Ladies how would you react if you found out your boyfriend/husband was gay or bi?

[Snowbunnyalex]

Curious what your response would be if you found out your man was also into men, meaning he was bi.

would you be understanding and continue your relationship with him or would you end it immediately?

[BobbieBoy666]

If a woman discovered her boyfriend or husband was gay or bisexual, her reaction would likely be a complex mix of emotions including shock, hurt, confusion, betrayal, and depending on the individual and relationship dynamic, potentially even relief or acceptance, as coming to terms with someone's sexuality is a deeply personal process that varies greatly from person to person.
Potential reactions:
Confusion and disbelief:
Initially, many people might struggle to believe the information, needing time to process the implications and understand what it means for their relationship.
Feelings of betrayal:
A significant portion of people might feel deeply hurt and betrayed, especially if they felt their partner was not honest about their sexuality throughout the relationship.
Anger and resentment:
Some individuals might experience anger towards their partner for not being upfront about their sexuality, potentially leading to resentment.
Self-doubt and questioning:
Individuals might question their own role in the relationship or wonder if they did something to contribute to their partner's sexuality.
Grief and sadness:
The realization of a significant change in the relationship dynamic can lead to a sense of grief for the future that was once envisioned.
Acceptance and understanding:
Depending on the individual's personal views and openness to diversity, some people might be able to accept their partner's sexuality and work towards understanding it.

Important factors to consider:
Relationship quality:
A strong, supportive relationship built on open communication might lead to a more positive outcome compared to a relationship already facing challenges.
How the information was revealed:
If the partner openly communicated their sexuality, it might be easier to process than if it was discovered through deception or suspicion.
Personal beliefs and values:
Individual perspectives on sexuality can greatly impact how someone reacts to this news.

What to do if you discover your partner is gay or bisexual:
Open communication:
Have a calm and honest conversation with your partner to understand their feelings and intentions.
Seek support:
Talk to trusted friends, family members, or a therapist to process your emotions.
Consider individual needs:
Reflect on your own needs and desires to determine how you want to move forward in the relationship, whether that means seeking couples therapy or deciding to separate.

[Unit1]

Ahhh, women divorcing bisexual men. I figured that would happen. Why am I not surprised? mmm... sweet, sweet alimoney like honey.

Not much of "till death do us part". Frickle.

OK, Homosexual I understand but bisexual?

[Snowbunnyalex]

Seems unfair because a bisexual man is fully capable of being loving committed husband to a woman.

[Unit1]

I concur.
Women find the most trivial matters to file for a divorce. Perhaps we should too such as over their favorite food being sushi?

[Snowbunnyalex]

DM me

[PeachyPie93]

It's not just because the guy is bi.. the person also lied to get what they want from you.. it isn't fickle to not accept it.. that is a really bad thing to build a relationship on a lie. Plus holding a lie for multiple years, marrying you on false pretenses.. what if you have different values, morals, then that person is just wasting your time on something that was never meant to be..
What if you married a girl and she comes out to tell you she has been with 200 guys but when you started dating she told you 2? Will you forgive her or are you fickle? lol

[Unit1]

@PeachyPie93 On the contrary were the guy honest from the get go, you'd reject him. This is why men lie. They want relationships and/or marriages but they can't truly be themselves and be in one unless he's someone like the Tate brothers.

[Snowbunnyalex]

@PeachyPie93 @Unit1 I couldn’t have said it better myself. Girls think if a guy likes dick it automatically makes him less of a man or it means he won’t be attracted to women which just isn’t this truth in a lot of cases.

[PeachyPie93]

But that is why all people lie or hide things.. so that they don't get in trouble or rejected. That doesn't make lying acceptable.. but to go so far as to get married on a lie is where it crosses boundaries.
I get where you are coming from because yeah on a first date if a guy told me he was Bi, I probably wouldn't give him a chance, since we all are looking for that perfect person. Though if we started off as friends first and romantic feelings grew and I really, really liked the guy then certain things can be looked passed. It's all about how much someone likes and wants to invest in someone else, but lying is just gonna make the guy seem untrustworthy. Tho really if it was someone like me who isn't that open minded sexually would we really be compatible in the first place? Since the guy is more open shouldn't he be searching for an open, and promiscuous type of person for a partner anyways not one who doesn't want that kind of lifestyle? lol Like you might have a few less options but there are plenty of bi curious girls and girls who get around who would be down I am sure..

[Unit1]

@PeachyPie93 being Bisexual =/= being polygamous

[PeachyPie93]

He said himself he doesn't see himself being monogamous.. plus my aunt married a bi guy (he didn't tell her beforehand) then he was wanting to hookup with guys but stay married.. They are still married, but I don't know anymore about the situation.. But if you like both how can you choose only one, that is how most bi people are..

[Unit1]

@PeachyPie93 That's what we call monogamy. Like polygamy it has no correlation to being sexually attracted to both genders.
Your aunt had bad luck in her marriage. She married a cheater. Plain and simple.
I can tell you stories of cheating wives while their husbands are risking their very lives in ongoing wars but that would accomplish nothing.

[PeachyPie93]

LOL I know a few bi people and none of them are monogamous.. but maybe I am a bit biased from the few I have met.. Why do you care anyways? You don't even like woman except for the 2D type..

[Unit1]

"Why do you care anyways?"
Sounds like you want this dialog to end here and now. I'll comply.
Besides you're the one, that bumped in my post.

