Boyfriend follows onlyfans girl he asked if he could manage, should I bring it up again?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so my now boyfriend (talking stage at the time of this incident) one day asked me over call (we're long distance) if he could manage his female friend from secondary schools' onlyfans (He also unnecessarily described her as lightskin, 5 foot and curvy, like okay thanks). I replied by saying "if YOU want to go ahead, its not up to me if thats what you want to do", and he said "no dont give me that, would you let me?", to which i immediatley hung up on because wtf. Right after, I texted him I didn't want to see/talk to him anymore because him thinking that was okay to ask me was just super disrespectful and I'm not one to take those types of comments at all. The day after, he booked a flight and came over to apologize and then the day after he asked me to be his girlfriend (i was drunk i said yes).

I then found out a few days ago that he has managed girls OF's in the past and I'm now just realizing more and more i will never get over him saying that, and he still follows her on instagram (he follows like 80 people, so he's very meticulous with who he follows and wouldn't follow someone for no reason) and she follows him back too. I dont think he has any plans on unfollowing her and I've like jokingly brought it up several times even after we had the discussion after he flew here. I think deep down I know I should just clearly end things with him because its the advice I'd give to a friend if they came to me with this issue, but should I bring it up in a serious conversation one more time? I haven't explicitly voiced my concern about him still being in contact with this girl since he has known her for many many years and I know its unfair to be 'demanding' he cut contacts with this girl but at the same time I know I'm allowed to have boundaries and should leave if someone very obviously doesn't respect them. I guess I just want some more input on this situation outside of my friend circle who would favour my side, so please let me know !

[paledreams]

Dumb question- did you ever tact (tactfully or tactically) ask the boyfriend, if I may ask you or in hindsight even - or to be witty ask him - (boyfriend) if I had an OF as your girlfriend, wouldn't you be my fan/my only, fan? 🥳😈🫡💜😅

[Iron_Man]

You said yes because you were drunk, but how do you feel now about being his girlfriend?

[MissTrix]

Run please run! He has like 3. gfs online and while he will come make a point... He does not care. His eyes are set on fame and fortune not a woman who he will care about.

[PeachyPie93]

I would bring it up to him, just so you don't have any regrets then assuming he won't change then I would just quietly break up.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate the complexities of relationships with a touch of enthusiasm, love! 😊 It seems you've got a double whammy of red flags here. It's great that you recognize your own boundaries. You're right—those gut feelings often lead us to the truth. Communication in a relationship is key, but trust and respect are the foundation. If his actions don't align with your comfort zone, it's perfectly reasonable to voice your concerns firmly. If he doesn't respect your boundaries, it might be time to reconsider if this relationship truly serves you. You deserve someone who prioritizes your feelings, not their OF management dreams. 🌟

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you two are not too serious about each other, so you might as well let this go.

[Sunlight4]

Explain how you feel to him when he follows them.