Why are open relationships best when they are open on the mans end only?

[Vegasrunner]

[Jove79]

Men are physical, women are emotional.
A guy could have an extra partner and not care about her emotionally, or he could love two women.


A girl having multiple emotional connections would be difficult.. where as a guy could love two women easily. I think it’s just the way the brains are wired.


Also, maybe it’s more looked down upon for a women to be free to have sex with who ever she wants with multiple men.. women pair bond to one man, having multiple sex partners makes it more difficult to submit to one guy.

[Vegasrunner]

@Jove79 TY for sharing that fascinating and intellegent perspective

[AviatorTom]

An open relationship is not really a relationship. Relationships require commitment, and there is none in an open relationship.. if a couple wants to explore their sexuality, try swinging.

[Vegasrunner]

@AviatorTom Agreed that's why it's open on my end only.

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t think they are. I think if you’re going to do it at all, it should be open on both sides. Unless of course one partner doesn’t want to be with other people and is legit fine with their partner doing that (not just doing it because their partner pressured them into it).

[Vegasrunner]

@WhitneySnow Na, most men don't want a woman who's being used by other men, most women want a man who can attract other women.

[WhitneySnow]

Most women do NOT want an open relationship. They want a man who is attractive to other women but is theirs alone. Most men don’t want an open relationship unless they’re the only ones allowed to have sex with other people. Which again is ok if you’re into that but not something I want in my relationship.

[Vegasrunner]

@WhitneySnow You'd be suprised. As long as the man is HV most women are fine w/ him having other women. I agree they want a man who is attractive but theirs alone, however that's not realistic and is part of the fairytale we present to women. What you want in a relationship isn't relevant to this conversation.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe for celebrities yeah (though Tiger Woods’ wife tried to beat his brains in with a golf club for exactly that). But your average doctor or lawyer or investment banker isn’t gonna get that. Not unless he dates way below his socioeconomic class. And maybe not even then, if the woman has self-respect (and just isn’t into that in general as a kink, which some women are).

[Vegasrunner]

@WhitneySnow That is an excellent observation. The fact that "celebrities" get away w/ this only validates that women will accept HV men. The flaw in your belief is thinking that an "investment banker, dr, lawyer etc, doesn't fall into that category. Status is only one measure of a man's value,. It is very plausible that an investment banker could make exponentially more than a pro golfer, that same banker could also be 6'5 w/ 6 pack abs and a degree from Harvard. All of these things are attraction triggers to women, and extremely difficult to find in men. Part of your confusion stems from your age where at 19 you correlate fame w/ wealth. Reality most of the worlds richest people are hedge fun managers, real estate developers, etc. Not celebrities, however at your age I can understand why it would be hard to know that. If anything you've validated how desperate women get when they are losing a HV man and Tiger Woods hoe was a former model. Think about it, if a man's not staying faithful to a model, what's the chances any man w/ options is going to settle on one woman?

[WhitneySnow]

Tiger Woods’ wife also divorced him. She wasn’t desperately trying to hold onto him, she was furious that he cheated on her. Most women will not tolerate a man openly cheating on them, no matter how rich. Unless of course there’s a big socioeconomic gulf between them and her main interest in him is his money.

[Vegasrunner]

@WhitneySnow Divorce is a L for her not Tiger Woods. Even you still know he he is and that was 15+ years ago, I don't even remember what he's chicks name was. She wasn't furious he cheated, she was furious that it was made public. No woman w/ basic common sense marry a HV man believing he's only going to bang her. It's that fast that people like yourself are exposed to it, messing up the delusion society creates for young women.

[WhitneySnow]

I remember my parents talking about it. My mom was very supportive of his wife.

[Vegasrunner]

@WhitneySnow That's not surprising. Women typically support other women.

[beenherebefore]

Because men can’t deal with the fact that a woman would get way more matches than him even if she’s average.

[Vegasrunner]

@beenherebefore Great point. This is a huge reason why men he can have sex w/ a lot of women are valued more.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to give you some insights and maybe even make you smile a little! 😉 The idea that open relationships are "best" when only one partner is open kind of sets off more red flags than a carnival! 🎡 Communication and mutual consent are key to any relationship. If it feels one-sided, there's a good chance someone might be lovebombing themselves with the illusion of freedom while the other feels ghosted in their needs. Always ensure both partners are on the same page—it's not just fair, it's necessary for happiness! ✌️

[Summeroflove]

It’s called one sided and double standards. He’s smashing worthless whores while his wife stays loyal.

