My boyfriend follows an OnlyFans girl?

[Anonymous]

Hey there. I've been in a relationship with him for 7 months. He just followed a girl from his new class, but never met irl. That girl sells her body for money on OnlyFans etc., probably in real life too, and also shares disgusting and nude photos on the account that he follows.

She lives in my boyfriend's city and just liked my boyfriend's every single photo. This is annoying af for me. I trust him so much, but do you think I have the right to tell him that I'm so uncomfortable?

Yes

No

[Woke51]

Sharing your feelings with your partner or people in general creates healthy relationships. It removes doubts and second thoughts.

You say that you trust him, yet you check who he follows, who likes what picture. Your attention is on other people's business, even if that person is close to you.

This girl does OnlyFans. What makes you think she sells her body IRL? You checked what kind of pictures she uploads. Again, your attention is on other people's business.

Trust is blind. You trust that they will not hurt you when you are not looking. If you are looking, you are not trusting.

Sure, talk to your boyfriend about it. But you got to put that attention, that energy on YOU. Get busy doing YOU.

[Asker]

Then my boyfriend can do anything bc i trust him? I find this just disrespectful. I have no doubts about him

[Woke51]

Yes, technically, he can do anything. You don't own him. It's up to you to work out boundaries and deal breakers.

You find it disrespectful that he followed his classmate on social media?

[Asker]

Of course not that. I also follow my classmates. I don't care about it. That women sells herself for money. And what do you mean by doing he can do? There're the ideal things to do in relationships and I can wait that. He can't do everything while he's in a relationship

[Anon266]

Every relationship is different. If he loves you and wants to be with you he will respect the boundaries you put out. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t care all that much & you shouldn’t want to be with someone like that.
Watching and trying to control the situation will only build resentment when it doesn’t turn out how you expect.
Let things happen. If they agree with you and your morals and you’re happy, keep going.
If the fact he followed her really bothers you and he won’t hear your feelings then dip. Feelings are always valid he should recognize that, doesn’t mean he has to agree BUT HE SHOULD VALIDATE AND SUPPORT YOU

[ShineDJJ]

Ok, so he's never met this woman, he's heterosexual, she posts nudes, and he follows her on social media. This all also happened while you two were together. This is sounding like bad news. I've never heard a story about anything like or similar to this going anywhere good. It would be best to confront him over this and either nip it in the bud, or ditch him. Just make sure to have friends/family waiting nearby for support in the case of the latter option.

[Asker]

I agree... but I trust him. He followed her bc she's in her class. What do you about that?

[Asker]

think*

[ShineDJJ]

While they are in the same class, they have never met. That's what first drew my suspicion.

[Asker]

They have remote lessons

[ShineDJJ]

Do they interact in the virtual classroom?

[Asker]

I don't know maybe. I have no doubt for him to do smth. I just find this disrespectful to follow a girl that sells herself for money... Do you think it is normal?

[ShineDJJ]

Personally, I wouldn't follow someone who posts that stuff if I was in a relationship, not even if we became friends. If I were you I'd tell him how it makes me feel and ask simply questions to find out if they personally know each other along with how and why these interactions such as her liking all his posts came about. Maybe even suggest that you three meet up. His reaction will tell the story. Denial, anger, excuses, omission, obfuscation, a lack of transparency, and/or of course flat out lying will be red flags.

[TruthBringer]

@rbnxyz The fact she is in his class makes it all worse. He isn't following some random E-girl who lives somewhere in the world (which is a MAJOR red flag all by itself), the girl is literally in his class. There is a reason why you're asking this question here because you know this isn't right.

[Paris13]

I could NEVER be with a Guy who Disrespected me. Tell Him to Stop or if he Refuses-----YOU QUIT. Walk away. xx

[Paris13]

Welcome to Gag Town and Best of Luck.
I don't Trust his Lust. Helllooo, LOOK at What you Wrote about this Bloke. Ugggggg. xx

[TruthBringer]

I agree. I'm quite ashamed that my generation and younger clearly don't know the meaning of being in a relationship. From what I can tell, this relationship is doomed. My girlfriend would never accept me paying some girl to see her nudes, and she has every reason not to be okay with it. Same applies if she happens to be paying or asking some dude to get nudes. If I were in this girl's shoes, I would have ended the relationship asap.

