How do you handle being ghosted?

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For the longest time, I did not handle feeling alone, being ghosted, or the thought of leaving someone. I admit I've suffered from loads of good girl syndrome. I would stay up for hours overthinking every interaction I had throughout that day and start the day ruminating on my past. I would let just anyone drain my energy before I did anything. I’ve counted my misfortunes instead of counting my blessings. By letting them take my energy, my mood often shifted. Positive emotions are not shifty. They don’t make your mentality run. Now I know my worth, and my worth is more important to me than making other people feel worthy. Nobody is likely to taste venom, but they will sense my power.

Side note: Everything that is not dealt with will grow like a weed.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You move on. It's really that simple.

Kind of like you said, knowing your worth is key. And being honest with yourself. Misunderstanding will happen and that should be the only thing you should worry about. Because you should always be giving your best. If you can honestly say that, then what is there to fret about? You can only control your actions, not others.

This was taught to me harshly by a woman I knew for the better part of 10 years. I cared about her deeply. But she was OK with tossing me aside on a whim. It took me a full year to recover and get my bearings. But now I'm thankful for her. Because I'm 10 times stronger than I was before. No woman can break me ever again. Because I accept what people give. And if I'm not given my worth I'm OK with cutting someone off at the drop of a hat without blinking. You just have to remind yourself. You did all you could, you didn't end it, they did, with thier actions or inactions. You cannot blame yourself.

melnc · Accepted Answer

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Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Sweetheart, first off, cheers to recognizing your worth and stepping into your power! Ghosting is like the modern-day disappearing act, courtesy of Mr. or Ms. Houdini. It's confusing, but remember, it says more about them than you. Your energy is precious, and don’t let anyone ghost-bust you into feeling lesser! Instead, darling, keep shining that beautiful light of yours and let it attract the ones who deserve your radiance. And hey, remember: weeds are just flowers in disguise, waiting for you to transform them into something extraordinary. 🌼 Keep slaying!

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

It's ok to not handle being ghosted well. It's a shitty thing for somebody to do. It's also a relatively new phenomenon. If you knew someone's land-line phone number... they cannot ghost you the same way (there was no caller ID either). So people had to actually say something if they wanted to end some sort of romantic whatever. It's a cowardly move. It hurts. I haven't been ghosted myself. But I've talked to many people who have been. It can really cut people very deeply. I don't think it is something anybody could handle well. It's not a situation anyone should have to go through.

Finchie40 · Answer

Being Ghosted by someone is a shitty feeling, but understand it’s their issue not yours , People that ghost are selfish immature people that have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves, so being Ghosted by someone like that, isn’t really a loss to be honest with you , so look at it as more of a favor , that they are no longer a part of your life , people that want to be a part of your life will not Ghost you whatsoever, so just move on from that selfish person and realize they aren’t worth anymore of your time and energy whatsoever , they should automatically mean shit to you , because they have no respect for you whatsoever. Even if they decide to reach out to you later down the road , just ignore them and give them a taste of their own medicine by completely ignoring them and acting like they no longer exist to you.

Lucy68 · Answer

Sweetie, listen, as someone who has been lead on and ghosted it's not easy. I'm going to tell you a story. A while back I was talking to a guy, he was cute (and somewhat , I was out of his league cause really he was really really cute). Anywho, he told me that he had an instinct to protect me, how I was special, how he wanted to create a new life with me. And stupidly I believed him, I was really starting to get feelings for him. Well he didn't message back for a few days and understandably you know people are busy including me, however, I would see him active on social media and I messaged him to see if he was having a good day, and he never messaged back, I messaged him one more time and asked him, "were you leading me on" and well he ghosted me most likely before that, and most likely did lead me on. Did it hurt, hell yes is hurt. And my dream is to become a mommy someday and he knew, and he used that to lure me in and mess with both my head and my heart. I cried cause I felt like a fool and complete dumb fool. And sweetie just like I you, I feel like I suffer from the good girl syndrome too.

People that ghost and lead others on, no offense but they have no remorse, no care, no decency, no anything for others. And honestly, I find men like that pathetic, narcissistic, little bitches that for some sick reason gets their ego boost by leading girls on then ghosting them. It's pretty sad and pathetic for a man scratch that a boy to do that cause no REAL man would lead someone on and then ghost them. Again it's pretty sad and pathetic.

But guess what, it's their lost. I don't know who you are, but you're a beautiful, kind, sweet, funny, and most likely a one in a million. Don't let him steal your joy, your happiness. It's their lost not ours. And like someone on here said, it's a really shitty thing for them to do. They're not worth our time and they need to know, karma is real, and what you do into others will come back to haunt you.

