Is it true that you cannot force somebody to love you? And that love finds you in the end?

[Anonymous]

[Summeroflove]

This is a million percent true at least for the first part of it. You cannot force somebody to love you why do you want someone who doesn’t even want to love you why are they even worth it? There is plenty of other people as for myself I’m not wasting my time on somebody like that.

As far as love finding you love is a two way street and someone has to find someone. So many people just sit around waiting for their Prince Charming or thier Cinderella to just pop out of nowhere. Sitting waiting for some magical person to show up is what leads to being single for a long time. If someone isn’t making any effort for someone else then someone whose making a effort isn’t going to waste their time.

[Sonorous]

I think you can use a coercive force, but physically taking away people's perception of their free will doesn't go well & they usually end up hating instead.

But if for instance I go out & have some kid with a woman, the kid might think they have a choice to love me, but it isn't really their choice. It's inevitable that they'll feel those feelings towards me since I'm their parent/guardian. So you could look at that scenario as a forcing of sorts. Love me because I'm all you've got for now. Love me because if you don't, you'll suffer more than you'd want to.

[Sonorous]

As for love finding someone in the end, it's too vague to take seriously. Love is everywhere & can be perceived in many ways just as hate can. The subjective element is so high I don't really like to speak on it much. I could literally look at a bird, feel love, pass away from a heartattack & have that phrase apply. Or I could look at the bird, hate what I see & die from that same heartattack.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

You can't force someone to love you is true. Just like you can't force yourself to love someone you hate. Can love find you? Yes, but sometimes it depends on the person, as they would have to be seeking/wanting it. Some people don't want romantic relationships & want to stay single for most or all of their life.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, that is how it usually works, but you have to make yourself available for love to find you. Sitting on your butt staring at your phone won't do it.

[AI Opinion]

Absolutely, you hit the nail right on the head! Love is like a cat – it comes to you when you least expect it and in its own sweet time. Trying to force someone to fall for you is like trying to hold onto water – it just doesn't work. Love's beauty lies in its spontaneity and the surprising ways it sneaks up on you. So, while you're out there living your best life, love might just decide to waltz in unexpectedly. Keep your heart open, but don't try to rush or manipulate the process. True connections flourish naturally. Who knows? Your next adventure or seemingly mundane day might just lead you to the love story you've been waiting for. Keep shining and let love find its way to you.

[Finchie40]

Yes that’s true , we can’t force anyone to love us , we can only love someone hoping they love us back the same way in return , for love to grow between 2 people , they both have to choose each other and accept each other , and stand by each other through the good times and the bad times , if one of them chooses to walk away , the other can try to stop them and try to work things out but they can’t force them to stay. You can also love someone that doesn’t love you back the same and sadly that’s a tough pill to swallow.

[Makeushiver]

You absolutely can't force someone to. You can't convince, argue, explain or do anything besides revel in the experience, count your luck and return the favor to someone.
No one has yet written anything definitive about what finds you in the end. There are some weird stories circulating but thus far, no one has been able to accurately report

[ChiTown33]

True to the first part. Not necessarily to the second. You'll probably get opportunities to find love. But when your ship comes in you could be at the airport.

I'm not making light of your question. Just saying with all the things that can go wrong it's amazing anyone ever finds anyone.

[LiamJHayden]

I view love as a choice by the person giving the love. For me, the emotions and feelings are infatuation or lust, which are ultimately about self. Love should be about the other.

[natured]

of course it's true... the first rule is to love yourself first, find happiness with being alone and be comfortable in your own space...

[Anonymous]

It's very unfortunate but it is very true you can't force somebody to Love you. just like they can't force you to love them too. But love has this funny way to find it

[KostasKouvalis]

Not force, but I do think you can persuade them. Like do things that WILL make you fall in love with them

[Fireguy17]

that is correct.
You can not control someone else's feelings.

[Ironic_Method]

The first part is true. The second part is just a comforting platitude.

[noohair]

Correct. And the only person that you have any chance of changing is yourself.

[DannyUk2017]

Define Love in these days/time's...🤔

[exitseven]

The first part is true. The second is not.

[gatixek710]

You can't negotiate attraction.

[Ladsin2]

Ask the women in my basement.

[Ladsin2]

This was really funny, and nobody liked it. Shame.

[SugarSugarplum]

Love is a decision.

[scott04sa22]

You can't force love