Would you be okay if your partner remained close friends with his/her ex?

[creativewritings]

Is it acceptable?

[DishLady]

It depends on the ex. I'm close to a guy who is very popular with the ladies, though he does have "tunnel vision" when it comes to dating and he stays pretty faithful to the gal he's with. Having said this, everyone in his circle can see that this one gal has tried repeatedly to get her hooks into him, and while he refers to her as "just a friend" we are all able to see her blocking and ruining every single one of his relationships. So... if he was MY guy I'll tell you she'd have to be out of his life.

Also, I have a bunch of married guy friends who touch base with me "holidays only" because the fact is that they married insecure women. Where some gals are concerned, no matter how much prettier or smarter or more gifted they are than their guy's female friends, they might remain too insecure to allow him to have female friends. I was just talking to one of my favorite guy friends about this yesterday. He's officially getting married in 6 months and she's not letting him answer any messages or take any invites from anyone in our 30-year-long friends group. He complained to me about it, but I just gave him a sisterly pat on the back and told him it's normal... But y'all... HIS BRIDE looks like a movie star, is smart as a whip and EXTREMELY successful... yet when it comes to her guy she wants him all to herself... and literally calculates things like how long it takes for him to get from work back to their place. (OOOF.)

[Crazyced]

If your female friend was about to marry a guy that's not letting her answer any messages from anyone of a 30 yo friend group, would you pat her on the back and tell her it's normal?

[j_ortan]

@Crazyced you're right - this is a big red flag

[Anonymous]

Back then I would have no problem with it as I was also still friends with my ex. But my then boyfriend’s ex ended up crossing the boundaries and they ended up having an affair behind my back while still parading around as “just friends” in public. So no, I won’t ever be okay with this anymore. I also stopped being friends with my ex out of respect for my new relationship.

[Purpleronnie]

Hmmm close friends , I think that meaning can alter. Placing that aside though I only need to trust my partner , so whether it be an ex or a colleague at work or some random she met on a night out with her girlies that never changes and so the answer is generally yes !


A close friend to me those is quite an intimate relationship though so what that means to me doesn’t sit well regardless of trusting my lady , ex’s don’t generally stay close friends … not the way I do with my close friends

[AviatorTom]

Of course it's acceptable.

My wife's best friend is a woman who married a guy my wife used to date, and almost married. We are all good friends, though I sometimes feel left out when the three of them discuss old times.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for MHO

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, lovebirds! As a relationship coach, my aim here is to help you navigate through those tricky love waters. Now, let's talk about your partner being BFFs with their ex. This can be either a stroll in the park or a parade of red flags. It really boils down to trust and boundaries. If you're feeling a hint of jealousy tango or sniffing out some lovebombing, it might be good to chat about it with your partner. But if it feels right, why not channel those good vibes and keep dancing? 💃🕺 Just follow your instincts in love! 😉

[HawkPerception]

I think it's just better to cut ties and move on. A relationship with your ex can get in between your relationship between any future potential partners. The knowledge that someone that was physically intimate with you is still your friend is not something the majority of people are comfortable with, regardless of what they may say. If you truly care about your partner, it's best to cut ties and let the both of you move on.

[jennifer_bloom]

I 100% trust he will not choose to date her again and he is allowed to be nice to her cause she deserves respect and closure after having dated him for so long.

[RichA322]

Nope. Absolutely not.

Unless they have kids together and the need to see each other because of the kids, otherwise it's a big "No-No"

You can never guarantee that your partner might not catch feelings again/still have feelings or that the former ex partner is trying to get him/her back.

It's a big No-No, I my opinion. Been there done that. Never again. I have no interest in my ex'es trying to constantly ruin my relationships because they don't want to accept that I'm happy with someone else. Three times the same experience is enough. No more jealous ex in my vicinity. It's over, means: it's completely over.

[MemeSupreme]

depends...

like how do they act with each other?

how communicative is he with me about it?

does he treat me differently in front of her?

how long ago was it?

what boundaries are there?

[LiliTyaka]

Yes its fine for me, one of my exes became my best friend. But in the end it all depends on how close - close means if its just the friendship why not. But if there are other things Involved which goes over normal friendships then a huge no

[Cormac995]

I honestly wouldn't be comfortable with it. Friends is fine close friends no. If they're doing things like hanging out in private without you that's disrespectful and inappropriate.

[Nikki1989]

People should stay friends with those that they were once friends with. That is called being a nice, respectful human-being. We hang out and speak with exes all the time.

[Nikki1989]

The thing is, most people are not insecure within their relationships, as this thread will soon prove.

[hahahmm]

No. And in my experience, if you break this rule you will regret it later. Even if she's not cheating something shady is always going on.

[NathanDavis]

I am close friends with my ex.. and my girlfriends never had an issue with it, so... I know it's not a problem at all

[Miristheiss]

No.

That was a deal breaker. I would never have committed to my wife if that were here situation.

[slatyb]

Yes, it would. That would mean they had a working relationship but decided they wanted something different.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

If you had a kid with your ex and he’s not a murderer or worse than yeah, you absolutely should.

[DrPepper12]

Of course. Relationships change. Lovers can become friends and vice versa. Mature trustworthy people recognize this.

[nawtee_me]

Sure it is acceptable, I am still friends with my ex even after twenty years and both of us have moved on. Remaining friends is a choice and shouldn’t affect other relationships.

[Yannae]

That depends on her. But I trust her to not betray me.

[Nifrayu]

Of course. There's nothing wrong with that.

[Smegskull]

This would depend on who broke up with who and why.
Because I am not to ask about her past the answer has to default to no.

[princeofromance]

Yes, that is wonderful when two separated people can remain friends.

[Anonymous]

For me it's the opposite in love with Jill the asshole demi's friend

[AnonAndrew]

Yeah, I don't care either way.

[Flower7]

No, that is completely unacceptable.

[HungTexan]

It depends, but it’s fine sometimes.

[SleepingHazard]

That depends on the split altogether, I think.

[dudeinohio]

No. I definitely would not.

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope, it ain't acceptable at all!

[Kelly6]

@creativewritings yes i'm ok and accept it

[Anonymous]

I’d be confused by it.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

Sorry but they are exs for a reason.

[Jordan_Timothy_]

No…no.. and fuck no
Usually leads to cheating

[Agape93]

Yeap

[Phoenix98]

Honestly no.

[exitseven]

no, not really.

[NicholasRedone]

Hell new 😳☺️

[NicholasRedone]

*naw - dang I ruined my own witty

[blackeagle007]

N. O No

[jahaims]

Never healthy

[GlowUpGirly5]

No..

[12karen]

Nopeee

[JRDone]

No it's not okay

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No..

[KrakenAttackin]

Unacceptable.

[In_Trance]

No..

[Dukedennis]

Nahi dont

[Tryingsohard444]

No not ok.