Is it normal for men to cheat?

Question

I think it's normal for men to cheat. The fault here lies with the woman. If a man is cheating, there is a 100% chance that his wife is not enough for him. Or another woman seduced that man. do you think?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's normal for men to be tempted. We do have an innate desire to spread our seed.

We also have free will and most of us have self control.

The problem is that most women only care about, and only pursue, the top 10% of men (and I'm being generous - quite a few of these women only pursue the top 2%), and those men have had near-infinite options with women since puberty, and are used to getting whatever they want whenever they want it from women. And the women who chase them know this, but chase them anyway, many convincing themselves that they will be the one to change him - but such men never change.

These men are going to cheat - maybe not 100% of them but 99% of them. Still, these women would rather share a top 2% man than "settle" for even a 9/10. Given this, there should be no complaints when he cheats - it should be expected and accepted. It's literally who he is, and you can't change it.

Women could easily date men who wouldn't cheat, but they don't want those men. They aren't exciting enough (read: dangerous/chaotic enough), or don't look Instagram-inspirational in pictures, and for most modern women, that's far more important than loyalty or good morals. You just need to look at women's choices for proof of that.

And, I don't care which choices women make, I just want those women to take responsibility for the consequences of those decisions and stop blaming men - especially "all men" - for those predictable consequences.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It’s not normal , it’s only normal to selfish people that only think about themselves, if someone is unhappy in their marriage or relationship , you end it with them and move on , if you meet someone else while you are in a relationship , you end your relationship immediately because you already cheated, by investing your time into someone else , instead of investing your time into your partner , so they already cheated by doing so. Only selfish people go back to their partner like nothing happened , because they are weighing their options , if you have to weigh your options? than you truly don’t love and care about your partner , you just like the convenience of them , the only person you are fooling is yourself , because if you truly loved and cared about your partner, that other person wouldn’t even be in the picture period. Love only grows when 2 people choose each other and remove selfishness for each other and resist temptations for each other , if you can’t do that for your partner , you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them to begin with

Josey29 · Accepted Answer

Cheating isn't a right of passage for men. It's a ridiculous societal norm that gets men hall passes because, by nature, they're horn dogs. When in reality their just not being held accountable for lack of self-control.

"I cheated because my wife wasn't putting out" "That's okay, it wasn't your fault. Your wife isn't doing her duties" 🙄 BLAH BLAH BLAH

Please hold men accountable for their stupidity.

red-lipstick-girl · Accepted Answer

Aldatmak normal değildir. Bir erkeğe çok değer verirsin, onu seversin, güzel görünürsün ama Cheating is not normal. You value a man very much, you love him, you look beautiful, but if there is another woman inside him, no matter what you do, he will go and cheat. It is not normal, you are thinking very shallowly.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, my aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help navigate these tricky waters with love and laughter! 🌊 Cheating stems from personal choices and responsibilities, not the fault of a partner. Blaming a partner isn't healthy or fair. Open communication is key to resolving issues, and cheating isn't a solution, it's a red flag! Let's aim for honesty and fidelity, lovebirds. 🐦✨

AviatorTom · Answer

No, cheating is not normal. It does happen, but it's in the minority.

Attis4496 · Answer

Why do men cheat?

I wrote an article on QUORA on the subject.

In this post I will give you an overview of the cheating behavior of men from a Jungian Analytical Psychological point of view.

It's quite an extensive study with input from psychoanalysis, historical data and differences in cultures. You can access the study by the links:

and

The summary of the study is given below:

The driving force behind men's cheating behavior is the innate urge to roam, wander and stray, an urge that dates back to ancient matriarchies. It has nothing to do with love or lack of love.
Faithful husbands do exist, though. A faithful husband is a man who acquiesces to cultural restraints laid upon him by the patriarchal culture. It's as simple as that. It has nothing to do with love or lack of love.
Love and sex can greatly add to a relationship and make it very enjoyable. However, mutual understanding Is way more important than love for a healthy relationship. This holds especially true in long standing relationships.
If men would not revolt against their own unconscious feminine side (the Anima) and/or would be more inclined to think with their hearts, it would very much add to his ability to mutual understanding in a relationship (above).

imtiaz45 · Answer

While some people may believe that cheating is common among men, it is important to note that cheating is not "normal" behavior for either men or women. Infidelity can happen for various reasons—emotional dissatisfaction, relationship issues, or personal insecurities—but it is not inherent to any gender. Healthy relationships are built on trust, communication, and mutual respect. Cheating is a betrayal of that trust and can deeply hurt both partners.

