Why do people say you need to love yourself to love someone else?

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You don’t need to love yourself to love someone else!! THAT CANNOT BE WRONG! BECAUSE WHY WOULD YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE? I hate myself and i can love someone else just fine!

StarWarGirl · Accepted Answer

"You don’t need to love yourself to love someone else!! I hate myself and i can love someone else just fine! "

Then your definition of "love" is very small. If for you the love means just the feelings you feel for someone in your heart the attachment only then yes definitely it can be possible. But is it really the full definition of love?

If you hate yourself, it is ok for you to put yourself in danger. You also feel like to kill yourself. It will be ok to get disrespected by others because you feel you are bad so you deserve it. You don't care about yourself, you don't protect yourself, you don't respect yourself.

And so whoever would be alone side you sharing their lives with you loving you would always be in pain so indirectly you are giving pain to the person whom you love and love means care also but giving them pain continuously isn't care they could never be happy. This was the scenario when your partner also loves you and is sharing life with you.

Now take another side when you are in love but they don't know your feelings they are totally unaware of that and just living their life. If the definition of "love" is just feeling in your heart. Then ofcourse you can. But if the definition of love is beyond then how are you going to protect them when you are hating yourself willing to put yourself in danger you want to die when you are disrespecting yourself and letting others disrespect you how can you protect them all of sudden when it's time?

Can you really do love anyone else hating yourself? Really?

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

If you don't love yourself you'll eventually project your insecurities in your partner.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

It’s more of a slogan but it’s pointing at something quite real in the psychology of interpersonal relationships

You see , how you treat yourself quietly sets the rules of how you treat , and let others treat you

So , consider that you cannot give , ie love , that you don’t practice on yourself. If you don’t offer yourself patience , kindness or respect it’s very hard for you to offer those to someone else !

Also , your self worth affects your attachment, not capacity for love. So as you say , whilst hating yourself , you can , as you say / shout , love others but your more likely through lack of self love become more of a people pleaser , clingy person , and seek fear based control.. I. e if I loose you I will loose myself 🥹. That’s not healthy love and a lot of panic and not putting yourself first

Just my understanding and experience , take it or leave it

qwerty2469 · Accepted Answer

Because it sounds nice. So does "all dogs go to heaven" neither are true.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Hey lovebird! 🕊️ Here to sprinkle a little wisdom! Loving yourself is like mastering the art of juggling hearts, including your own. It means you're secure, confident, and not relying on others to fill your emotional bucket. Sure, you can love someone else, but self-love ensures it's healthy and balanced, avoiding pitfalls like jealousy and dependency. Remember, you're a catch too, so don’t ignore YOU! 💖

Agape93 · Answer

No idea. I hate myself but love others just fine.

In_Trance · Answer

This is exactly why you're single

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