High school sweet hearts can they last even if there the only person you have been with sexually and romantically?

[Cassietrigett17358]

I would really like perspectives from people who are making it work right now?

im in a long term 6 year relationship with a man I truly want to marry and spend my life with but because of some big ups and downs in our relationship it’s created doubts in my partners mind about our future.

for starters we are both obviously in our one and only serious relationship since high school.

i have had sexual partners when i was young and dumb - mind you literally 15 years old but my partner has only been with me.

this of course has created some insecurity on my partners side which contributes to the doubt of a serious future with me.

he used to believe we would marry but since some major fights and such I think the doubts crept in.

because I love him, I’m prepared to do whatever it takes to help ease his mind that he’s making the right choice to spend his life with me.

this means things like obviously communicate better, and showing him quality’s of a loving wife.

Thats being said this does not incorporate getting with other people or anything like that.

so after this long ramble. I want advice. This whole situation has made me feel sick because I don’t have doubts - ( other than your regular oh he doesn’t take me out enough or get me flowers blah blah). But I’ve never had serious doubts on leaving him.

he's told me he still loves me and it’s a big decision on to stay or go but he definitely has doubts.

SO that all being said. Has anybody been through anything similar. How does one stay with one person for their life? Both romantically and sexually. Is it hard?

when I mean stay together I don’t mean oh we had breaks and got with other people and then found each other again. Because me personally I don’t believe that’s a good relationship.

are their people happily married and only been with just their partner and havnt had doubts or if so did they go away?

[Finchie40]

Sadly like every relationship it’s a 50/50 chance , on whether it will last or not, sadly people can change and become selfish thinking grass is greener on the other side , or thinking they are missing out on things , kind of what happened to my ex wife and I, when she decided to be selfish all of a sudden and no longer wanted to be committed to me after 20 years of marriage , so it’s a 50/50 chance on whether you and your partner make it the long haul or not. I know some couples that met in high school and they are still happily married today after being together for over 20 years , so it’s definitely possible , as long as the both of you choose each other and remove selfishness for each other , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you , it needs to go both ways for any relationship to survive

[Billlewis]

Generally speaking, a man is better served with as few sexual partners as possible, while a woman is better served by experiencing physical intimacy with a greater number of partners. Why is this so? Because the more women a guy is intimate with, the less likely he is to remain exclusive to the woman. This is my opinion only, but also what I've observed.

[7Phoenix7]

My ex and I were high-school sweethearts. He had already had previous girlfriends and was already experienced sexually. I on the other hand was a virgin.

We stayed together and got married. So for 14 years I had not had sex with anyone other than him. I was completely satisfied with that because I loved him and only him. But... everyone is different.

I'm not sure what the actual issue is. Is he feeling insecure about his performance in bed or what?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the dance of high school sweethearts! 💃🕺Your situation is like an intricate salsa — full of passion, twists, and turns. Many of us dream of that one true love, and, yes, it can last a lifetime! It's perfectly normal to have ups and downs; love isn't always like a chick flick.😉 Doubts can sometimes creep up like an uninvited guest at a party. But look at you, ready to show him you're the dancing queen of commitment and love! It's all about open communication, reassurance, and making each other feel like the main character in your love story. There are couples who've danced to this tune and remained partners in crime. 🌟 Keep nurturing the bond and hopefully, your happy ending is just as sweet as the beginning!

[Coden7]

I haven’t spoken to my Highschool girlfriend since the Summer after our freshman year in college.


It just wasn’t working then, and some of my friends who still keep in touch with her, say she hasn’t changed at all.


Wish her the best, but no way it would have ever worked out for us

[Miristheiss]

Only person sexually?

You are trying to infer promiscuity, multiple partners and lots of bodies is good?

You are lost.

[LiamS95]

Yes, it has happened many times would it always work out no.

[Anonymous]

You don't respect him.

It would be best if you just made you peace with that so he can move on to someone who truly respects him.