As ladies we deserve someone who's going to be there and will give us 100% each and every day. And again, guys that ghost females they have no value, possibly no self worth and again are really sad and pathetic.

overlord337645 · Answer

I find people try to break you to make you feel less then you truly are but at the end of the day when they come back for more and you have not been emotionally drained by it they lose all the power to grow a lot of people who ghost tend to have a pattern for it or so I recently learned and there is two options you can cut them off or still your resolve without them wait for their return and watch them try again the only difference is instead of letting them drain you your already at full energy when they come back

ProbablyClueless · Answer

If I recognize what's happening, I cut my losses quickly and respect the person's wishes. Unfortunately, I haven't always recognized what was happening.

I hate to admit this, but in the past, I have hung on for wayyyyyyyy too long and didn't take the hint that the person didn't want to talk with me anymore. I simply didn't realize that they were ghosting me.

In one particular case, I saw what she was doing and thought it was really shitty, but I didn't make the connection that she wanted to end the relationship because it didn't really make sense.

In my defense, I had a number of reasons for not taking the hint. So it's not like I was being braindead. The situation was needlessly drawn out and painful though.

14gurlz2gagonit · Answer

I just answered another question that was about ghosting so I'll try to summarize it here. It used to fuck with me, but I kept finding out it wasn't me and it's just a woman cheating on some guy I didn't know about. So, the whole "What did I do... did I do something wrong?" Quickly just turned into me assuming she's cheating on someone and that's why... and thus no longer giving a fuck.

I'm probably not right every time, but the reason is probably just as retarded. I'm not stressing over it so that's the good thing.

Random_g · Answer

I'm sorry you felt that way
And I mean it, because I'm someone who ghost people but I didn't know it's affect on people untill recently because I never felt bothered by it when it's done to me..

But I thinks it depends on how everyone's mind work, some overthink things and some don't and some just forget.. For me I forget easily so it's normal and okay, it doesn't necessarily means that person is a bad person or something, there is many other ways to figure this qualities out

OneViewpoint · Answer

How do I handle it? Next...

Why cling to someone who obviously doesn't want you around? Where's that gonna end up? Right, nowhere. Save yourself some time and grief and just accept it to move on. Spend your time and effort on people who appreciate it. Let the others go for your own sake.

HarveyLaw · Answer

It is never easy or simple but after a while you realize the value of solitude. People come and go from our lives and it is completely normal. If they do not want to share with me anymore it is their choice and, frankly, it is better they go away. Nobody should ever have this power over us to mess with our "inner balance". Those few who stay long term with us are to be more appreciated and receive the best of our friendship.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Easier said than done, but literally the only thing you can do is move on. It's not an optional thing, it's literally all you can do. It's either move on or stay stuck in the past.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for ghosting unfortunately we live in a world where people do such childish things & when it comes to ghosting if it happens to me I look at it in a positive way where the person is doing me a favor by not talking to me. I love it.

evie56 · Answer

honestly, i just don’t care anymore. it’s their loss xD

Nikki1989 · Answer

You can't be offended by something that doesn't exist. It is much like leagues, friend zones and all the other gibberish. It is all nonsense people invent in their heads. Get over it, move on!

WonderingManII · Answer

#1 place I get ghosted is the internet. I have learned not to expect too much from people online. :(

truecrimelover1999 · Answer

I’ve just come to expect it tbh, I’ve had a lot of girls do it to me when I’ve been single. I just try not to get my hopes up. It’s a really shitty thing to do though and I never do it to someone else as I know how it feels to have to done to me

Tarifa · Answer

It sucks, period. But then I say to myself, if this person ghosts me or doesn't respond, is he/she really worth investing time in?

DonaldDarko · Answer

Just by knowing human nature. People are like that and I just don't care. You work with what you have.

beenherebefore · Answer

By moving on. If I reach someone and they don't get back to me then I immediately take it as a hint that they don't want to talk.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I agree with you. That’s the best way to handle being ghosted.

Anonymous · Answer

I usually call GhostBusters :P

Ironic_Method · Answer

I feel like it's their loss. Also, I still find it weird because most of the time they approach me.

AndrésC64 · Answer

It really doesn't affect me. I figure that they aren't worth my time and I'm better off without them.

Stella1 · Answer

I block them cut off contact. Cause i’ve had an ex do this I blocked her stop talking to her. I don’t have time for that.

MasterKS · Answer

be yourself, understand the reality of life, enjoy being human.

RingOfFire · Answer

Ghost them back! 👍 ... ... Oh wait. 🤔

Still-alive · Answer

if its someone i cared about a lot then not well

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve been ghosted several times , it’s difficult to lose that anger and resentment towards people

blackeagle007 · Answer

It sucks. But can’t control what others do.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Accept that they’re a cowardly little bitch who doesn’t have the courage to do things the right way, and move forward.

Godihateyou · Answer

I laugh and move on. Thank you for making it so easy

H1lifeee · Answer

I’m glad you know your worth!! I think your on the right path

Renegade_Sailor · Answer

Move on, don't water dead plants.

JordansGate · Answer

Fuck them and move on. Block their asses.

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Has not happened yet but I wouldn't give a F

Pohjolan · Answer

By moving on.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

just ignore them

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