Have not heard from boyfriend in over 24 hours?

[Anonymous]

Here are some important information to know... my boyfriend (34M) and I (29F) have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now... we currently don't live together but see each other a few days each week and something that is very unique to our relationship is that when apart, we have not gone a single day without communicating with each other since the 1st day of our relationship. It is a streak that is extremely special to us and we have always placed a lot of value on "not breaking the streak" and making sure we communicate in some way every single day. In the past, my boyfriend and I have gotten into bad arguments where we would not text or call each other for most of the day but before we hit 24 hours of not talking, we always make sure to at least say something so the daily streak of communication isn't broken. There are some things that have happened during our relationship that my boyfriend has not been able to heal from so he will bring it up from time to time and spiral into overthinking, anxiousness, etc. Two days ago, my boyfriend randomly thought about something I did that hurt him in the past and completely spiraled out of control. He accused me of so many false things and started an argument for no reason (we were completely fine earlier that day and nothing triggered it). I tried to calm him down and asked him to stop but he would not stop sending me text after text of his anxious thoughts and verbally abusing me. I told him that if he would not stop, I would have to turn my phone off since I did not deserve that treatment from him. I ended up turning my phone off. Since yesterday, over 24 hours ago, I have not heard from him today. Our streak has been broken, after almost two years of talking daily. I'm unsure of what to think. I did nothing to trigger his emotional spiral and verbal abuse. It is also very unlike him to go completely silent on me... Do I consider us broken up?

[Finchie40]

From what it sounds like , you are best to consider you both broken up , look at it as he did you favor , I am not sure what you did to him in the past to upset him? Did you cheat , did you lie to him etc? , but whatever it is , he isn’t getting over it and is holding it against you. So whether you are right or wrong from your past mistakes , he is not accepting your apology. And holding it against you. so again whatever it is that you did , he is not letting go of, your past , so you are best just to move on and hopefully learn from that mistake of whatever it was , and take accountability for it , and try not to do it again if you ever decide to be in another relationship with someone. We can’t force someone to love us and to stay with us , all we can do is love and treat someone the same way we hope to be treated and loved in return. If they decide to walk away , let them go , he is clearly. not over what you did to him and sadly he is going to constantly hold it against you. Even if he decides to work things out with you , that’s up to him if he wants to to do that with you , if not , oh well. Just accept that you both aren’t meant to be , people that hold onto to the past are people that are not good to be with in the present and future. So look at it like he did you a favor and move on and realize you deserve someone that stands by your side and chooses you the same way you choose them.

[OlderAndWiser]

"There are some things that have happened during our relationship that my boyfriend has not been able to heal from" Like. . . what kind of things?

[itsannalee]

Yes few months ago when he was abroad. We fought on the phone call and I didn’t reply his text.
But I noticed there is something wrong, because he didn’t text me since then. After over than 24h he didn’t reach me i called him 30 times and didn’t answer. I found out he was in the police station, coz fought.


Call him, he might be in trouble.

[Anonymous]

That's funny because we haven't heard from him either.

[AI Opinion]

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Ooof, sounds like you're in the midst of a ghosting meets red flag whirlwind! 🌪️ It's tough when such a precious streak gets snapped, especially in such a dramatic way. It's okay to give him a little space, but your well-being matters more than a daily chat. If his spiral caused verbal abuse, it's crucial to assess your relationship's health. A talk might help clarify things, but don't light up those flares just yet on the breakup front. Keep calm, prioritize your boundaries, and remember, communication should never be streaky with respect! 😘

[Staximus]

He hasn't got over whatever it is you did to him, and it sounds like he has major anxiety about it. There's no need for verbal abuse, he should just leave you if he feels that strongly about it. If you were fooling around with some other guy then he's not going to get over that.

[KrakenAttackin]

First take accountability. Learn the words "I'm sorry, I was wrong".

[Abbycado]

Why you anon? Is he here? 👀

[Staximus]

People are stupid, they will ask questions like "what is your favorite car?" or "do you like cats?" anonymously

[Abbycado]

Yup. Why I call it out.

[Staximus]

I think I'm going to start asking stupid anonymous questions too, you should join me

[Abbycado]

@Staximus I’m game

[Staximus]

It has begun

[Abbycado]

On my way.

[Abbycado]

Nailed it

[OfDeath]

Maybe you should turn your phone back on

[Asker]

Uh... my phone is back on. I'm using it right now.

[KrakenAttackin]

He's probably just finally tired of her shit.

[OfDeath]

Well, maybe KrakenAttackin is right and he is sick of your shit.

Perhaps apologise for your misgivings and see if you can bury the hatchet. Perhaps makeup sex or something might suffice.

[KrakenAttackin]

Yeah another woman who needs to learn the words "I'm sorry, I was wrong".