Lately I've been thinking that my boyfriend is ugly. Should I break up?

[Anonymous]

I don't know why but my boyfriend looks ugly lately. He doesn't care about himself and his clothes. I'm starting to feel shy about going out with him. What would you do in this situation?

[Simslover92]

Wow why would you immediately go to breaking up with someone over declining appearance? I'm sorry to say this but that seems very shallow. You should be honest with him and talk about it before going the break up route if you truly love and care about him. He's probably more than likely going through something and needs your support.

[Asker]

I mean, I don't know, if he's going through something, he's not sharing it with me.

[Simslover92]

Then you need to find out what's going on. Ask him and be completely honest with him on how you feel. I know it may be hard but if you care about him and his well-being then you would do that at least before opting out.

[coxoabean]

Kindly speak to him about it. Let him know in a nice way how you feel. But him some nice clothes you think would look good on him and gift them to him. Then when he wears them compliment him on his appearance, but also compliment him other times. He likely is either getting comfortable with you and therefore is letting go. So just let him know if it bothers you. Maybe have him do some fun things with you, like get a haircut together or skincare together.

[molonski2]

Split with him 100% , he is not taking care of himself , and if he can't do that , then he can't care for you , its not so much that he is ugly , its that he is not focused , and if a guy can dress well , get rid of him immediately.

Ugly sucker that he is...

[D_Bone_Steak]

Were you on birth control when you got with him and recently got off?

... possibly vice versa?

[AI Opinion]

Hey, love! It's quite natural to have ups and downs in attraction. Maybe he’s hit a lazy patch, or you’re just noticing things differently. Communication is key here. Chat with him about how you're feeling. Spice it up by planning something fun about dressing up together! 😉 If the vibes are still off, then maybe it’s time for some soul-searching. Remember, visual attraction is important, but emotional connection is the real magic! 💫

[brooker]

If you are starting to feel this way, it is a warning sign. Attraction is important in a relationship and if attraction is gone, it can also affect the emotional connection. Don't ignore your feelings in a relationship where you are not truly attracted or happy, it is not fair to either of you. Maybe it is time to reevaluate things and move on.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice, I really need to reevaluate my feelings.

[bongo]

If you’re feeling this way, it might just be a phase, but if it’s really bothering you, think about why. Is it just looks, or are there other issues in the relationship? Sometimes attraction changes, but what matters is if you still vibe emotionally. If it’s affecting your happiness, it might be time for a talk or rethink.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice, it's important to try to understand my feelings. Attraction can change, but the emotional connection is still important. If this is affecting me, it might really be necessary to have a conversation and evaluate the situation.

[Foxeyes]

You could first talk to him about it try to get him to put more effort into his looks maybe he’ll get it and invest more into looking good for you. If he doesn’t know how maybe you can help him

[Asker]

Yes, you are right actually, but how can I tell him this? Wouldn't it be offensive?

[Foxeyes]

It’s just the way you bring it I’d say you just have to tell him in a kind manner and that you would like him to pay more attention to his looks and compliment him when he does pay attention to it himself maybe that will motivate him

[CuriousMoonFox]

@Asker So you would rather break up than have a conversation that might make you feel uncomfortable because it might be offensive?

[Tomisworthless]

@CuriousMoonFox Bro your asking women to deal with confrontation to her its easy to break up than to work through something

[Foxeyes]

I think it’s more fair to first try and see if he can better handle it so she’s not put off by it , it’s far more easy to be like i have the ick we brake up

[MirandasHusband]

@foxeyes my daughter told me to talk with you. She told me you're friends.

[PeachyPie93]

How is it you just now realize he is ugly? Wouldn't he have always been ugly, just he dressed nice and took care of himself? I would suggest bringing it up and asking why he has changed or if something is wrong? But I have a feeling you don't even actually love this guy if dressing shitty or gaining weight would change your feelings and opinion of him. Its probably better if you just breakup so you both can find better matches.

