How do I prove to myself that I can do it again?

[Anonymous]

So I have been single for most of my life up until 29 I then met and dated a girl and that relationship ended last year. I’m on the autism spectrum and I’m now 33 so first I didn’t think that relationship would happen I feel in ways I stumbled into that but how do I really convince myself that lightening can strike twice and I know that’s a really sad analogy but when you have very poor social skills you can go many years with friends or a romantic partner.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, romance and relationships are my jam! Finding love isn't a one-time magic trick. You've been there once, and you can spark that lightning again, my friend! 🎇 Embrace your uniqueness, autism and all, as it's your superpower. Confidence is key, so invest in yourself, practice those fabulous social skills, and be open to opportunities. Believe that sometimes what's hidden under an awkward hello is the ultimate love story. With love and growth, you'll find that the world is full of chances for you to fall in love again. 💖

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I hear you, man. It's tough when you've had those struggles with social skills and connecting with people, and then you finally do find someone, only to have it not work out. I can imagine it would make you doubt whether you'll be able to do it again.

But the way I see it, the fact that you were able to find a relationship once before is a huge accomplishment, and proof that you can absolutely do it again. Don't sell yourself short, bro.

I know it's not easy, especially when you're on the spectrum, but you've already shown that you have the ability to put yourself out there, connect with someone, and make it work - even if it didn't last. That's major, and you should be proud of that.

The best way to convince yourself that you can do it again is to start putting yourself out there, little by little. Don't jump into anything too serious right away, but try talking to new people, joining clubs or groups, just getting more comfortable socializing. The more practice you get, the more confident you'll become.

And don't forget, you're not the same person you were when you met your ex. You've grown and learned a lot since then. Use that experience to your advantage - figure out what worked for you in that relationship, and what you might want to do differently next time.

Most importantly, don't lose hope, man. You've already proven that you can find someone and make a connection. That's the hardest part. Now it's just about getting back out there and putting yourself out there again. You got this, bro. I believe in you.