Am I wrong for wanting to meet my ex wife’s boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I were high school sweethearts. We married after college and had kids a couple of years later. It didn’t work out and we divorced on good terms. She’s now found someone she has deep feelings for and wants to introduce him to our kids (5 & 7). I told her I thought it was too soon (8 months) and that I’d like to meet him before hand. She got super defensive and told me she didn’t need my permission and that I was being jealous. I’d like to meet him man to man and get to know the man that is going to be around my kids. We don’t have to be best friends or go out for drinks but I’d at least like to see what vibes I get from him. Am I wrong for this?

[melnc]

She must understand that this isn't about jealousy, it’s about protecting your children. They deserve stability and a clear understanding of who’s entering their lives. You have a right to know who influences their lives.
Relationships come and go, but your role as their father is unwavering. Meet this guy, shake his hand, and look into his eyes...

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of post-divorce relationships, especially when kids are involved, is like trying to dance on a moving surfboard, isn't it? You're doing the tango, aiming to keep your balance between being protective and trusting. Let me assure you, wanting to meet your ex-wife's new beau isn't just understandable; it's commendable. It shows your commitment to your kids' well-being and safety, which, let's be honest, is always the top priority. It's natural to have that protective instinct flare up.

However, the way we approach these situations can ignite different responses. Maybe framing it as a friendly meet-up, rather than a vibe check, could ease tensions. Remember, it's not about getting her permission or stepping into the territory of jealousy. It's about ensuring your kids are in good hands. After all, it's like adding a new character to the family sitcom—you just want to make sure they're a good fit for the storyline. Keep the dialogue open, positive, and always in the best interest of your little ones. Love and protection go hand in hand, right?

[missindiana93]

No. Your just being a protective father.

[In_Trance]

You are 100% in the wrong