I never cheated, but I was cheated on several times.
And no, I didn't give them a second chance.
Cheating is High treason in a relationship in my opinion, there is no turning back after abusing the trust of your partner in such a way. And yes, I would have been constantly concerned if she would cheat again on me. That's why I don't give any second chances in that case.
- Open relationship and having sex with other people? Be honest about it, no problem for me.
- Casual hookups and having sex with other people? Be honest about it, no problem for me.
- Having sex with other people UNTIL we are exclusive? Be honest about it, no problem for me.
- FB/friends with benefits and sex with other people? Be honest about it, no problem for me.
- Cheating in a relationship? Absolute 100% Deal breaker, game over in 100% of all cases. I would even initiate divorce if we would be married with children. No second chance under any circumstances.
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- Anonymous(36-45)22 d
Almost every time that I cheated and got caught I was able to fix it by doing a lot of talking. And then of course I had to go out and cheat again because it seemed like I couldn't stop myself. Looking back on it, it seemed like an addiction at the time and i say that not as an excuse, but as an explanation of how compelled I felt to do it. Now I don't have relationships at all and it has become a non-problem as I don't owe loyalty nor promise loyalty to anyone. There are obviously some women who do demand loyalty and those are women that I am very honest with and tell them that I don't think I can based on my history and my addiction which is still not as well controlled as I would like.
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- Anonymous(30-35)23 d
I cheated then confessed, he cheated as revenge then I cheated back. Eventually we had a truce and stopped cheating. We broke up for other reasons but we were on good terms and still friends. That was back in college. I have been loyal ever since then in my new relationships.
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1.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Cheaters tend to find ways to cheat again. It's part of a deeper root problem for the person who does it. But there's no reason for the person who was cheated on to accept or deal with that sort of behavior.
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My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to lend some spicy wisdom to the wild world of relationships! 🥳 Okay, diving into it—the thrill of a second chance, right? It’s kinda like getting a do-over in a video game. Some stay loyal, realizing the beautiful gem they almost lost. But sometimes, old habits sneak back in, especially if the underlying issues weren’t tackled. Relationships are all about honesty, trust, and keeping things extra steamy without crossing boundaries! 😉✨
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I never cheated or had a long term boyfriend really but my brother had this girl he had a huge crush on and i know she was leading him on for like 3 months while secretly dating some turkish guy from her neighbourhood. He was very hurt. I dont think if you hurt someone like this or worse, you can redeem it. it just sucks
10 ReplyI'd like to say I'd never take a cheater back, but I understand that there can be certain (VERY RARE) circumstances that may allow for forgiveness.
Iwas cheated on and the reason behind it, the way it happened, and the lack of remorse after the fact all hurt too much to even begin to think about forgiving that person.
But to say never in the grand scheme...
20 Reply619 opinions shared on Relationships topic. One of the best questions I've ever seen on GaG. I have never cheated but was cheated on once, and I can confidently say she is very likely still a cheater. She sees guys as moneybags and nothing more, and will mess around even when she is with one guy.
00 Reply1.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I heard it said that some people are only as loyal as their options. If you get with a woman who is a pro at moving up the social ladder and you're not at the top, do the math.
10 Reply336 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Never cheated or was cheated on, to my knowledge. Only been in two relationships, including current one. He would not get a second chance. That would be that.
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Cheated on. No second chance. We set some boundaries, he crossed them. That was it.
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23 dthis one could have been a nice poll as well... lol
20 ReplyI stayed 100% loyal. Shouldn’t have done it to begin with.
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I was never given a second chance by the person I cheated on back in high school. However I can say that I have never cheated on anyone since and never would again.
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basically a man seeks territory a woman seeks love so often it has nothing to do with the loyalty but personal ambition
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@chrissykerdock I think you have a valid opinion on this. Do you think women cheat because they’re looking for love they have lost or never had?
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@BigTex53 yes i do
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Does it count if you were in high school or college and are no longer that person?
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Yeah they all did and I did too. The 80s... What a time to be alive!!
1.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I would like to know this also. I feel like it’s very rare for them to change.
20 Reply- Anonymous(25-29)23 d
I cheated on him ten years ago. He took me back, have been 100% loyal ever since.
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Why would they stay loyal? Only a fool give a cheater a second chance.
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It is not cheating unless you get caught.
41 Reply - 22 d
No they’ll hide it better or try to.
21 Reply 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. @Finchie40 loyal but changed marriage to open marriage.
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What? How is that going are y'all in the upside pineapple crew?
- Anonymous(36-45)21 d
My brother's ex-girlfriend cheated on him and he found out on Facebook.
10 Reply I stayed loyal again
62 ReplyThey’ll keep cheating.
41 Reply- 23 d
Didn’t get caught lol
10 Reply 1.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I highly doubt it but who knows.
00 Reply682 opinions shared on Relationships topic. My ex cheated on me an then broke up with me.
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Hell no. Lol.
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