Is friends to lovers a bad idea because it might end the friendship?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Exactly right I know a lot of girls and just about every single one of them when I met them and a week two weeks a month down the road I had to be honest with myself I really like them and I really want a relationship with them but how long will it last because I know down deep in my heart that it would probably never work you have to be honest with yourself so you have to think about I want to get laid or do I want to be friends because if you're going to go get laid like you said you're going to break up and that is the friendship if you're honest with yourself and say look I really like you I like to get in your pants but I like you as a friend and I want to keep you as a friend then that's what you do you remain friends you don't go into that other part but most of my close friends that's how it happened and I'm still just friends with them good friends

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

it will depend on many circumstances... and even then, might not go the same for everyone

I had a girlfriend in high-school... and I had second girlfriend in college, both of them were my friends first, we had our romance years, through these school years, and after that... we have remained great friends, for life

so, in our case.. it didn't end the friendship, it only made it stronger and more lasting as well

but like I say, they were other factors involved for this to happen, and to have happened that way

and I do think it would be a bit more challenging for that to happen today, as an adult

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

I mean, that's the risk you take if you decide to date a friend, and it goes bad. But that's just one of the negatives. If you both click and everything works out, then they could be the best romantic partner to have.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

No, you just need to be mature enough to know when it is not working so you can be back to being friends again. Been there, done that several times.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to help navigate the roller coaster of relationships! Friends to lovers can be tricky but oh-so-delicious if done right. 😏 It can lead to something beautiful, or it might end in one spectacular firework. The key is honesty. If you're both on the same page and communicate openly, it can work like a charm. But remember, love isn’t without its risks, and sometimes you've got to dive in and hope for a soft landing! 💥❤️ Good luck!

Finchie40 · Answer

Not necessarily, if you both are on the same page with things and you both choose each other and remove selfishness for each other. A relationship should consist of 2 people that are best friends with each other already , so becoming lovers should t be an issue if you both choose each other , relationships shouldn’t be hard , selfish people make them hard

AviatorTom · Answer

There is no simple answer... It might end the friendship but it might also lead to a long-term relationship.

Lliam · Answer

It's not a bad idea. Shouldn't lovers be friends, first and foremost?

If you become lovers, both should want it. Neither of you are taking advantage.
If that is the case, then you should be able to remain friends even if the romance doesn't work out.

Also, if a friendship turns into romance, it might wind up being a lifelong relationship, like you were meant to be together all along.

I don't believe in second guessing and creating negative scenarios in my head. Sometimes you just need to take a chance. Otherwise, opportunities for life-long happiness pass you by.

Zack-Bann · Answer

It’s a bad idea to befriend someone you’re clearly attracted to else this wouldn’t happen

It’s a very hollywood trope to care about preserving the friendship in this situation

The truth is if you like someone it’s never a bad idea to go for it
(Unless there’s moral or legal reasons why you must not, in which case don’t even become friends)

LiamJHayden · Answer

I know pretty much immediately if a woman is potential romance or definitely "friend." I've have had romantic partnerships fizzle, but we stayed friends because we liked each other as people. As for the opposite, no. I see friends more like the siblings I never had, and thus off limits.

Twalli · Answer

It's the opposite. It's the best way to get in a relationship. You want similar interests. Your friends have similar interests. You can hang out with them even if there's no romance at that time. All relationships that result from friendships typically last longer and are stronger than other ones.

ManInChains · Answer

It’s the preferable way to start a relationship. In my case I prefer not to have any female friends. They always want to do shit more than my own friends do and I don’t even like doing shit with my own friends

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

No its worth it, you could start your own little dynasty together. You’d make great parents if you are already friends. Thats what its all about.

paledreams · Answer

And it's almost as bad to me as like people who are second or third cousins lol 😆😂 because i feel like I've read somewhere friendship groups are often very very very distant cousins 😞

ThinkerShell · Answer

She was my friend, now my wife. Endlessly lovely. And yea it can go absolutely wrong in some cases also

osmanthus · Answer

Don't know how it could be... it's a mutual transition. It's only a problem if it isn't mutual.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No! You can always go back to being just friends. At least you can if he’s willing.

Anonymous · Answer

It very well may be a bad idea. I've had it happen more than once in my life and it ended in a loss of friendship.

But all romantic relationships are a role of the dice. Just because you were friends doesn't guarantee it won't work.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have a glamorous life. I'm tired of getting my glory piece by piece. I want my glory whole.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

No. Moving slow and steady is how to have a healthy relationship.

exitseven · Answer

I think that it is a possibility. However, No Guts , No Glory.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

if both have an interest then ask. but I prefer women have to ask for getting married if they are in friendship. when woman ask there is less chance for getting no as answer...

In_Trance · Answer

It will definitely end the friendship but the reality is by the time you're contemplating this the friendship is already ruined

Hoshi777 · Answer

I been in love with my best guy friend for almost 7 years but I always valued our friendship more than love. So, I think it depends on what you value more.. love or friendship.

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all. The friendship will change anyway. You may as well see if there's something bigger there.

SlightlyMental · Answer

Why can you not be lovers and still friends?

shortster · Answer

It is a bad idea because it usually doesn't end that way.

kaucky1 · Answer

No strings attached no need for conversation just sex

Jltakk · Answer

Honestly I prefer it. It's a strong platform to build a relationship on.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Because if it ruins the friendship then you were never really friends to begin with.

Loverea · Answer

It could never end the friendship if both were genuine

Giannishorny · Answer

Who needs a friendship?

Pterodon · Answer

Nope

MasterKS · Answer

Yes mostly!

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