I told my situationship not to tell people about us and I found out he told his work colleagues. Is it fair of me to break things off?

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So me and my situationship both were cheating on our partners. We hooked up once. I ended things because I found out he told his work colleagues about us and I see them at work. I know it’s all wrong but for me that crossed a line. Do you think it’s rude to share that information with fellow work colleagues that I see at work as well?

overlord337645 · Accepted Answer

you know I dont know what is going on that makes you feel like you need to cheat but I do know it is a good time to have a talk with your partner about what needs to change because I think you want love but your looking in all the wrong places after all even if nothing comes of this at least you have a reason to move on from your other so while its probably not the most appealing option right now I think its important you give this person a chance to change before you resort to cheating and so fourth

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

That's very fair. Although it should be said that that the kind of person who would cheat, by definition, isn't the kind that respects boundaries.

The entire point of cheating is that you're trying to get away with it. You just found out that you're taking a risk with someone who doesn't take the situation seriously enough to take a reasonable step to avoid blowing his and your lives up.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’m going through something similar and I totally think it’s fair. The next time I see mine at work I’m gonna rip his balls off for it. It’s not the fact he told people for me, it’s the fact he didn’t respect me enough to do as I asked

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

So perfectly okay to cheat but not to speak to others about it... right. I think you both lost the moral high ground already so why should it matter

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to guide you through this love jungle! Since you're both in a situationship and not exactly playing by the book, things can get tricky. He broke the secrecy code by spilling the beans to colleagues. If you're feeling betrayed and uncomfortable, pulling the plug might be justified. Trust is like a soufflé—delicate and easily deflated! Do what's right for you. Remember, a true partner should value your privacy and respect your boundaries. 🌟

princeofromance · Answer

No, it is not fair of you to break things off. You should feel honored that he wants other people to know you and him are in a relationship.

Shiprex · Answer

hat he went against your  instruction  says a lot about the type of character you both are.  Cheating sexually and cheating on a promise are kinda the same thing, aren't they? It shouldn't be a surprise that it happened. Imagine it gets back to the people you promised to be monogamous with how THEY would feel?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You're cheating on your partner and you're worried about being treated fairly?
Lmfao fuck off with that bullshit. 😂
Glad you got outed, have fun with the consequences. Hopefully you both get dumped and get nothing from your soon to be ex spouses.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men talk and gossip far more than women. You might want to end it if you can't deal with it.

molonski2 · Answer

He crossed the line there that's incredibly immature.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Yeah, drop the loser. He clearly doesn’t give a shit about you

midnightmoon05 · Answer

What do you expect from cheating? Karma?  situationsho? 🤦‍♀️

AndrésC64 · Answer

I would say that you should break it off in any case. You don't need a reason, you really shouldn't have been in the situation to begin with. But this is just another reason to end it.

Anonymous · Answer

you cannot expect someone to be honest with you who's not honest with himself or even his SO.

EmmaMary · Answer

Just what the fuck is a " Situationship "?

DrPepper12 · Answer

Rude? It's a betrayal!! No judgements on the situation but he's a dick.

PrettyBarbieDoll · Answer

Why would you cheat? Why not break up with your boyfriend and than go into a situationship?

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I probably would have stopped activities with them as well. I see nothing wrong with what you did.

fivebyfour · Answer

Well you both cheated, break off if you wish to, you don't need an excuse to do so imho,,,

BDRick · Answer

That straight up makes you a bad person in my eyes. If it were me, I’d sit down with the other and talk it over. Explain why you said what you said and have him make up for it

Anonymous · Answer

"Situationship" means we're having sex but I'm too embarrassed to let anyone else know about it?

SotiCoto · Answer

Another "Should I do this really obvious thing?" question...  Just do it.

Staximus · Answer

Break it off because you two are shit bags and now the shit is out of the bag?

Smegskull · Answer

... You're serious? 😂🤣😂🤣 I don't care when bank robers betray each other by not splitting the money evenly either.

spartan55 · Answer

Classy. I'd say you got what you deserved.

Godihateyou · Answer

Break what off? There isn't anything to break off.

In_Trance · Answer

So you fuck the guy you work with?

WhitneySnow · Answer

Very fair of you to cut him off

MasterKS · Answer

He is a typical asshole... kick him out!

hello4433 · Answer

End it

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Yes. End it

I told my situationship not to tell people about us and I found out he told his work colleagues. Is it fair of me to break things off?

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