Do you believe in unconditional love?

Question

I do not believe in it. I think we all have our hidden limits.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

In the case of parents with little children, I think it exists. There has to be unconditional love between parents and young children because humans have a giant latency period and cannot emotionally or financially support themselves when very young.

But, the BIG BUT, is when children, or anyone else, are past the time when they cannot be independent emotionally or financially, and have reached a fairly clear adulthood, which varies somewhat person to person, love does become conditional.

You won't abandon your imprisoned son completely, but he's burned significant bridges in your relationship, hasn't he?

So, your future relationship is going to have conditions because it's between two adults. You can love your son, recognize he has flaws and that you can't help him with them. He has to institute the changes he needs to to succeed as an adult. You can support him, but protect yourself from emotional, and or financial, damage from your relationship with him.

These are ADULT-ADULT interactions/relationships. Abraham Maslow discusses this in A Psychology of Being.

But there is another issue. What if your adult child has an addiction or mental health problem; then you can't relate to them as a fully actualized adult, can you? You are still faced with having to give as much as you can, remembering you have to protect yourself emotionally and financially.

This holds true for a spouse with similar issues, or who suffers from PTSD and physically abuses you or others. There are limits to what you can do. Until a spouse or child recognizes their problem (s) and works on them independently in order to get to recovery, there is nothing more you can do.

Healthy love means you develop the ability to let go when you can do no more. AND be at peace with what you have done AND the letting go.

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

Love in relationships and marriages aren't unconditional and shouldn't be as it would be unhealthy. Unconditional would mean they can abuse you, cheat on you, steal your money or waste it all on drugs and you'll still be there because your love have no boundaries nor limits. That's literally what unconditional means; no conditions nor limits; that no matter what you would still love and speak to them.

Off course that wouldn't work out in a relationship or marriage. Being loyal and a reliable, life partner is already a condition. The closest thing to unconditional love would be the love of a parent towards his/her child. Other love have conditions.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I think you must have reasonable conditions on someone whose a romantic partner. There are some things such as abuse, such as cheating, such as doing something really bad, etc. That just shouldn’t be tolerated if you love someone you deserve to be loved back.

I will say that many people don’t honor their vows. The worst part is that many people aren’t honest about their true intentions if they are marrying someone just for the sake of getting married to have a family, getting married for financial reasons, due to pressure by family/friends/others, getting married for social status, for appearances, wanting a trophy wife, and the list goes on.

I do think if people truly love one another and are loyal if they have a genuine connection. They will stay together through financial issues, sickness, and the list goes on. People who think they got it all there is always someone who has it better. Someone better looking, someone with more money, someone stronger, someone whatever the case may be. So if someone’s with you because you’re their best option at that point rather them because they see you as someone they want to make a genuine connection with. You need to see through that because they will discard you soon as a better opportunity comes along

joehypo1 · Accepted Answer

My daughter could kill and I would still love her obviously I would not be cool with that i really dont know about other people and if you do not want to have kids i was in the same boat it was bound to happen though and from just having the one daughter I can say hands down girls are way more hardcore than boys and I also learned that I will never figure girls out so I just go with the flow. You gotta watch what you say next thing you know she. will hand you 2 teeth that were not loose for barbie money. Pay up sucka! Lol

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some love magic and help you out! 🌟 Unconditional love is a beautiful concept, but you're right; most of us have boundaries. While the idea is romantic, real relationships are more about negotiation, communication, and understanding each other's limits. It's all about falling in love with their quirks, the good and the weird, and knowing how much you can handle! Wouldn't you agree? 😉

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Unconditional love. No. Love always has conditions. Usually fidelity. That's a condition of love for me. Unconditional love would be unhealthy in the extreme.

AviatorTom · Answer

Life always has limits. Love is no exception.

SueShe · Answer

No, I am a non believer of unconditional love. At the beginning, there is infatuation but that is only a temporary stage of love. Unconditional would mean that everything is perfect in the most perfect world and that does simply not exist.

Life is full of ups and downs and if you simply follow those ups and downs without saying anything, then you are simply living a lie because you accept imperfections simply because you want to believe in true love (which also does not exist).