It’s crucial to recognize that individuals make choices, and those who cheat do so by their own decisions, not because it’s "normal." Stereotyping men as more likely to cheat can undermine the value of accountability and meaningful relationships.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/0M7PGvDHMio

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

It depends on how you define "normal." Do you mean normal as in something that a lot of people do, regardless if it's a good or bad thing? Or normal as in something that's morally good?

If it's the first definition, yes, it's very normal. It's one of the most common "crimes" out there by far. Besides cheating theft, piracy, and selling drugs would be the next most common crimes. Unfortunately cheating is not considered illegal like theft, piracy, and selling drugs. It's morally wrong and manipulative but can't really be proven by law, and isn't considered illegal.

If it's the second definition? Nah, it's not normal. It's not morally good at all. It's one of the biggest things that cause a lot of drama and pain. A lot of people might avoid relationships altogether for this reason alone!

mstbooblover · Answer

The notion of cheating in the field of relationships depends largely on culture, and makes only sense in the frame of the human artificial set of laws.

A hetero man will in all logic be attracted to women, and being engaged does not make all other women disappear. Mind the same may be true for women with men. Sometimes circumstances just play tricks on people, and I'm not sure a man becoming very intimate with another girl means his wife isn't enough for him... You know, circumstances, pheromones, greed, desire, not to mention plainly falling in love... We are no robots !

To be honest, I never cheated on my wife during our 38 years of marriage, but that doesn't mean I would not have gladly indulged, and if I didn't, it was mainly because of the logically resulting problems and lies... I hate lies, distrust, and lack of confidence.

hahahmm · Answer

If a woman is not enough for a man then it means he is with the wrong woman or he isn't suited for relationships. I think the majority of men don't cheat and a few guys always cheat... regardless of the woman he's with.

It is true that some women can be lazy/ungrateful/push the guy away too tho.

Babygirl_S · Answer

This is very faulty way of thinking. It’s never a victim’s fault whatever happens to them. If he doesn’t like his wife’s physical appearance he shouldn’t have married her. If her appearance changes, he should be a real man a see beyond that. Sure a woman who is lazy should be told to get back in shape but cheating on a woman because of the natural ageing process or even weight gain is the man’s fault. Many cheaters also cheat on their prettier wives. It’s the cheater’s fault

worldscolide · Answer

I think cheating is a choice. There is always an option to not cheat. It's 100% the person who cheat's fault. If he wants to cheat he can break up and get with someone else. It's that simple. Cheaters are monsters. This applies to both genders. Cheaters are monsters, they exist without empathy, without a soul. They aren't human.

kellytheman · Answer

It’s common I think so but I don’t agree it’s 100% the woman fault for a man cheating. The man has a choice in the matter to choose to cheat or not cheat. True a woman might seduce a guy and become a home wrecker it her fault but he has to make sure it doesn’t get that far. If the girl he is with is not satisfying his needs he should talk to her

smashleyy · Answer

I had this same dumb ass mindset when I was 14…no it’s not normal. A man cheating rarely has anything to do with his partner and everything to do with how he feels about himself

Tarifa · Answer

No, it's never OK to cheat. It means there are things you are looking for outside of your relationship, be it affection, sex... you name it. Why would the fault ly with the woman exclusively?

slatyb · Answer

Men and women cheat at the same rate. This is pretty basic math unless you imagine that out of five men and women, one woman is cheating with all five men, while each of the men is only cheating with her.

ABC29 · Answer

I don't want to excuse cheating, but both men and women cheat when something is missing in the relationship. Men mostly have sex and women more the emotions. But that doesn't mean it's normal. For neither gender. Cheating is always a character flaw, unless it was established from the start that it would be an open relationship.

