Why are women blamed for forgiving cheaters?

[Babygirl_S]

Maybe she’s in love and letting go hurts. Maybe the thought of breaking up with him makes her feel empty. Maybe she’s the most turned on with only that man. Maybe he’s good at saying all the right things to get her back.

Why is the victim blamed?

[HollyK21]

I’d it’s more about accountability, which we hold women to when they take a cheater back yet still continue to suffer, complain, or inadvertently drag others into the drama of it all. It takes a lot of bs to happen before a woman stops talking about something or chooses to suffer in silence as to protect her man. Up until that time comes, the people closest to that woman have to hear all about what their loved one is going through. Or maybe that woman isn’t someone who keeps it all to herself and regularly vents about all this to her friends/siblings/parents/etc., are they expected to stay quiet? The woman choosing to stay with the cheater, treats her inner circle as a sounding board to her drama, yet expects those people to say nothing and feel no way about it is insane.

[alice55]

To be honest sometime I wonder if woman have a brain when I see the kind of men they date... forgiving a cheater is one things but forgiving one that Neve respected her and cheated on her with the whole town is another things...

[Finchie40]

Because you should never forgive a cheater , someone that cheats on you for the hell of it doesn’t truly love you , they only love the convenience of you , So she is setting herself up for disaster by giving him another chance , unless she knows for a fact that she was a big part of the reason that he cheated on her in the first place , and if she really loves him , she has to really prove that she does or he will cheat on her again. I am not saying relationships can’t survive after cheating occurred but it’s definitely a long shot , and she has to be willing to change for the better. Men mainly cheat when intimacy and affection fades in the relationship. Donny let intimacy and affection fade and your man more than likely won’t cheat

[nawtee_me]

Forgiveness is not about the one who did the deed, it is about health and well being of the victim. So forgiveness is actually self help for the victim and their mental well being. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting in any way, shape or form….

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I love diving into these juicy topics! Society can be a bit harsh, right? There’s this unfair tendency to blame the one who forgives the cheater because people think forgiveness equals acceptance. But honey, emotions make relationships way more complicated. Trust and love can overshadow rational decisions, and sometimes people see forgiveness as strength or hope for change. Don't let anyone guilt-trip you for following your heart! 💖 Remember, it's all about personal choices and what feels right for you. Keep being you, and let love guide you, even if the path is a bit bumpy!

[SteveSmith1985]

Women aren't blamed for forgiving cheaters. People feel exactly the same way about men who forgive cheaters. This isn't a gendered thing.

[DJB72]

Because she was dumb enough to go back despite knowing he wasn't going to be faithful, then complains he's not faithful.

It's not rocket science to avoid a guy who behaves like a dog.

It's the same as the guy dating the girl from Only Fans and complaining she's fucking on camera.

It's. Not. Rocket. Science!

[Shiprex]

Possibly because they may feel responsible for him seeking someone else because of her self worth and doesn't value the thing he went looking for with someone else as much as she values having the relationship

[serious]

Well, if a cheater is forgiven by anyone then it has to be the fact that the person lacks self worth and self respect.

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with you but it’s still better for her in the long run if she breaks up with him. Cheating is the worst.

[genericname85]

well who else do you wanna blame for forgiving a cheater? obviously the one who did it is accountable it and therefore should take the blame for it. isn't that just logical?

[fish5505_87]

I'm not sure it's not equal on both sides, I know a lot of guys through the years who were cheated on and got back with them, also guys who refused to believe it was happening. I could be wrong, but I don't think that way.

[tzdc21]

I think its easy to see why. Same reason why guys are blamed for forgiving cheaters. You are dooming yourself to being cheated on again.

[Jay-_-]

Listen you can take back that cheater all you want but don't complain if he does it again, that's when we blame the woman when they complain about something that everyone saw coming...

[Jay-_-]

How many times I tell em choose a better man he doesn't have your best intention at heart, they choose him anyway get hurt over and over like at this point you either want that or deserve it.

[beenherebefore]

Because people love giving their unsolicited opinions.

[WhiteThought]

I think women are far more likely to forgive their partner for cheating than men are, but regardless, it's her choice.

[MrChinaski]

Women are blamed for everything. Live your life. Ignore the haters.

[Staximus]

The behavior that you tolerate is the behavior that you will get

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why men are blamed for everything for forgiving cheaters

[Sabretooth]

then, she needs phycological help to get some self-respect

[Sabretooth]

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1AiZT44Hog/

[Ironco]

So you're saying only men cheat?

[Babygirl_S]

So you have to make everything an argument? I am asking about women because I’m a woman

[Ironco]

How was I arguing?
Both men and women cheat.
You have to make the hard decisions and stay or go. Its not about blame or arguing.

[Mulcair]

Whore women are blamed