[Paris13]

@TruthBringer You are a Keeper!!! xxoo

[Asker]

@TruthBringer i never said he's using that website. His classmate is on OnlyFans and he follows him on instagram...

[Paris13]

... He just followed a girl from his new class but never met her. That girl sells her body... probably in real life...
Get HIM OFF!!! xx

[TruthBringer]

@rbnxyz If you think her being in his class is an excuse to follow her page where she shows her nudes, then I feel sorry for you.

[Agape93]

You can tell him of course, and to leave him. But that’s the extent of what you have the right to do.

[TruthBringer]

So he is paying some girl to see her naked. If that isn't considered cheating, then I'm from Venus. You have every right to be upset about this. Clearly your boy is more interested in seeing some other girl naked than your own. It wouldn't surprise me if he fantasizes about her when you two are having sex. This dude clearly isn't invested in your relationship as he should.

[Asker]

He doesn't use that website. It's his classmate and follows her on Instagram

[TruthBringer]

He follows a girl's profile where she shares her nudes. That is enough information. But by all means, if you want to remain willingly delusional, then no one is stopping you.

[Interstate]

He needs to be committed to YOU and not her. Not only do you reserve the right to say it makes you uncomfortable, but that also the fact that he is a member of that site does, too. It isn't cool that he would participate in that website while being with you simultaneously.

[Asker]

He isn't... he just followed her back on instagram

[Interstate]

If he was only following, it may have been just to be friendly and polite.

[boggboss]

So here is the thing u can't claim to trust him and think this is a problem as if u trusted him it wouldn't matter

[Asker]

But it is annoying

[Asker]

Then people can do everything if they trust each other?

[boggboss]

And I fully understand it let's be clear u are in your right to be bothered by this but if your only issue is being annoyed by it u can't really ask him to change

[boggboss]

To a certain degree as if u think he will do somthing or cheat clearly u don't trust him

[boggboss]

A example being I trust to leave my girlfriend at my house solo if I have a male friend there cos I know she wouldn't betray that trust

[Asker]

I have no doubt for him to do smth with her. It find it just disrespectful to follow a girl that sells herself for money

[Asker]

I find*

[boggboss]

So explain that to him

[genericname85]

of course you have the right to tell him that you are uncomfortable. you also have a right to leave him if he does it anyway. but what you have no right to is: demanding him to stop doing it. so those are your options. you can pick and choose.

[iseekpinetrees]

You can say w. e u want but he's ultimately just buying porn. Guys dont date girls like that usually. They aren't girlfriend material.

[NoLookingAtSoleil]

To tell him?
Most certainly.
To demand he does xyz - not really. Women never allow such demands (and it probably is better in general not to insist on things from others - but to mention it at least once, I believe you ought/have to)

[Wise4myage]

You need to let him know how you feel. If he's on that site, than he's probably paying for nudes.

[Asker]

Of course he doesn't. He just followed her bc she's in his class and still annoying for me. But if I ask him he would say... "Don't you trust me? You can't tell me what to do."

[Asker]

He followed on Instagram, he doesn't use the website.

[Wise4myage]

That's still sketchy.

[Asker]

But it's his classmate. I don't what to do

[Asker]

I don't know*, sorry

[Wise4myage]

Tell him how you feel.

[K-I-S-S]

Of course tell him, not only for that story but always communicate with your partner, but never nag.

[In_Trance]

How do you know this unless you're on Onlyfans also?

[Asker]

She shares it on her Instagram account.

[In_Trance]

Who shares their subscribers and followers on Instagram from another platform?

[Asker]

Herself and he follows her

[In_Trance]

I still don't understand how that's posted on Instagram. Nobody posts their followers on Instagram.

[Asker]

Look... she has an instagram account with a lot of link. OnlyFans is just one of them

[In_Trance]

So you went on Onlyfans specifically to look for your boyfriend is that correct?

[Twalli]

He also has the right to say she's just fap material for him.

[Zygum]

Yes, you tell him to stop intimacy with that prostitute girl, if quits her, then you continue, otherwise, you also auit

[_Troian_]

Well.. if your boyfriend finds his chance he gonna prone bone her, just saying.

[curiousbeing6169]

Ya you have go ahead and tell him

[Anonymous]

Yuck. You deserve better girl.