[Finchie40]

Open relationships are just 2 people using each other until one of them finds a better partner

[OneViewpoint]

Sorry but that is something I'd never ask a woman to do. Nor would I respect any woman who agreed to that. It's not fair. I have this thing about fair and equitable, open and honest communication. If the relationship is open, it's open on both ends. Whatever happens, you both know the risks. Suck it up buttercup. You asked for it.

[Vegasrunner]

@OneViewpoint in my opinion you shouldn't ask the women to do it. She either complies or you replace her w/ someone better.

[OneViewpoint]

Or she dumps your ass for someone who isn't an unhinged sociopath with sexual dysfunction. Good luck finding a woman with any self respect who will let you fuck anything that will hold still while she remains faithful to you.

[Vegasrunner]

@OneViewpoint Not sure why you believe men wanting a variety of women is a dysfunction, it's pretty standard. The whole point is that you can easily replace her with w/ a better women. If you're concerned about getting dumped I would suggest spending more time building yourself up. I keep multiple women at all time and rarely run into an issue, so maybe you're just doing something wrong?

[OneViewpoint]

Or maybe you're just a fucking asshole.

[Vegasrunner]

@OneViewpoint I'm an asshole because you're concerned about getting dumped?

[OneViewpoint]

I'm not concerned about getting dumped at all. You're the one exhibiting abnormal fear of rejection and a hilariously childish response to protect yourself. But you're an asshole because you behave like an insecure 15 year old child living in fear of rejection.

[Vegasrunner]

@OneViewpoint If that's the case why did you bring up getting dumped?

[DonaldDarko]

If a sick perverted thing like doesn't have any good in it. If it's the man doing it you could say it's slightly less destructive in that infidelity isn't taken seriously in men as much. I've been told it's because a man can't tell if a child is his and a woman can't not know if a child is hers. A woman will hit the ceiling if her man gets another woman pregnant though. They start acting like men do then for some reason.

[alice55]

That's cheating then not an open relationship

[Vegasrunner]

@alice55 Na, if you didn't let them know upfront then maybe it could be considered cheating, but tbh, cheating for a man is when he doest provide for his women. Having sex w/ other people is cheating for women.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Degeneracy knows no bounds.

[Cormac995]

Open relationships are a horrible Idea 100% of the time.

[Vegasrunner]

@Cormac995 If you allow it open on the women's side but if it's only open on yours and closed on hers it can be successful.

[Cormac995]

NO because then you're just being a selfish immature asshole that's treating someone who loves you like shit. That's not a working relationship that's abuse.

[Vegasrunner]

@Cormac995 That's an odd perspective. You believe giving someone what they want is abuse?

[Renegade_Sailor]

Because it keeps the women on thier best behavior because they see him as the prize.

[biraileeşkadını]

"May God curse the cheaters and mistresses. I hope they suffer endless punishment in this world, to the point where they beg for death."

[Ironic_Method]

I'm so glad your religion has no bearing on my life. That sounds like a shitty God.

[biraileeşkadını]

Religion is the same for all of us. We were all created by Allah and will return to the same place, the earth. Aren't you ashamed to curse Allah? Enough of that. I see you defend those immoral mistresses; it turns out you’ve become a mistress to married people. Shame on you, damn you all.

[lilBigPotato]

Doesn't sound like an open relationship then

[Vegasrunner]

@lilBigPotato Interesting, why do these type of relationships work so well?

[Finchie40]

Probably because the girl gets turned on by it, Some girls’ get turned on by other girls’ wanting her man , , it makes her want him even more. I know it’s crazy but people can be crazy

[Vegasrunner]

@Finchie40 Interesting, I actually believe it's more standard than crazy, we just happen to live in a world where playing into female delusion is more natural.

