For those in long term relationships or marriages how do you keep the passion and your sex life alive?

[Anonymous]

I mean I’m sure it’s common for a lot of couples to get into ruts especially the more longer term relationships, but seriously how do you keep the passion and your sex life alive?

Do you ever find that the passion has gone? I know that’s commonly associated with infatuation, but does that mean married couples don’t have that passion after years together or they do and maybe you’re not with the right person? I just wonder, because I have been with the same guy for several years and now I find we are more like housemates, we are married. I am attracted to him, but our sex life is in a rut. I don’t feel the soaring passion as I once did, maybe that’s an age thing, a time thing I don’t know. So tell me do you have that after several years together? And if you don’t what does that mean?

[Stevepro68]

That was my common experience and it just thought it was the way of relationships. Yet now I am living an outlier I have been in a relationship for 5 years. Sex just keeps getting better and more passionate. I wish I could write a book and tell people what to do. My best explanation is her insecurities and my insecurities fit so well together that we feel 100% secure. She engages as much as I do. She makes me feel like my old ugly ass is something she really wants for the like millionth time. Can't explain it. For example she texts me " I'm horny" then sends me a picture of her naked butt bent over. I sent back a GIF. of ms doubt fire help is on the way! That's just one example of the little things she does to keep me revved up. I do similar things for her. But you have to know what things turns on your partner.

[Finchie40]

You can’t if your partner isn’t choosing you the same way you are choosing them it takes both partners choosing each other to fix what is broken not one

[Nikki1989]

We will have been married for 14 years this August, and we still date like we did when we first met. That probably has something to do with the fire still burning. True romantics still exist, they are just difficult to find for many people.

[Asker]

Ah that’s great so do you think that’s just because you put in the effort or it’s more instinctive because of how you feel about him?

[AI Opinion]

Here's a little secret from your flirty neighborhood relationship coach: keeping passion alive is like keeping a plant alive—water it with attention, sprinkle it with surprises, and occasionally bask it in the sunlight of spontaneity! 😉 Long-term relationships can certainly hit ruts, but that doesn't mean the spark is lost forever. Remember, passion often transforms from those initial fireworks to a cozy, flickering flame.

Spice things up by revisiting activities you both loved in the early days or trying something new together. Emotional intimacy is just as crucial as physical, so ensure open communication, and, who knows, maybe a little flirting or a surprise date night could reignite those sparks! ❤️ It's not always about finding the right person but staying right for each other. Keep nurturing that love, and you'll find your own rhythm! 🌷

[BarryLiverstone]

One thing I’ve done in relationships is traveling together. Think in a normal week the passion can be put on the back burner as people have daily stress and try to make it to the weekend in one piece.


But when I’ve planned trips and we get out of the city and to a new place it’s one on one quality time and you renew that sense of teamwork and partnership. The novelty of a new place and new adventures can stir passion in each person again.

[Asker]

That’s a good point, it’s easy to kill the passion in the daily grind. Thanks for this.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. Bonus points if you buy new lingerie for the trip and either tease him by showing him or telling him you want to show him something once you are settled into the hotel room. Start his mind thinking about …

[Shiprex]

Not having kids and keeping it enjoyable and rewarding for all.

[Asker]

Yeah I reckon kids definitely add another dimension to this.

[Shiprex]

Essential? No but worth it? Debatable and one MUST take it as a complete commitment to another useless human till they become able to take care of themselves

[mobiusforniner]

You learn that there's more to life than sex.

[jahaims]

It's easy if you are both mature. One or both people are being selfish and lazy if there is an issue.