Dez_37_46 · Answer

Not normal, how would the other woman know? Not to mention he knows, and part of being a real man is honor and integrity. Cheating on a partner is unacceptable regardless.

Billlewis · Answer

Not nearly as normal as it is for women to engage in extracurricular sexual encounters, but that's how it should be.

MicahRaine · Answer

No it's not normal. And while yes the woman may haved played a part, she didn't force him to cheat. It's still 100% his own fault. I've never cheated and I hope and pray I never do.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I've been on this rock for 47 years and managed to never cheat despite the plentiful opportunities. It's not that hard.

Rachey1986 · Answer

Nope, not normal at all. If there is something wrong then have a conversations like adults.

HighValue · Answer

No, it isn't normal for anyone to cheat. Only low quality, immoral people cheat.

Cutegirl06 · Answer

It's not normal for anyone who has a conscience to cheat man or woman period!!

LazerBean · Answer

Just because you are a man that cheats does not make it normal

Bricealan · Answer

Many people cheat, and the reasons are as numerous as there are people that cheat

Anonymous · Answer

it's more normal for women to cheat and have society line up excuses for them just like society lining up excuses for Kamala Harris right now

Anonymous · Answer

If she chooses a cheater yes.  In reality about 60% of men cheat. But THESE are the men that MOST women are attracted to.😆 Probably not the answer you wanted to hear. But there it is.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

It's not normal. Some guys are good, others are scumbags. It's normal for scum to do that.

exitseven · Answer

No, it happens but I think it is much less than half.

Radiate143 · Answer

Is the pick me in the room with us... right now?

bowenw · Answer

From my observations most people don't cheat which translates to it not being the norm.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no way you’re really a girl. Or if you are, you’re the most naive and/or misogynistic girl I’ve ever met.

Kristenxoxo · Answer

It’s not normal, seems like it’s in there DNA to cheat

RedInnocent69 · Answer

I wouldn’t say, normal. But the desire is natural. You can’t overcome biology. I’m not convinced girls are much different.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's common, not normal for men to cheat. And the fault doesn't lie on the women. Some men just cheat on their women because they want to.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's normal only for dumb men. Unfortunately, lots of men are dumb, that's just statistics.  Men who would never cheat, can't get a girlfriend, cause most girls want "bad boys".

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's not normal. And most men never cheat. Statistics show younger women cheat more than men.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I think that is a poor excuse for disloyalty.

LiamS95 · Answer

It's very normal for Muslim men visiting America to cheat.

dean53AU · Answer

Nothing normal about cheating but it happens quite a lot with some men

andy530 · Answer

Honestly it’s kinda normal for men and women to cheat

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

u give me pick me girl energy, blaming women bc their man cheated is crazy💀

kaucky1 · Answer

But I got more than one Weiner say number count more appear anywhere on my vessal

Reijen · Answer

Wouldn't be surprised if the stats showed both liked cheating.

Jerre · Answer

I don’t think it is normal at all. A very small percentage of men cheat on their wives or SO.

pacifix · Answer

Errrrr I doubt this is the case lol. Men cheat for a range of different reasons, including because they think they can get away with it.

Anonymous · Answer

If the majority Males cannot Cheat, Then how would it be Normal?

Agape93 · Answer

Well this is an interesting pile of shit @Abbycado

Fireguy17 · Answer

no more so than women who cheat.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

No, is it normal for women to cheat?

Intheclouds00 · Answer

About as normal as women cheating.

clampfan101 · Answer

Absolutely not. Not every man is a cheater.

Iron_Man · Answer

No, it’s not normal. I don’t cheat

SlightlyMental · Answer

Selfish people do it.

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

For some maybe but not me

Account · Answer

Nice try, "bro".

Slim57 · Answer

It's not normal for anyone.

ClassicDropout · Answer

No. Its not normal

kareka · Answer

Easier to seduce right

eagle1951 · Answer

no more than women do

Anonymous · Answer

No, it is not normal.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

It’s normal. Scammer

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