[Finchie40]

The truth is everyone has their own kinks and fetishes so it is what it is , I use to date a girl that got turned on when other girls’ would flirt with me and I would just laugh at her , as to why that turned her on , when we had sex she loved if I talked about another girl during sex , I would tell her naughty things that another girl did
To me , it would make her orgasm even faster lol

[Vegasrunner]

@Finchie40 There's a lot of girls like that. Having other women is one of the easiest ways to attract women.

[bddddd]

Why would you want a one-sided open relationship? If open is right for you, it needs to be even.

[Vegasrunner]

@bddddd It's not one sided it's actually equal, as both parties get what they want. Men want variety women want security.

[Sazidhassan]

Open relationshup benefitd woman more... because the moment you opened your relationship your male friend will try to sleep with your girlfriend... and male doesn't easily get sex fron other females

[Vegasrunner]

@Sazidhassan Maybe, but that's not relevant as my relationships are open on my end closed in the women's. Also if your friends are banging your chicks they're not your friend.

[Caughtulookin]

There is nothing good about them. It adds to the many problems that plague social interraction in society today.

[Vegasrunner]

@Caughtulookin How so?

[Caughtulookin]

Because if their with one guy then another guy isn't with one.

[Vegasrunner]

@Caughtulookin That's kinda how relationships work. Most women share the same man, and average men are typically single.

[Caughtulookin]

You think they die that way or one just becomes a depressed spinster used by deception?

[Vegasrunner]

@Caughtulookin Who, the spinster or lonely man?

[Caughtulookin]

Well there isn't a lonely man in the situation just the one taking advantage. I personally have known of 0 incidents where this pertained to an elderly triangle.

[Vegasrunner]

@Caughtulookin Thanks for sharing, sounds like there's some confusion or language barrier, as I'm not quite sure I understand what you are talking about and how it relates how relationships work.

[Oldschool1981]

My wife has a side guy that she was seeing before we had ever met, so I knew going in.

[Vegasrunner]

@Oldschool1981 How long have you guys been married?

[Oldschool1981]

9 years

[Vegasrunner]

@Oldschool1981 And she keep him for all 9 years?

[WonderingManII]

I don't think open relationships work in the long run.

[Vegasrunner]

@WonderingManII Neither do I that's why you have them open on the man's end closed on the womens.

[BDRick]

because us men are yucky and want, but don't want the other partner to get equal shares. I mean, I'm not that way, but if you group us together as a mass, then my opinion is true

[dragoblack]

They are not, it's just most men are territorial and can't handle having an actual open relationship.

[Vegasrunner]

@dragoblack They are fine as long as they are open on the man's end only.

[NicholasRedone]

@Vegasrunner who's runs the world, dicks 😁😋😅

[Jeff51]

Wife and I are not in any kind of open relationship

[Vegasrunner]

@Jeff51 What does that have to do w/ the original question.

[Jeff51]

There not best

[Vegasrunner]

@Jeff51 How would you know?

[Jeff51]

That's what I'm thinking. Wife n I are not open.

[Vegasrunner]

@Jeff51 TY for sharing but that doesn't have any relevance to conversation.

[aquamarine321]

Because no one is affected greatly , which female admire at times , while no one likes when a female do they not even females

[Godihateyou]

Open relationships never work. Ever. You are delusional

[Vegasrunner]

@Godihateyou I agree, that's probably one of the reasons they are better when their open on the man's end only.

[Anonymous]

Just because that's "true" in your mind doesn't mean it's true in the real world.

[slatyb]

Why do you believe that they are?

[Vegasrunner]

@slatyb Never made the claim I did, which is why I presented it on an open forum.

[slatyb]

Your question makes the claim that open relationships are best when only the man has multiple partners. Why do you believe this?

[Vegasrunner]

@slatyb I think I understand your confusion. You're making the assumption that because I presented the supposition that it is based off a belief I hold. This is a common mistake that women and young people make, because they naively believe everything revolves around them. I'm simply presenting the statement in attempt to get the opinions of others. So now that I have told you this, please feel free to answer.

[slatyb]

I can't answer because you asked "why Is something true" when I don't believe it is. Perhaps you can answer these question: "Why do pigs fly at night?" "Why do Trump voters eat dogs?"

[Vegasrunner]

@slatyb Then why respond at all?

[lyrem04]

Are they?

[Anonymous]

Exactly, I agree with you on this one...

[Anonymous]

That's a harem