Why can't people see the bad in their relationships?

Question

Are you that blind when someone treats you horribly.

SixFootSexy · Accepted Answer

People are desperate to be loved a lot of times, people get with what they are familiar with. So if they grew up in a certain type of home, say with a narcissist parent, they will seek that out in a partner. It's messed up, but human psychology is weird.

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

To them, at least for now, the good, or seeming good, outweighs the bad. It could also be a complete terror at being alone.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As your friendly relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some wisdom and a bit of humor! 😎 Relationships can be like rose-colored glasses – they make us see the good while missing the red flags. Emotional attachment can cloud judgment, and hope might keep us hanging on. It's a common human thing, really. Sometimes, it takes a while to spot the lovebombing before it's too late! My advice? Trust your gut, listen to your friends, and don't ignore the signs! 🌹👀

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they don’t want to believe it’s happening, they invested their heart and love into that person hoping they love them back the same , I stayed in a marriage with a girl that was bad for me because I thought love would save the day to eventually realize that love we once shared is gone , because things were amazing between us in the beginning of our relationship but as time went on it slowly got worse and worse to the point I had no other choice but to walk away when I realized I was being treated like a convenience, and no longer her priority , So I no longer stay with girls’ that treat me like a convenience , if I am not her priority , she won’t be mine

AviatorTom · Answer

Relationships include good and bad. Think of the words in the typical marriage vow.

People see bad in their relationships, but unless it is so bad to break the relationship, people tend to look past it, concentrating on the good positive things in the relationship. And that's the way it should be.

coachTanthony · Answer

They do see the bad they just ignore it because most people choose the love they think they deserve... good or bad.

Screenwriter · Answer

Good question.

When people are wearing their rose-colored glasses, in first rush-blush, they don't see the bad. Everything's coming up roses, as they say.

But after a fashion, meaning, as time goes by, some people get used to the "bad," and pass it off as everything's not perfect. OR, worse yet, they experienced same with former partners and they look for that "bad" in future ones and choose them.

Lastly, some people became used to being treated badly in their families of origin, and when a partner treats them the same, again, it is a familiar feeling that they mistakenly associated with "love". In addition, those who are mistreated think they deserve to be mistreated. They don't know anything else.

Usually, though, the older people get, the better they get at recognizing that something's wrong and the more they want to feel happy and good about themselves. They recognize something's wrong and they seek therapy and if they work at it, they can usually make progress and head to better lives.

Cripplingkingship · Answer

Because being in a abusive relationship for a long time, this will damage their self esteem and don't believe they get someone better.

Also low self esteem, can cause a lot of people to make lower valued decision based their confidence.

Low self esteem is the cause for most problems in relationships and in life.

Its like a girl was bullied in a school, and her mum took out of this school and put her into a new school. When became friends with these girls in the new school, she also started bullying this other girl. why? because she has low self esteem, which caused her to follow the pack mentality, and was scared to say no, and was scared if she did say no, she would get bullied again.

This is also why people join gangs, because of low esteem and low self worth. When they are part of a gang, they feel like are something rather than nothing on thier own.

SuckOnThisOpinion · Answer

Yes you are, people are so biased you would not believe it. Not only when it comes to love but any other areas of live, and the biases are intact to kinda protect your needs etc. So if you really love someone and you also feel a strong need to be loved, your brain is incredibly good at distorting negative information and having you focus on the good things you have. In a healthy, commited relationship this can really be amazing, but in an abusive relationship the opposite is obviously the case. Furthermore, if someone sucks ass (in the bad sense), they're usually brilliant at gaslighting you and making you feel guilty even when you're the victim. They also tend to isolate their partner etc, and additionally the maltreatment is introduced into the relationship slowly and gradually, so that you don't even really notice.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

People are blinded by love. It’s really easy to see the red flags when you’re viewing it from outside relationship. Because you’re thinking with logic and not emotion. But those in that relationship, tend to think with their heart more.

there's also other factors that go into it. Like if you live with your partner, ending things is beyond breaking up and moving on. It’s also worrying about finding a new place to live and figuring out how to financially support yourself. It’s more than just ending a relationship, it’s changing your life. So some people settle and stay with someone because they don’t have the privilege to start over.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

people hope that next time it will be better, that the person they love so much will see that they are hurt...

it happens if there is no communication... if they don't talk about quarrels, don't solve problems... both sides play like everything is fine, because, for different reasons, touching those topics is hard for them... one side would have to admit they are hurting others when other would have to admit, they've never defeated themselves...

MrOracle · Answer

Usually, they know that they are receiving more value than they are giving in the relationship, and they are afraid to lose the relationship and thus the benefits they are reaping from it. As such, they will ignore problems and red flags because to face them means to risk losing the relationship.

RageBabe · Answer

Love can cloud our vision. Have you not heard of the saying “rose coloured glasses” when we are in love we see everything wearing them and can be a little in denial about how great the relationship is.

SugarSugarplum · Answer

Like anything, relationships are a miasma of good and bad things. The object is to have a balance that tilts toward the good side.

There is no such thing as a relationship that has all blissful enjoyment and no strife or effort.

Nikki1989 · Answer

People cling to the hope that things will improve or that their partner will change. Denial can also prevent them from acknowledging the negative aspects of the relationship.

es20490446e · Answer

You see the person and their history. Hence if they have bad behavior you understand where they come from. But even then you shall always take into account your well being first.

hunterzoloman6555 · Answer

Cause some people would rather be in any relationship then be alone cause there's nothing more devastating to a human then being alone or worse yet being in a relationship then breaking up and remembering that connection and not having it

exitseven · Answer

Some people think that things will change. I used to laugh at people that did that. Then it happened to me. Now I sort of get it

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Because when you love someone, you compromise, so they're blinded by it.

SolitarySolace · Answer

They're too afraid and weak to remain single. They're brainwashed by society which keeps telling them you'll be miserable if you don't find someone.

Unit1 · Answer

Love is blind.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Some people are to engrossed in the moment and can't see the forest for the trees.

dragoblack · Answer

Same reason why they ignore the red flags at the beginning, they either choose not to ignore them, or just don't notice them

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's usually because they are use to it and they have experienced throughout their life.

msc545 · Answer

Nobody wants to admit they are putting up with this and they can't fix it short of leaving..

NathanDavis · Answer

it's called denial

MisterMystery · Answer

Love makes people blind.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Some people are blinded by love

jahaims · Answer

Most people lack introspection

Luopio27 · Answer

Love makes people blind!

AmeerX · Answer

Because people are afraid to start all over again.

Effie1998 · Answer

Cause their in love possibly don’t see it.

robocop666 · Answer

women do this worse than men

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