[danielle872024]

I would not leave someone I care about over that if I felt like that I would ask about it and go from there whatever it might be I know it would hurt me if my love did that or even felt that. ( still couples do this anyways ) going by your headline should I break up.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Just to clarify: has he ALWAYS been ugly, or is this a recent development?

You say he doesn't care about himself or his clothes. Is this like a fashion issue, or a hygiene issue, or what?

If you're not attracted to him, you should probably break up with him regardless. It just seems odd that you suddenly discovered this about him.

[bornangel]

It’s natural for attraction to change over time, but if you’re questioning this, it’s important to think about your relationship as a whole. Do you still feel emotionally connected? Physical attraction can fluctuate, but a strong emotional bond is often more important. If you’re unhappy or feeling unfulfilled, it may be worth reevaluating where you stand. Communication is key.

[Asker]

I totally agree, physical attraction can change but emotional connection is much more important. Thank you for your advice, questioning my emotional connection and communicating openly may be the best step in this situation.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Well, my first impression would be that you're looking at a depressive phase? It's hard to tell with so few elements given, but if self-care as been going down abruptly then it hints me at depression

[David5668]

And I assume you perceive yourself to be free of blemish and flawless? "The pursuit of beauty is much more dangerous nonsense than the pursuit of truth or goodness because it affords a greater temptation to the ego."

[Flower7]

Yes, definitely break up if you’re feeling less attracted to him and feel embarrassed by him. He should be making more of an effort with his appearance.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think you should help him instead of breaking up. Good hygiene, skincare for men, good oral hygiene, and clothes can go a long way and make someone more attractive. Good self-care in general.

[rosemilk]

why not just talk to him about how you feel like he's not taking care of himself? he may be depressed.

[Asker]

if he's, he would told me

[rosemilk]

not necessarily

[Anonymous]

The goal is to grow old together and you're both gonna be ugly when you old. Do what you want. but you. gotta keep in mind the dating horror stories you hear are real. it's a lot harder now to find someone who cares about you and wants to commit.

[Countrygirl777]

Umm ya break up if he can't do proper hygiene I believe before u break up u should ask him just be honest. Ask him what wrong maybe he depressed maybe he got a lot on his mind I don't know. But ask him though. Have him tell u the truth

[Makeushiver]

That could be the result of familiarty b reeding contempt. Did his looks change or are you no longer interested in him?

[yourpalval]

Definitely break up with him, he can do better than you.

[CarolinaGirl5]

You attract what you are. If he's ugly so are you. Attractive people don't get with ugly people. ugly attracts ugly

[Emmytexrex]

Wait you didn't see this before you started dating him or

[Juxtapose]

You should dump him so he can stop wasting his time with you.

[Juxtapose]

You should talk to him about his behavior. I forgot you said he wasn't taking care of himself so he could be depressed but yeah my bad.

[Anonymous]

Help him take care of himself and dress better

[KrakenAttackin]

Hey Queen, you deserve a top man: Finance, trust fund, 6'5", blue eyes.

[Anonymous]

😂😂😂

[zombiewoof]

Are his looks the reason you date him, if so you are a shallow person

[Anonymous]

if you think that, then why did you start dating him in the first place?

[Asker]

It's been like this lately, when we first met everything was fine

[Opinion Owner]

But he still looked the same?

[DannyUk2017]

So you judging " a book by its cover" then...🤔

[MirandasHusband]

Don't break up with him. You got with him for a reason.

[Jmmmfi4]

SOME GIRLS MAKE ME FEEL SO GLAD TO BE SINGLE

[spartan55]

Wow, you are a shitty person.

[chocolatetwopointo]

how?

[slatyb]

Talk to him, or just end it.

[Staximus]

How shallow, you soulless beast

[stratford]

Feelings are more than skin deep.

[Graptemys79]

Maybe he is depressed.

[StevenMcGarrett]

You should break up with him then.

[jahaims]

Why date someone you don't love?

[Anonymous]

Yes, he deserves better.

[Anonymous]

How does he look

[jjj101010]

How long u been together?

[Danny_dan92]

Yes. End it