Should I tolerate sulking from men?

[SmileyLady]

My friends with benefits is sulking because I was too tired to sleep with him last night and go on a date with him. My guy friend is sulking because I was feeling too tired and sick to celebrate his birthday on the weekend; when I rescheduled with both of them and made it clear that they matter.

Sulking is one particular thing that really makes me feel angry and feel as though I start thinking the people doing it just aren’t worth the effort. I like and respect both of them; however, neither one of them have had really important roles in my life. Both of them seem to be entirely out for themselves. Should I just block both of them and be done with them?

[noohair]

It seems that you are applying the word friend when they are not your friends. They are a pair of self centered narcissist children. Friends care about each others welfare and this bullsh! t of trying to put guilt on you is crap. If there are friends, you don't need enemies. Send them packing back to mommy and tell them when they can act like men to call you. Good Luck with your child men.

[SmileyLady]

I got rid of them both last night, just blocked them.

[spartan55]

I'm sure you are never in a bad mood, right? I'm sure there are things that you do that they don't like too. So...

[SmileyLady]

I communicate like a Real adult, when I’m upset.

[spartan55]

That doesn't really have to do with my point.
Hard to imagine an friends with benefits would be only out for themselves...🙄

[SmileyLady]

I got your point and I see where you’re coming from. To me, sulking is almost a dealbreaker. That’s true 😊.

[spartan55]

That's great... pretty ridiculous though.

[SmileyLady]

Who, me, or then?

[spartan55]

You...

[SmileyLady]

Well, that’s your opinion and you’re entitled to it. But not on my time.

[spartan55]

Bad moods aren't allowed on your time.

[SmileyLady]

Sulking indicates a lack of respect. If they’d respected me, they’d have responded when I tried to discuss it with them. They persisted with acting passive aggressive and contemptuous, so I rightly blocked them. I respect everyone, but respect works both ways.

[SmileyLady]

Disrespect isn’t allowed on my time. There’s a difference between bad moods and contempt.

[spartan55]

Like I said I'm sure there are things you do that are irritating.

[spartan55]

Wow, everything has to be your way... what a rarity.

[SmileyLady]

Whatever.

[PeachyPie93]

The friend I can see him sulking because I assume he was expecting to hangout for his birthday and then got blown off so may have been alone on a special day.. A friends with benefits is no one important tho because most the time they are not actually friends they are just guys who you let fuck you..

[SmileyLady]

I had period pains that day and I was tired and out of money for the friends with benefits guy and I explained to both of them.

[SmileyLady]

The friend is someone I’ve only just met.

[PeachyPie93]

I personally don't see sulking as a big deal.. but its up to you if you think it is a big enough problem that you need to block them.

[KezHarris]

I hate it when men sulk too! It reeks of entitlement and selfishness. I’d set boundaries, not cut them off. Just make shorter replies and be more short with them.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating relationships can be like walking through a field of love mines! 😂 Sulking can definitely be a red flag, especially if it's becoming a pattern and you feel like they're not respecting your boundaries and feelings. You deserve partners who appreciate you, not just what you can do for them. If you've communicated openly, but they're still stuck in their sulky ways, you’re justified in reassessing their roles in your life. Remember, prioritizing your well-being isn't selfish; it's necessary! 🎉

[integrale77]

Sounds like they where acting on a presumption that it was a special time for them so they where expecting some "special" treatment. However they didn't factor in your not going to feel up for it all the time.

I roughly track my girlfriend's cycle to try and better understand when I can better understand her mood at any specific time. Some times I've felt better informed that her period is round the corner, and let's say she has made promises that couldn't be fulfilled.

[007kingifrit]

them? as in multiple? both sulking

aren't you a little old to have a friend with benefits? isn't it time for a serious relationship?

[SmileyLady]

That’s up to me to decide.

[DrPepper12]

No. COMMUNICATE to them your concerns. Tbh they sound like gaslighting selfish little boys but that's your decision.

[Squatting_Slav]

Damn that is really annoying, like you don't owe them anything

[jahaims]

What did you expect from guys that use you as a cum rag?

[msc545]

How did you dteremine they were "sulking" ?

[slatyb]

Yes, you should. Date an adult.

[Anonymous]

"Both of them seem to be entirely out for themselves."

Given your question here, the above statement is quite ironic.

[SmileyLady]

It’s never wrong to expect respect. If I don’t get it, they can beat it.

[Opinion Owner]

First of all, respect is a two way street, and it is earned, not just given.

You said neither one of them has had an important role in your life. I'm sure they've sensed that. Sounds to me like what you call heir sulking may not be any different than what you are doing here.

[SmileyLady]

Simply because I don’t ask ‘How high?’ Each time they tell me to jump? I disagree.

[Opinion Owner]

There is a world of difference between not asking how high, and blowing off his birthday.

[SmileyLady]

I had period cramps and was feeling sick and he thought I should go anyway. There’s something wrong with that.

[SmileyLady]

Also, my gifts weren’t good enough. He expected me to spend $50 that I don’t have, on his computer game.

[SmileyLady]

I had some perfectly nice mugs and sun catcher.

[eagle1951]

nooo

[Jmmmfi4]

THATS PRETTY SHITTY OF YOU

[SmileyLady]

Indeed, how dare I expect to be treated as an equal lol