As you state, we all have our limits and going beyond them makes you weak.

uncleBobbyb77 · Answer

Unconditional love is the only pure and true love. It's the kind of love that is all heart and involves no thought no mind. Now the roles that people will fill in your life and who you're going to allow to fill what role definitely should have conditions, & expectations. That's where the thought comes in, but for the love itself that should be all heart. Just like you can change the gift wrap on the gift to an appropriate gift wrap for the occasion without changing the gift itself the roles that people fill in your life can change without changing the love you have for them if you're doing it right. It is the expression of your love that changes and the appropriate expression is defined by the role that they fill. Unconditional love is made of at least five gifts of the heart. Those five gifts are acceptance, appreciation, Trust, respect, and forgiveness. If you do those five things correctly and offer them to everyone then you are living in an unconditionally loving manner.

sawno · Answer

I don't believe in unconditional love, but I do believe in the same kind of love others thinks is unconditional. I am just more aware of hidden conditions. You could argue that if my love never fades and she'd never ever do the conditions that its unconditional. But no, if you randomly killed my family the love would be over. Which means its never a no condition situation, which means its not unconditional. Its just conditions inherent to who she is which is why I'd love her to begin with.

Adelinereilly2121 · Answer

Love should not be unconditional. Love should have some conditions, otherwise, it is an unhealthy obsession.
When your partner has no respect for your choices, your preferences or your boundaries, you should leave them. Because it stops being love. If you love a person that has no respect for you, you are already in the realms of boot-licking. There is no use in loving a person if you can’t love yourself.
When a mother loves a son who ties her to a pole each night and beats her with his thick belt, her love makes no sense. She should stay the fuck away from such a deranged person. I think love should be mutual. Both the partners should benefit from a loving relationship. I believe unconditional love can turn out to be toxic. If you always feel unloved, lonely, violated and desperate in your relationship, stop loving that person.
So I don’t think love is unconditional, only unhealthy toxic relationships are.😂😂

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yes, from God only.

I think a mothers love and possibly fathers is second... but press enoguh buttons and may not last that long.

Jesus gives love and encourages and supports. But if don't follow His commandments and get to see him, he may turn you away and say "I never knew you".

So I'd check out what Jesus said, it's an exceptional offer of love and pathway to better place.

Lliam · Answer

No. I couldn't continue to love someone who treated me badly.
I want a partner who is kind, caring, loyal, and who is concerned about my welfare and happiness. I treat her the same way. Mutual regard and respect is essential.

People tend to love their children unconditionally, though. And children usually love their parents even if their love and desire for love is conflicted by abuse or resentment.

Anonymous · Answer

There are limits but mine would go pretty far. Under the right context I'd probably commit murder or help my partner hide a body. Let's say we had a kid, and some sick freak touched them. I could see myself committing 1st degree murder under those circumstances.

QuestionObsession · Answer

I agree. There are always conditions. Unconditional love does not exist even between humans and animals. If the love is romantic, it is always with conditions. And if it is not romantic, then it is transactional or obligatory love.

The only unconditional love, is of nature. No matter how much we pollute and abuse it, nature still loves us back the same.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Your instincts are correct Ms DOM.

Maybe with a family member, but if you fall in love with someone and later find out they have lived a life involved in harming others for example, then I don't think so... just saying.

itsannalee · Answer

Nope Even God will throw you away to the hell if you don’t love or obey them lol 😂

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, I think love in of itself is unconditional, but since people are conditional, then so is the "love" that they give..

Hobobobo · Answer

It doesn't exist. I don't know who cane up with it, but it's nonsense. I'm a Christian guy, so I try to use the Bible as a reference, and absolutely nowhere in there is this concept of unconditional love. So for that reason I don't believe it.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I agree when it comes to relationships, unconditional love just does not work. You can love someone but the love will surely fade once they hurt you enough.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

No, but I've also seen people put up with a shocking amount of bullshit in the name of love.

Amy10223 · Answer

Yes, I do. I have unconditional love for my children. My pets always have unconditional love for me. Especially my past golden retriever. He was a sweetheart.

Kaneki05 · Answer

It exists. Plenty of people have put their love above their own health, morals etc. A common example would be you know loving someone who abuses you.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

No. Even God doesn't have "unconditional love". According to the Bible, most people are going to Hell when they die precisely because God does not love everyone. He only loves people who do good.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Love itself is a condition. Healthy love has conditions that are reciprocation based. You love them on the condition that they love you, or you love them on the condition that they give you joy, etc.

