Do men generally prefer 50/50 relationships?

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Do men generally prefer 50/50 relationships? Or traditional relationships where the man provides and the woman is a homemaker?

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well I hate to break the news to the narcissists of both sexes who live in a fantasy world that all relationships are supposed to be 50/50. Now, what roles each partner plays depends on the relationship there is a such thing as compatibility therefore some people are looking for different things.

Such as in a relationship where the woman stays home she should be working equally as hard in her role as a wife as well as a mother if they have kids as the man is at work. A man shouldn’t be working 70 hours a week to come home to a honey do list if he’s working a very mentally and physically taxing job.

The same goes for a relationship where both spouses are working but the woman’s expected to do everything around the house that’s not fair either.

So…. All relationships should be give and take. Unfortunately some people want control as where sone want a easy ride in life. Being a stay at home mom and a homemaker was more for middle class to wealthy families who could afford it. Contrary to what many people may think many women still worked some worked in factories, Secretary’s, as school teachers, among other things. Just not as many worked the glamorous jobs.

Before that in a time where there wasn’t washing machines. There wasn’t boxed dinners. The list goes on these women worked HARD especially women who lived on farms. If some people think doing laundry and doing dishes is exhausting (I get it’s not the most fun and plenty of stay at home moms and home makers do work extremely hard and don’t get enough credit) I don’t think they would last a day back in the day.

A lot of people have false and fantasy ideas on what a traditional relationship is really like both men as well as women which is why in practice they don’t usually work. Some do but many don’t especially if the man becomes hyper fouced on work and the woman on the kids loosing time for one another and not feeling appreciated by the other.

There is other things such as how these marriages can end disastrously but that’s for another question. Let’s just say prenuptial agreements are something both people should have in these marriages.

Shiprex · Accepted Answer

It's hard to define what 50/50 is within a relationship. Should it be the quantifiable "bring to the table" metrics of money, time together, chores, material items, resources, or more intangible items such as compassion, understanding, acquiescence, decision making, standards for the relationship and home, scheduling, organisation, commitment etc. that each will have their own metrics to match with.

Concepts like compatibility are also less easy to define and make choices around as one may be into things the other doesn't care about, is disgusted by, finds is acceptable etc.

So it's a difficult one that individually one cannot be assigned to preferring. Men and women have different needs within a relationship. Those can change with time and circumstances. What I can say is that men expect to be respected in a relationship as being able to solve problems for others, and not to be a burden on them with their own concerns. THAT is something the current pressure from women seems to be ignored that men DO NOT WANT TO BURDEN others with their problems because for time immemorial, men have dealt with things THEIR WAY not the way women deal with them through expressing and emoting to others but INTERNALLY. That works, men just deal with stuff themselves and sure there may come times when they want to "vent" and let it all out but history has shown that the way in which this happens isn't always to others liking. I say TOUGH IT out sweetheart, once it's out then it's done and everyone can move on. No need to ruminate and gtf with bringing that shit up again later. LEAVE it in the past because that toxic filing of instances of dislike that a lot of women do is wicked.

However, in general have a NEED for physical intimacy that gives them incentives for doing and going out of their way for their partners while for women they seek emotional availability and investment in their emotional state to feel the same. So it's a cycle for both to provide one to get the other.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Hey there, lovebird! 😉 In my experience at Girls Ask Guys, it's all about personal preference and what feels right for each couple. Some men find the 50/50 dynamic empowering and modern, while others appreciate the more traditional setup. Communication and understanding are key! Each relationship is unique, so find what suits you and your partner best. Keep it fun and spicy! 💃🕺💖

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

That is HIGHLY dependent on the guy in question. For me, 50/50 is absolutely the only way to go. But that's what a relationship looks like to me.

There definitely are guys (with whom my views about women differ entirely) who have the traditional home-maker expectation.

It depends on YOUR values. If you are into being a homemaker housewife... who am I to tell you that's not what would bring you the most happiness.

But it you believe in 50/50... then all that means is that you only want to consider guys who share that basic value with you.

This isn't a question that can be answered on behalf of "guys." There are two distinct camps when it comes to guys views about this.

Just make sure the guys you consider don't see it differently from you.

Being someone who believes in 50/50... as soon as I find out a woman believes in the more traditionalist model (wow am I ever working hard to be polite about guys who feel different from me about this) I know a woman isn't someone I want to even consider.

