My girlfriend and I have nothing in common to do together. Any advice?

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We don't have any common hobbies or interests and it feels like we're always looking for things we can both enjoy. Is this normal in a relationship or is there a problem? How do you deal with being so different from your partner?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Try doing things that you both never done before , find a hobby , or plan an adventure together. Go skydiving or bungee jumping , paragliding scuba diving , just giving ya some ideas , but find something you both never experienced before and do it together , Don’t talk to her about it , just plan it and surprise her , just give her enough time to prepare for it. Most females’ love spontaneous things as long as they have enough time to prepare for it and not last second drop of a hat things. So look up some couple getaways with some activities to do and plan it and surprise her with it. Don’t just make it about yourself , make sure you include her as well and think of things that she might enjoy as well.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

My wife and I are different people. We do done things together and many things apart.

You must have some things in common ir you wouldn't be together. Find those things, and do them together. And recognize that it's okay to do things on your own.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

People have different type of relationships, I have heard of this from a previous friend and her husband or even my sister with her boyfriend, and currently a friend and her man. I think you just gotta explore, try out, and figure what you both can enjoy together :)

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

How did you ever even get into a relationship with nothing in common?

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Bringing some love wisdom to the table! Let's dive right into that dynamic chemistry! 💥 Opposites can totally attract, my friend! Love doesn't always mean sharing hobbies; it’s about growing and learning together. Try exploring new activities you both haven't tried. You might discover a hidden passion or hilarious new hobby together! Trust me, navigating differences can make your connection even stronger. Embrace it! 🌟

Apple1996 · Answer

It's not that hard just take each other to do the activities you each like and share them. Me and my husband don't have any common interest but we constantly find things to do together

AnonAndrew · Answer

Everyone has those moments in a relationship, that's normal. I'm more concerned that it seems to be the norm for you guys.

In my experience, in most good relationships you do share at least some interests (doesn't have to be a lot), but you're also able to just sit at home and talk, or just watch a movie together or what have you, and enjoy each other's company that way.

If you feel like you have to do an entertaining activity almost every time you're together, then I think that'd be too much pressure.

chiquita · Answer

It’s not uncommon, but it can be a red flag if you're always struggling to connect. If you have no shared interests or hobbies, it could indicate deeper differences. It’s important to have things in common to build a strong connection, and constant effort might not always be enough.

lovely · Answer

That sounds frustrating. Having no shared interests can make things feel disconnected. If you’re always struggling to find common ground, it might be a sign of deeper incompatibility. You can try new activities together, but if nothing clicks, it’s worth asking if the relationship truly makes you happy.

hellno · Answer

It’s totally normal! You don’t have to share every hobby what matters is enjoying time together. Try exploring new activities as a couple or supporting each other’s interests. Sometimes, just having fun and learning from your differences makes the relationship even stronger!

Abbycado · Answer

That's not normal. Usually, when you get into a relationship, you have learned about the person and have common interests.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I don't think I could be in a relationship where we don't have anything in common. Did you at one time have things in common, but just not now? I think it is good that you are looking for things to do together that you can both enjoy.

rosemilk · Answer

why even be together then? did you two get together on looks alone? what was it that you liked about each other in order to get into a mutual relationship?

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Maybe write bucket lists and see if anything you want to do is like what she would want to do.. How are you dating if you have nothing in common? lol

Slim57 · Answer

You gotta have something, otherwise you would've never ended up together, honestly though, it's the same for me and my girlfriend and we're going on 3 years. Try to find new hobbies that you both have never tried or delve into their hobbies even if you might not fully enjoy them

RavVid · Answer

Try couple dancing. Most girls like it & doesn't cost much and you can make really dirty at home. Rhythm does something for girls and by extension for you.

Anonymous · Answer

Start a project together. Something neither of you know and both would like so its equal ie cooking classes together, project together (repairing or building something). You must have a common interest, you just dont know it yet.

lightbulb27 · Answer

No thats not good. But I've seen people stay married w little common interest… they hust spend a lpt of time apart!

stark04 · Answer

Do whatever she wants to do, just participate. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Unit1 · Answer

That's a bummer but not a relationship killer.

MrPiercedD · Answer

Find what do you have in common... maybe you both love sex and have same kinks, same really high sex drive?

If it's seriously have nothing in common (including sex wise) then I don't get it how and why you are together.

goodnightgrace · Answer

Sometimes at least you're both trying to find a common interest

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If you remove sexual attraction from the equation, 95% of women are boring AF. Once you recognize this it allows you to temper your expectations of women.

linka_pat307 · Answer

That is a lie because even watching TV together is doing something together 😄🤣

Dou1994 · Answer

I would say explore something together but it depends on both of you two.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

That’s sad. I would get a new girl friend. Common ground is very important

Landofifireandice · Answer

In a relationship the w whole point is to find someone that has. Similar intererests

EmmaMary · Answer

Just reiterating what @abbycado has posted.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Attend a Bible study.

KtownSlapps · Answer

Have more sex... duh!

exitseven · Answer

How is the sex?

RingOfFire · Answer

Less talk, more sex.

DtMe89 · Answer

Then why are you with her

Turkish_Red_Woman · Answer

Make separate lists and mark partners

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

Find one.

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