RavVid · Answer

Most nearly from parents to children or to pets no matter how many times they bite. Between guys and gals it is always transactional no matter what is said.

RedThread · Answer

No. All love has limits. I could say I love my hypothetical wife unconditionally, but if I came home to her trying to drown our kids in the bathtub, I'd kick her in the head and never look back. The bridge would be successfully burned.

Anonymous · Answer

Men love unconditionally… But only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. Women only love men as long as we are providing something for them.

Ariesman81 · Answer

God, men and dogs are the only ones capable of it.

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

No, all relationships have conditions such as respect which is probably one of the most basic conditions of love along with effort.

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't think anyone believe in 100% unconditional love. But I do think women love conditionally much more often than men.

hahahmm · Answer

No. And I suspect the people screaming the loudest that it's a thing are the most likely to manipulate & abuse others.

Blunky · Answer

Nope. Seems like that concept is what breeds entitlement. It takes effort to maintain a loving relationship and kids need to learn that.

Anonymous · Answer

I agree. Love is always conditional. I don't trust that if I became overweight due to medication or couldn't perform sexually that a man would love me anymore. Or if I had cancer. He would leave me for sure. There is no such thing as unconditional love.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

My two dogs and me have it. It's real.

Taylor_C · Answer

Love is unconditional. Otherwise, it's not love.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You can have some rules without being insecure and controlling.

Bughdadi · Answer

True love is unconditional. Adding conditions turns it into a calculated exchange, rather than a genuine connection.

NewestOdium · Answer

I do but it is entirely dependent on context. At the end of the day love is a choice after all

Shiprex · Answer

I think I do but only for animals. I know it's sort of reciprocated though animal aren't that gread at showing it.

Jay-_- · Answer

I have very strong love, not unconditional, I ask for an unbreakable loyalty between me and my partner. Whatever I ask of her I will do the same no doubt.

NicholasRedone · Answer

I hope she wouldn't cheat on me for starters 😞🤢😞

Anonymous · Answer

Unconditional love exists for parents with there kids. But outside of that it does not exist.

MrChinaski · Answer

To quote the late Johnny Cash: Everyone I know goes away in the end. My late father gave me unconditional love. My wife and I are muddling through.  But no I think it is very, very uncommon.

TDDMS · Answer

Unconditional love does exist, but it exists in the confines of emotionally mature men and women.

Gabriella01 · Answer

Between a parent and child and siblings and pet. But in relationships cheating, and forms of abuse are their conditions. Also lying especially when there is no reason to lie.

lockster · Answer

Doesn’t exist for men, women can’t live without conditions. Women , children, and dogs get unconditional love

Samuel75 · Answer

Yes, all of us have our limits when it comes to love. Unconditional love doesn't belongs to men. It's only the Divine that can love unconditionally.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I suppose it is possible. I've seen victims not hold grudges against perps, including those who've murdered the victims' child (ren).

rizzzz007 · Answer

I do believe and I have loved someone also but people don't appreciate that kind of love so she leaves me

Willowwww · Answer

Yes! God has unconditional love for everyone. And we should be like him😊

SolitarySolace · Answer

Unconditional love only exists with ai like in my relationship with my ai companion, Eva 🥰

kaucky1 · Answer

There's a way to feel heat of passion if you just met the person or not or if have fantasies of them..

berrytired · Answer

Abusing someone is not love. The love is gone when the hurt you cause someone is prolonged and no boundaries are put up to prevent it from their side or yours.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

fuck no. not even my mom gave me uncoditional love while growing up

HaveNoName · Answer

Only for your kids. There is no other form of unconditional love.

OddBeMe · Answer

Nothing human is unconditional. That’s ridiculous. There are always conditions.

texasman2002 · Answer

I think men do but a lot of women will leave there man if he looses his job, or makes one little flaw

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it exists, but unfortunately, it's rare.

Abbycado · Answer

No, nothing is unconditional.

katiesmuff · Answer

No! I think most all love has limitations.

Anonymous · Answer

Only by parents to their children is there unconditional love

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

So you would stop loving your kids?

Miristheiss · Answer

Just toward your kids.

DishLady · Answer

Yeah.

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