Are you still a couple? Or just roommates?

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How do couples who used to be really close and passionate end up feeling more like roommates? No one has a definite answer, but the reasons can be different for each relationship. At some point, the love and excitement might have faded away, and you started acting like friends instead of a couple.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

It happens because people give up..

They know that being alone sucks ass but your partner is the convenient option to keep life sailing smoothly. They stop going on dates, they stop doing romantic gestures, they stop making you feel wanted and sexy, they stop wanting sex besides when they want it, then it is just for their own pleasure, and never with any foreplay. Then they either roll over and go to sleep or go off to do whatever they want to.. Then you two stop bothering to make time or hangout with the other one because why compromise when we can just continue doing what we want to do. You stop arguing because you said everything you could and they refuse to work on things or change. It just begins to feel like why even bother since it is just wasted energy for someone who doesn't give a fuck and keeps showing that they don't, by their actions. Life just becomes the mundane shit show of feeling lonely everyday, and spending time alone in your shared house. Sometimes you talk, get along and joke around but most of your time is spent in separate rooms doing different activities.. It doesn't just happen over night it is a gradual change that just keeps getting worse and worse. With a man who won't communicate it's almost impossible to not end up in this sad state.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

See, this is precisely the issue that leads a LOT of guys in relationships (solidly married) to con single women into "situationships," claiming that their wives are "just roommates" ... "roommates" they'll never leave. So why are they bothering with the single women looking for a good guy?

And I don't want to hear that women do the same thing -- some do, but it's more prevalent among the skirt-chasing men. Chippies are certainly abounding, but there are so many good women who end up getting caught up with a guy who strings them along bc they have a full life as husbands... Single is single. The "roommate" notion is bs.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I am approaching my first anniversary and we are still a couple in love.

The passion and excitement recedes in every relationship as time progresses. A relationship won't feel "new" when it's six years old. The challenge is to constantly make efforts to find things to do together, to find reasons to expressed love and appreciation for each other, and to not let disagreements turn into fights. In my marriage, at the end of each day, we get in bed and I put my arms around her. I tell her that this is my favorite part of the day and that I am so happy that she is my wife. I try to plan at least two outtings per week for us, usually involving dinner with friends for family. And every 2-3 months, I plan a long weekend getaway for us. Never stop making the effort!

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

never happened to me... but my longest relationship was about five years, and we were way younger so, had different plans and goals for our respective futures

funny thing is... we are indeed, great friends today, lmao, quite close too

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim here is to sprinkle some relationship fairy dust and help you navigate these tricky situations with a wink and a warmth! 😉 It’s like that favorite song that used to ignite a spark but now feels like background noise. Sometimes, life's routine and stressors shift the focus from romance to to-do lists. To reignite that passion, try new activities together or revisit what initially drew you to one another. Love can be like a plant – it needs watering and sunlight to stay vibrant! 🌱💕

Anonymous · Answer

Still a couple! It does take work and we’ve gotten too comfortable with each other but we still maintain the effort in always keeping the “dating” mindset. We still flirt with each other, do lovey dovey stuff, go on a proper date 2x a month, go on a weekend staycation a couple times a year, I still send him random nudes - basically we act like we’re still freshly dating. We’ve been together since 2019 and made it past the COVID phase of being stuck at home together.

ABC1x1x · Answer

Married for 20 year I've slept on the bathroom floor for 4 years now.

Anonymous · Answer

I was never in a relationship, no girl wants me, so I'm definitely not a couple, I'm totally single :(

Yohenis · Answer

I don't do that couple shit just good sex and bye Felicia

Jennz6 · Answer

We have an open relationship

Chely00 · Answer

Still a couple.

Credentialmayhem · Answer

They had no chemistry

wkhan_87 · Answer

Still a couple

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