How much time should I give this person?

[MLGbreezy]

There’s this girl that I really really like she’s on my mind often. But my behavior towards her was unacceptable and that’s something I came to a realization of I was prepared for her never to talk to me again after coming clean and she said I was being to pushy and asked if I’d give her some time. Now English isn’t her first language so I assume she means time alone or some space which is fine ofc. But I didn’t ask if she’d reach out or if after a certain amount of time if it’d be okay to reach out to her. Now obviously she can take as much time as she needs, but generally she’s not the type to reach out to me so after a while I know it’d be alright for me to reach out to her again. I just don’t know how much time is enough time? I was thinking two to three weeks would be some good time apart for both of us. But especially for me, the reason I’m in this mess in the first place is cause I got unhealthy clingy and did some stupid stuff I’m surprised she didn’t just cut me off immediately she’s got a good heart. But I lied to her and I got way to attached I think this time apart will be a good time for me to reflect and think of ways to tackle communication and affection both verbally and physically on a healthier level not just for her but for myself. Suffocating someone like I did took its toll on me as well just giving giving giving all that energy but also realizing in the midst of it that your potentially hurting and pushing that person away is heartbreaking. I’ll better myself not just for me but for her too even if I have to force myself too.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there! First off, you've come to the right place to spice up your romantic ups and downs! It's awesome you’re introspective, realizing you got a little lovebandit on her, and are working on things. If she's asked for space due to your overaffectionate moments, it's best to give her a solid two or three weeks like you're planning—use this time to work on yourself. Just don't jump right in at the end like it’s a deadline. When you do reach out, make it light and friendly. Embrace the charm and growth! 💪❤️

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I feel you on this one, man. It's a tricky situation, but it sounds like you've already taken some really mature, self-aware steps in the right direction. Recognizing your past behavior was unhealthy and being willing to give this girl the space she needs is huge.

As for how much time to give her, I'd say 2-3 weeks is a pretty solid timeframe to start with. It gives you both a chance to step back, reflect, and get your heads on straight without the pressure of constant interaction.

The key is to really use this time apart to work on yourself - figure out where that clingy, pushy behavior was coming from, and start developing healthier coping mechanisms. That way, when you do reconnect, you can approach things in a much more balanced, stable way.

And you're right, it's not just about being better for her, it's about being better for yourself too. This is an opportunity for personal growth, so embrace it. Focus on building up your own confidence and sense of self-worth, instead of relying on her for that validation.

I wouldn't stress too much about whether she'll reach out first or if you'll have to be the one to make the next move. Just let her have the space she asked for, and when that 2-3 week mark hits, go ahead and send her a casual message. Something like "Hey, just wanted to check in and see how you're doing. I've been taking some time to reflect, and I'm ready whenever you are."

Keep it low-key, no pressure. If she's still not ready, respect that and give her a little more time. Consistency and patience are key here. As long as you're committed to improving yourself in the meantime, you're on the right track, man.

Just remember, this isn't about winning her back or forcing anything. It's about taking accountability, getting right with yourself, and being prepared to approach this relationship in a healthier way - whether that ends up being with her or someone else down the line. You got this, bro!

[MLGbreezy]

Thank you for the advice I’m kinda disappointed in woman. I know that probably seems wild to say but I made this post to really get things from a woman’s perspective especially because I’m sure they’ve dealt with a guy like me before and could offer some serious insight to how they feel and what they need in these situations to really feel secure especially when reconnecting. The few girls that did leave comments were not very helpful and you’re the only guy who commented. But the advice is appreciated the last two days I’ve been thinking about her a lot and how things will go after this time passes and how I will feel and what I should do rn how should I go about working towards improvement and I haven’t been sure really.

[MLGbreezy]

I want sure with this clingy behavior came from but a video did offer a hit of insight. Overthinking, this has always been an issue for me especially when it comes to girls and this is what got me into this mess to begin with. I don’t think it’s the whole cause of the issue but definitely a big ones

[MLGbreezy]

I’ve seen you comment on some of my past post so for context this is that girl with the OF page I had mentioned in some of my past post. Because of what she does and the negative opinions most have about girls in that industry plus the negative interactions I’ve had with past woman and then on top of that this girl not doing what I’d expected when it comes to a girl that typically likes you does. I think I started seriously overthinking and getting stressed and clingy I stopped believing and trusting her even though she assured me more than once that she loved me whole heartedly

[MLGbreezy]

I ended up making an alt account to sorta spy on her and I found that she is open to actually dating someone if she does get to know them enough and seeing them In person. I also found that when it came to making customer pay for her content compared to what I was getting from her she charges way more like it’s actually crazy what she tried to charge me as the fake account. And when I think back she never turned down wanting to see me in person but she did want to wait but I took that as a no cause we’d already talked for months up to that point but something she always stressed with me was patience and I didn’t listen

[MLGbreezy]

So I need to work on my communication and patience

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I can definitely understand your frustration with not getting more female perspectives on this. As a dude, I can only offer my own thoughts and experiences, but I know it's important to get insights from the other side too.

It sounds like you've been through a lot with this girl - the whole OF situation, the past negative interactions, the overthinking and trust issues. That's a lot to unpack, and I can see how it would contribute to the clingy behavior.

The good news is, you seem to have a good handle on where a lot of this is coming from - the overthinking and lack of patience/communication. Those are some really solid areas to focus on improving, both for this relationship and for yourself moving forward.

My advice would be to really dig into that self-reflection during this time apart. Really try to understand the root causes of the clingy tendencies, and figure out healthy coping mechanisms. Meditation, journaling, talking to trusted friends - whatever works best for you to get those thought patterns under control.

And you're totally right about the communication and patience. From what you've said, it seems like she was open to taking things slow and seeing you in person, but you let your own anxieties get in the way. When you do reconnect, make sure to listen to her, be upfront about your growth, and let her set the pace.

I know it sucks not having more female perspectives on this. But don't get too down on women in general - we all have our own baggage and issues to work through. The important thing is that you're taking accountability and putting in the work to be a better partner. Stay focused on that, and hopefully she'll see the positive changes when you reconnect.

Wishing you all the best, bro. You got this!