Do you believe that you attract who you deserve?

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EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

Without counting my current girlfriend who is not only an amazing person but incredibly attractive as well... not at all, lol.

Before her I used to attract almost exclusively HUGE unattractive women. Like I'm not talking women who are slightly chubby, like 10 pounds overweight or so, more like women who are obviously 300 pounds just looking at them, not proportional to their height either, they're like 5'2 and 300 pounds, no curves, no muscle, just completely round.

I myself am slightly overweight but nowhere near actually obese. These women literally weighed more than me despite being way shorter than me. Like say I'm 5'10 and 220 pounds, these women were 5'2 and 300 pounds.

Maybe they thought I was more "approachable" due to me being a shy, insecure, depressed loner? Not sure.

Nothing against those women as people. I'm sure some people out there prefer them. But it's not what I'm attracted to in the slightest.

And their personalities weren't even good either. They were generally socially awkward. Like one of them was loud as fuck all the time, so loud that it hurt my ears, even at situations where literally everyone else was quiet. And another one made it a point to talk about her BDSM obessions with people she literally just met. Another one made erotic drawings and kept shoving them in people's faces. Etc.

I basically struck gold with my current girlfriend. Didn't even have to try very hard at all, she was just the sort of outgoing person who talked to everyone and she's the one who asked me out.

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Yeah to some extent we all settle in with people in the same socio economic class. Pretty much expected as those are the people we're gonna be around most often and the people who are gonna find us acceptable too. But relationships that cut across socio economic classes can and do happen all the time. However they are statistically small in number.

A guy with no ambition and an hourly wage job making $65K at age 35 is probably not gonna attract a female attorney making $500K. Can happen. Probably won't happen.

Babygirl_S · Accepted Answer

No! I attract scumbags who serve alcoholic low quality whores who never use soap down there and proudly tell everyone that they don’t use soap.

I am the polar opposite of those who deserve them. Most relationships look like that to me now. A good gentleman with an inferior whore who is jealous of me for simply being cleaner and me having to put up with Indiggers who pee in the streets openly showing their 4 inch penises as if it’s a big deal and joke about dowry. I know what I deserve but he’s trapped with a daddy’s favourite as she refused to take pills and now they have a baby so he simply can’t escape.

Faina · Accepted Answer

Not necessarily. Some people come into your life and you think they're perfect, until their character starts to break and you realize they were pretending to try to get something from you. I've had a sad experience. I know better now. I watch their actions, not their words and I know when to walk away

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to sprinkle some relationship wisdom and bring the flirty fun vibes! 😏 Attracting who you deserve can be a journey of self-love and growth. If you're vibing on self-worth, confidence, and kindness, you're more likely to draw in someone who matches those awesome traits. Just be on the lookout for lovebombing or red flags, because you've got to protect that precious heart. 💖 Keep being you, and the right one will come along! 💫

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Yea, I think I generally do attract who I deserve. At least I can't complain.

Finchie40 · Answer

No, because I attract selfish gold diggers as well , and I am far from being a selfish gold dogger

princeofromance · Answer

No, I believe attraction must be mutual.

NicholasRedone · Answer

@extraterrestrial1999 with 100 percent certainty 💯😊 it's happened countless times even in front of my own two eyes. Even like the vibes platonic, like they say " if a person goes looking for X they usually find X" and always stay out of trouble folks

ProbablyClueless · Answer

You attract what you lead with. If what you lead with is your money or sexy body, you can't be surprised when the people you attract are people who value those things.

I'd say you attract what you deserve in the sense that that's what your behavior has indicated you value.

adventurous-1 · Answer

In the past I was used as a place holder, wallet, or personal servant but I had also met some decent ladies, and I ended up marrying one of them. So no I don't believe you only attract women you deserve as they have players just like men looking to take advantage of whoever they can.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Energies definitely draw but not really what you deserve. Does a + deserve a minus? patterns repeat... energies draw... wound control... the sub conscious mind... is making the decisions.

Gaylordslav · Answer

My brother tells me I get treated the way I deserve to be treated. Everyone treats me like shit and im sad and weak minded from all the years, decades of abuse so I dont see myself ever changing. Made as God intended, even if that means enduring a sad existence

Anonymous · Answer

Not what you deserve, but what you need to grow. We often get what we allow. Sometimes the lesson just takes a lot longer, and until then—we get what we need to grow.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

Yes and no I attracted my husband who spoils me ans treats me like a queen but I also had an ex who was verbally/physical abusive and I don't feel like any woman deserves that

menina · Answer

Not necessarily. There are people who treat their partners poorly when the person they're dating/married to is amazing. Then you have people who are awesome and they only attract idiots.

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is how it works, most (not all) of the time. The vibes you give off is what you will get back.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Not really.. I have attracted all kinds of people and many different types..

ChooChooHaha · Answer

No. S' a terrible sentiment. So people deserve abusive, manipulative, evil people? No. Not at all.

L_Lawliet17 · Answer

I always attract 50+ aged men or bums who won't get a job while I've had one since 18.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'd like to believe I deserve better then crazy women who aren't reliable, consistent and who flake on me if not outright disappear.

strateguy632 · Answer

No way! I am surprised i attract young sweeties. In her 30s!

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not remotely. Decent people often attract selfish manipulators.

Shy_Steve · Answer

We can attract all kinds People, Sometimes they can be what we deserve, But most of the time their not.

Luopio27 · Answer

If it was true, simps would dominate the dating world!

WonderingManII · Answer

I do not. This world is full of good and bad.

Pohjolan · Answer

I'm pretty sure that serial killer rapists don't deserve the attraction they get.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

No, that’s stupid. There are plenty of great, honest men who attract gold digging bitches.

robocop666 · Answer

Well hot women like me more than average ones so in my case yeah

alice55 · Answer

I think it's more random

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

Majority of the time yes.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Nope , the idea of that is just ridiculous

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily

Fftggg · Answer

What if we don't attact nothing?

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Well, lots of babes have hit on me.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't attract anyone.

MemeSupreme · Answer

no definitely not

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Not necessary

biraileeşkadını · Answer

Soulmates unite.

linka_pat307 · Answer

No I don't

loveyouoak · Answer

Nah not necessarily

Jerre · Answer

Yes I do

Aldan1609 · Answer

Not necessarily

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