How can a woman say she loves you if she moves on so fast?

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TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

Here's the thing: People have a hard time facing their own pain, or anything that reminds them of it. For example, a man might love his wife with all his heart. But, she dies in a car accident. He's dating again within three months, not because he didn't love her, but because he can't take the void.

With a breakup, especially a nasty one, often people date right away because the breakup causes them to feel insecure about their own value. They can't just sit and contemplate what happened because it requires a) self-examination, b) personal responsibility, and c) processing complex and difficult emotions like guilt, anger, disappointment, sadness, denial, anxiety and so on. It's why we see revenge glow-ups and guys with eye candy on their arm right after break-ups.

It's why I encourage people to do therapy. Life is hard. Relationships hurt. Loss affects us. There's a reality that is ebbing and flowing in our lives unseen and unexpressed, and it affects us whether we choose to give it attention or not. But if we don't address it and face our own hurts honestly, we'll simply repeat our mistakes over and over again.

Just some thoughts on it...

quickquesocheese · Accepted Answer

loving someone doesn't mean that she can't love herself and move on with her life to see someone else. you can love someone and still let them go. I cared a lot about my ex boyfriend but in my life, i need to prioritise myself and not how someone else feels about me.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I can't speak for everyone, but I myself can do the same. I move on very quickly. If someone breaks up with me, it means they don't value me. I use that knowledge to get over them fast. Because why would you stay with someone if even love someone that doesn't value you?

I also fall pretty fast. I get lost in all the similarities between me and the girl I'm dating and envision what a future with her might look like.

So yes... it is very possible.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

That is evolutionary biology. It’s more recently than people want to admit that women were ENTIRELY dependent upon a man’s willingness and ability to provide for them and their lifestyle.
Most women can move on quickly because they are quite literally bred to do so, and have been for generations.
Get over it.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic scenario of love turning into a high-speed chase! It's like one day you're the sun in their sky, and the next, you're just another cloud passing by. When someone moves on quickly, it often feels like they're auditioning for the sequel of your romance without you. But here's the twist: people process and express their emotions differently. Sometimes, moving on fast is their way of coping, sort of like using a Band-Aid to cover a wound that’s still healing. It doesn’t negate the love they had; it's just their survival mechanism. Maybe they're trying to avoid facing the emotional tsunami by jumping onto another ship. Remember, the speed of moving on isn't always the measure of love. Love can be deep and true, yet some hearts mend by dancing away into the next chapter. Keep that chin up; the right storyline is out there for you!

Finchie40 · Answer

Because she only loved the convenience of you , but she truly was t in love with you , she just liked what she could receive from you until she found someone else that she though was better than you

jojouzumaki · Answer

She loves you but she has to do what’s best for her. I believe that women typically leave mentally before physically. Therefore you see her recover that quick.

If I may, I wish you take this time to contemplate about what’s works and doesn’t on that relationship. Use it as a tool in that case you’ll be a better version of YOU and ready for the next chapter of your life.

Good luck.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

A lot of what anxious-avoidant people like that perceive as love is actually an emotional trauma response. Where they experience a connection that they want, but they don't know how to process that connection in a healthy fashion, so they freak out and push it away to avoid getting hurt.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ll speak for myself. I’m just saying that often I deal with a lot of mess before I leave and it takes time for me to realize that the relationship wasn’t good for me, so I use my love for the person as a crutch to stay in the relationship. once I realize that it really isn’t good for me, I can move on and by then I realize that my feelings matter and that’s what makes it easy for me to move on

Hermitess · Answer

The same way men will tell a woman they love her when they never actually did. “Love” is just BS.

SugarSugarplum · Answer

Guys do that too. Think of it like you took the wrong exit off a freeway. There's no shame in getting back on.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I can shut it down pretty quick. If it didn't work out I can move on within a week. Doesn't mean there wasn't any love.

ManInChains · Answer

She doesn't actually love you if she's moving on that fast

Nikki1989 · Answer

The two are not connected. You can move on fast and still love someone.

Dongie · Answer

The first thing to remember about females is that they have very little if any conscious. They will split a heart into and think only of the power within their grasp.

msc545 · Answer

Very simply she can say anything she wants, but the fact that you ran out of money is the determining factor.

Agape93 · Answer

Because love doesn't mean you will stay. It just means you love em.

Account · Answer

People should start normalizing context.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

This is a fallacious argument. When people are done, they're done. That doesn't mean that they didn't love.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some people love the feeling not the individual, so the feeling can ben shifted to another.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Grieving the loss of anything is personal and unique.

ABC1x1x · Answer

How? They almost all suffer from personality disorders. I think the question should be why

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Women ate biologically incapable of love. They can't even love thier own children let alone you

Kelley1 · Answer

Women lie. Why would you think otherwise?

Malwi93 · Answer

She may but its not so deep rooted

Anonymous · Answer

Because the decision came long before the action.

In_Trance · Answer

Everybody moves on at a different pace

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