[PeachyPie93]

I was only trying to bug you a little because you are always putting down woman like we only marry for alimony and things like that, even though that isn't true for many.. but I'll leave you alone now.

[PeachyPie93]

Considering we would be married, I would assume I truly loved the guy at that point..
I don't know.. I would be absolutely pissed at him that he kept it a secret, if he is gay I would be getting a divorce and never speak to him again. If he was Bi I'm not sure because I probably could never fully trust him.. we would talk about things, has he cheated, does he still want men, and then go from there.. If he betrayed me in anyway or still wanted men we would be over and I would never speak to him again. If he was loyal it might be able to work out.. but I don't know because he kept a secret for so long and lied to me for what I would assume would be years to be married. Plus I would never be able to trust him to go on guys trips or to go fishing or camping with his friends alone.. So most likely it would end in a divorce..
You can't lie to people and then hope it will all work out..

[Snowbunnyalex]

This is a very reasonable approach. Kudos to you for being willing to communicate and try to work it out.

Not trusting him around his guy friends would obviously be a deal breaker though. I’m guessing you this means you also wouldn’t trust him around female friends either? If that’s the case he would be forced to having no friends at all which obviously isn’t reasonable.

Any relationship requires trust even when you know your partner is faced with temptation. I hope if you ever face this situation you could find some trust in the person you love, assuming they have given you reason to trust them.

[PeachyPie93]

Well yeah I guess if he never cheated on me and really loved me. And if I trusted his friends and they weren't Bi, then yeah it is possible it could easily workout especially because I am more forgiving and understanding of people I love. I just would hope something like that wouldn't happen lol

[emeraldsaphire]

nah, I'm bi too. So if he's into it. I'd say lets get another guy XDDDD

[Snowbunnyalex]

Now that’s what I like to hear lol finally someone who knows how to have fun!

[Snowbunnyalex]

Dm me

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some love and insights your way! Discovering your partner's sexual orientation can be surprising, but it's important to communicate openly and understand their feelings. If his bisexuality is an aspect of who he is and not a breach of trust like cheating, maybe you can continue exploring your connection. Remember, love isn't about a gender; it's about the person. Only red flags you should be on the lookout for are dishonesty or betrayal! 😊 Just keep communicating and see where your heart leads you! ❤️

[Snowbunnyalex]

Great take! Curious to see if the ladies agree with you on this one.

[Apple1996]

Id be 100% okay with that. If he's gay a lavender marriage would be amazing but him being bi is fine to

[Snowbunnyalex]

What is a lavender marriage

[Apple1996]

A gay and a straight marry for the benefits lol

[Finchie40]

If it’s something he didn’t address from the beginning of the relationship , then the wise thing for her to do is divorce him and leave him

[jennifer_bloom]

Just because I find you unattractive does not mean I'm gay or mentally ill.

[Snowbunnyalex]

I’m not sure I understand your response.

I’m asking if you we were in a relationship with a man who you obviously were attracted to, but down the road found out he was also attracted to men, would you stay with him or leave him?

[GOLDFISH_smile]

I knew he liked men when we met so it wasn't a big deal.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Would you be ok with him sleeping with other men?

Like every once in a while I just need some big dick in my life to rock my world lol is that too much to ask 🥲

[GOLDFISH_smile]

I wouldn't be okay with that no. If he wants a bigger dick he can buy me a strapon or something lol, but we are monogamous.

[SquishyBuns2628]

I'm bi, and my current boyfriend is pansexual and together we make a straight passing couple 🙃

When he first told me I was a bit shocked but got over it after a couple of months.

[asarjam]

Very complex and specific to each situation. Gay seems like a deal breaker. You cannot satisfy him in bed. Bi? I'm a hotwife, so I know you could give your partner situations which would satisfy him sexually if willing to go down that path.

[Kelley1]

I would file for divorce the following day or the same day if I had time and immediately start looking for another husband.

[EmmaMary]

It would simply be...Goodbye.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Even if he was the love of your life?

[EmmaMary]

I seem to remember answering your previous questions on this very subject.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Yes I’m asking again because it was extremely divisive last time I asked and I didn’t gain much clarity from the mixed responses. Hoping this time I can get a better understanding

[HelpfulWoman]

this dude won't shut the fuck up asking this.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women are pretty much all bisexual, but they despise bisexual men.

[Chloe1225]

I had gay boyfriend but I knew but he knew I’m also gay we were each other beard. So I had no issues.

[yvanvangoth]

So, the guy would be considered DL, which a lot of guys are now a days.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Typically when someone is referred to as DL it means they are gay but hiding it from their social circle. In this instance though I’m referring to a man who is not gay or straight but bisexual. I would guess many bisexual men are not open about their sexuality due to fear of judgement and being labeled as gay.

[Snowbunnyalex]

It sucks that most bi men are probably mislabeled and viewed as closet gay men, despite having an attraction to women also.

[yvanvangoth]

Well, society is harder on men, so there's that.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Touché lol

[yvanvangoth]

Why are you named snowbunnyalex? lol are you into white girls only?

[sage2021]

That would be the end of us!

[HelpfulWoman]

stop repeat asking creep! @_Maya_ @EmmaMary

[Jmmmfi4]

ID HOPE THEYD VOMIT

[CarolinaGirl5]

Dump/divorce

[KittygosMeoWW]

I was sad