We just have different values. It couldn't work.

Birds of a feather...

🙂

Blunky · Answer

I used to think having a wife that did the money earning would be every man's dream. Until I met a coworker who did. Man that guy was so miserable. Kids didn't really listen to him and he had to work part time to pay for his own things anyway because women like that tend to hate couch potatoes. It was hard to take him seriously. Had another "friend" who said he needs his wife's masters degree to live. Ick. I'm too independent for that.

I'm retired so any ratio is fine 🤑, so long as it doesn't turn into a power dynamic. I find it's whichever one of us has more initiative at the time that happily puts in more effort. Who is on which side fluctuates so I don't like assigning specific roles.

hahahmm · Answer

I think the vast majority of guys are wired to be traditional with that which is why it's the norm for the vast majority of the world's population and has been for eons and eons. But it required both people to do certain traditional things.

Tons of women have decided they don't want to do inconvenient traditional things that were expected of women yet they still expect men to do inconvenient stuff for women. Nah, men have opted out UNLESS she is traditional and he's 1000% sure it's not just a short term act. So she has to earn it if she wants more than 50/50.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Mine is traditional. I make all the money and she looks after the house. It's so nice coming home to a house that's always clean, laundry always folded and a hot meal on the table. It's 50/50 of the work and we definitely make more money because I don't have to use my time looking after things around the house.

RingOfFire · Answer

I never bought into the belief that men and women were designed for the same roles in a family. It's clearly not true. Just their physical design is made for different purposes. I think that explains why most men want a woman who is feminine, fertile, and eager to perform the traditional role in a relationship and the family and most women prefer the same thing from men and their traditional roles.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

This is too generalized for anyone to answer for most men since you're asking this question for men in general. You'll notice different answers here which will not lead to anything generally sweeping doe men on avg. Generationally speaking men and women will have different expectations and norms. This basically means that some men do and some men don't prefer things to any question you could ask including this one.

dragoblack · Answer

Have you seen the USA economy? It isn't the 1950s where a guy can raise a family on a basic wage job. Hell, guys barely have a surviving wage job. Dating norms & traditions need to change, and doing 50/50 is the place to start.. fuck, it's normal in the rest of the world.

Anonymous · Answer

Are you a human being? Well than why would you think the expectations on you would be any less than the expectations on him?

Outside of that everyone is there own person, a mixed bag. Defined by thier upbringing and life experiences.

My advice to you? Always be prepared to give equally. That's good advice for anyone of either gender.

Anonymous · Answer

I support both. My marriage is "traditional" in the sense that I work and provide for our family, and she stays home with our daughter and takes care of the home. But I have no doubt she works just as hard as I do.

Being 50/50 doesn't have to mean both partners doing half of every task. It just means both giving it their all in the role they play.

CrisboOx · Answer

I tend to believe that men wouldn't mind being the primary providers in such cases. However, considering the nature of women these days, I can understand why they might start to prefer 50/50 relationships.

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ProbablyClueless · Answer

In an ideal world, most of us would prefer the traditional style relationships. The problem is that it's just not feasible for most people to do it.

RavVid · Answer

Somewhere between the two. Not really interested in 50/50 though I am always prepared to take input.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yes, in some way we do, and whatever way the man wants that 50/50.. Being a traditional home maker is still 50/50..

NewestOdium · Answer

No relationship is 50/50. Love is about choosing your person even when you really don't want to. It's sacrifice. And it gives life meaning.

LiamS95 · Answer

I think that can vary depending on what the woman wants, I don't mind either way as long as that's whst she wants and is happy with it

RedThread · Answer

I'm firmly against traditional relationship dynamics for myself.

blackeagle007 · Answer

I think both parties should go to work and take responsibility of the house. BOTH!

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Personally i prefer traditional roles and i support the HOUSEWIFE role 👍🏻

Fury_storm · Answer

when women entered the workforce they made it so that men weren't paid enough for traditional

Wader005s · Answer

I'd prefer traditional relationships. But considering the women of today, 50/50 sounds good.

sawno · Answer

I prefer traditional.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yeah 50/50 is best.

tzdc21 · Answer

Depends on the guy

DrPepper12 · Answer

Men of quality don't fear equality.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It really depends upon the couple.

billyboy197747 · Answer

I know I do but I can't speak for other guys.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

This man does.

nicfire171 · Answer

Traditional in my opinion

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer relationship with a dominant girl.

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