honest conversation.

natured · Accepted Answer

Maybe he wanted to be the one to say it first, some Men function like that, or he just doesn't feel ready to say those words.. but I'm sure it will get there, give it time and don't repeat it, it will out pressure on him... pretend like nothing happened...
It's not really tragic, if he treats you good and spends quality time with you then you should not worry about anything.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would never say it in baby talk if I was being serious and wanted him to say it back.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving right into the love pond, eh? Sharing those three little words for the first time can feel like you're jumping off a cliff and hoping for a soft landing. Here's the scoop: your playful "I wuv you" was your heart doing a little dance and trying to nudge his heart into joining. His smile and hug? That could be him not knowing the right steps yet.

Don't let the silence after your love serenade turn your confidence sour. Communication is key in the dance of love, so maybe it's time to gently ask him how he felt when you said those words. Remember, everyone's timeline for falling head over heels is as unique as a fingerprint. He might just need a beat to catch up with his feelings or to find his own way to express them. Keep the chat light and breezy, like a love note sent on a summer breeze, and who knows? You might just hear a symphony in return. Let's keep the vibe positive and open-hearted! ❤️

godfatherfan · Answer

That is the risk you take saying it first. The other person is not always on the same page as you. That doesn't mean the relationship should end though. It just means he is not there. Too many women think saying "I love you" is the same as just a little punch in the arm and saying "hey, I did you man". No. I love you is a big thing. Sometimes you get there fast, other times it takes a while.
Best thing to do it talk it over. But if you are saying it just because you were feeling "cute" one day, and don't truly mean it to the bottom of your soul, then that is a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Ok first of all how long have you two been together? Second, something like this using the word “wuv” sounds like something a teenage girl would use. Third he probably isn’t to that point yet to where he feels the same. Nothing wrong w that. I always think it’s best to wait for the man to say that. I also think it’s best to wait for the man to ask a woman to marry him. I say this because I think I it takes men longer to realize their true feelings for a girl. Most women know right away how they feel about a man. I kind of think you were using the word “wuv” to play it off jokingly. Meaning you actually meant it but said it that way as a joke so he wouldn’t think you’re serious if things didn’t go the way you wanted it to.

Hsisjwbwbjsjd · Answer

In my opinion, open and honest communication is the most important thing in a relationship. I would talk to him, explain it to him in a non blaming way, that you're overthinking what happened and would like to know what he thinks. Be sure to tell him that it's ok to not want to say it yet.

RHK36 · Answer

You're 35, don't baby talk a serious moment. Low-key it's a red flag. It doesn't come across as a wholesome moment. It comes across immature and feels like you said it in baby talk because you couldn't say it normally.

If you want to know where he stands then tell him in your normal voice. If he brushes it off again then you have your answer and get a new boyfriend.

morganherrel · Answer

Guys, he might actually not love her at this point, which isn't that surprising.

Blunty, you two are pretty early in the dating process, so give it more time and invest in him. If he still doesn't fall for you, then maybe you're not the one for him.

noohair · Answer

Guys fear commitment. It is like losing freedom. I am not surprised. Since this was the first time for you, you probably put him into shock. He has to recalibrate the relationship. Give him a break on this one. But you should know that guys don't do the hint thing well. He did not hear wuv, he herd love. If you want him to know anything, speak slowly, use simple words and leave nothing to interpretation. Good luck.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

Maybe the word "wuv" threw him off.

He might have been wondering if you were slurring your words because you were having a stroke, or if this was a speech impediment he'd never noticed before, or if you'd suddenly acquired a learning disability.

Maybe try saying it again in a few weeks, with better pronunciation, and see how he reacts.

BetaBucks · Answer

He was probably weirded out by the "wuv" thing. I for sure would not have responded to that. If you said "love" I would either respond with the same (if I felt that way) or have a conversation about the topic.

jshm2 · Answer

That would have made me cringe as well. Say it properly, or don't say it at all.  You are aware furries and queers say "I wuv you" right? You probably creeped him out in the moment.

bowenw · Answer

It isn't something you should have to ask someone about. I suggest you give him some time to process it and say it back to you if that is how he feels. If he doesn't say it, he may simply not be into you the way you think he is.

Saggitariusdiva · Answer

he could have been confused.. if he loved you or not. give him time and talk to him about it

Nirmroth · Answer

Yes he doesn't feel the same (yet). Its Not a bad thing but proof that he is sincere. If he says it to you at some point you can be sure he means it.

chrissykerdock · Answer

stop giving him head until he says he loves you

itsannalee · Answer

Maybe he hasn’t ready to say it or he is still confused

JustinTheGreat · Answer

How long have you been together? He might not be ready to say it and there’s nothing wrong with that.

DrPepper12 · Answer

He heard you. Just let it go. If he's been burned in the past by exes I could understand his reluctance.

boggboss · Answer

More likely then not he just wasn't ready to say it back

Juxtapose · Answer

He's probably been burned a lot in the past and doesn't want to overcommit before it's safe in his eyes.

red324 · Answer

No, he's not required to say it back immediately. Give it time

LiamJHayden · Answer

People often move at different speeds. You already said your piece. The ball is in his court.

elaphe · Answer

He may not have understood you if you pronounced it like that.

Twalli · Answer

He probably found it extremely childish to say it like that.

TheCaller · Answer

Real men don't say I love you to others, that's very feminine

Anonymous · Answer

If you said I wuv you instead of I love you I wouldn't answer you either

avery58 · Answer

Maybe it was the way you said it

WhitneySnow · Answer

You guys need to have the talk

rienna888 · Answer

don’t ever say it again until he says it

seviyorummm · Answer

She may be bored with some of the things you do.

Walksbehindtherows · Answer

This is natural

I said “I wuv you” to my boyfriend for the first time and he didn’t say it back. Should I say something?

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