What is your personality flaw?

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Mine - is being self-aggrandizing… Out of everything else I think this is the most prominent personality flaw I have.  I would love to know yours, so that I don’t feel alone in this.

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

Oh, I have plenty, haha. I like to think I’m a pretty good guy, but I’m for sure not perfect.

I’m probably a bit of an elitist. I don’t actively look down on nice people, but if they waver in their kindness, I can sometimes take that as a green light to start. I think it’s mostly intellect-based.

Like when I get into it with Trump supporters…. I’m not a mean-spirited person, but Trump is a bad enough guy to an obvious enough degree that I’m pretty unforgiving when people like him, I feel like that’s just an indicator of something truly ghoulish and evil that resides in your character that I just can’t in good conscience interact with. And a lot of what Trump says and his people believe to be true is just simply abject stupidity, not a matter of opinion. Like you’re legitimately dumb if you believe it. And if you’re dumb on your own time, that’s fine, but when you start fucking up our entire society because of it, that’s going to activate me.

This is just an example to illustrate, I don’t want to turn this into a whole Trump thing, but these days, that’s the quickest way for me to no longer take you seriously as a possibly-intelligent human being, and the resentment it conjures up in me makes me act on my elitism.

I can be elitist about physical appearance too. This will sound funny, but…I prefer to be in the company of beautiful and stylish people😅😂 I’m probably just barely passing to get by myself, lmao, but if I’m being honest, that’s my preference. I was out with some buddies a few weeks ago, and we’re all past that age where we’re out hounddogging and chasing ladies, half are married, mid-40s. And I don’t know, I just felt kind of embarrassed in a way, that we’re middle-aged dudes, some were just wearing t-shirts and jeans, I was the only one dressed nicely, one friend of a friend is a nice dude but obese and very unkempt looking. Great guys and I had a great time, but something in me is image-conscious.

It wasn’t that long ago (in my mind, not in reality😂) that I was strutting into parties and bars with a bunch of college football players, big men on campus, all eyes on us when we walked in somewhere. I truly miss that, walking in and people notice. You feel like a superstar.

I can also be aloof at times. Particularly in situations where the crowd isn’t “cool” enough for me. My lady’s sister is kind of…I don’t know, “alternative?” I don’t know what you call it, but just one of those people covered in tattoos and stretched out ear gauges and facial piercings and wild haircuts. But my girlfriend and I are much more “usual”, haha, she’s very much a girly-girl and a fashionista.

So there have been situations where I have to go to a party with the tattoos-and-piercings crew, and they’re nice enough people…. but we’re just natural enemies in the wild😝 We have nothing in common, and I look like the kind of guy who bullied them back in high school, lmfao. We’re adults now, so we can just chill, but there’s still kind of a wariness of each other that I think we have. And frankly, right or wrong, my mentality is kind of like “no offense, but…. I’m kind of just cooler than you.”😅 I don’t mean to be like that, but I think I clam up because I don’t know them that well, and we don’t really have anything in common. I like sports, they like obscure bands I’ve never heard of. We just aren’t a match, there’s no animosity, but it just is what it is.

So in those times, my lady says I remind her of Jon Favreau’s character in the movie “I Love You, Man.” Just clearly don’t want to be there or have anything to do with the people in attendance. Like at 0:55 in particular…. that’s SO me🤣🤣🤣

https://www.youtube.com/embed/gBzFRgvAatw

The other big one….. I’m a flippin’ LUNATIC, lmfao

I can be a little intense if I’m frustrated😅🤣

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Flaw? As in singular? Thank you for that but I think you're being irrationally optimistic about the human race. LOL, we all have multiple flaws.

Mine?

I'm a goal focused bastard. I had to learn to stop and thank the people in my life at appropriate moments. I still need to work at it. It doesn't come naturally.

I have extremely low tolerance for and patience with people who can't keep up. Mentally. Physically. Character (morality and ethics). Again it's something I need to stay aware of and work on all the time.

My own morality is flexible and situational. That can shock some people who struggle to understand where that came from.

I'm an introvert. I'd rather not interact with most people. Like 95%, LOL. That probably costs me knowing some people who are worth knowing. It takes a long time to get to know me. I realize that.

I've been told I can be exhausting to be around, both mentally and physically. I never stop going and I can't shut my brain off. Even to sleep. I've also been told I'm intimidating.

Pretty attractive package eh... ROFL.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't know if it’s a flaw but it seems to make people dislike me. I feel most people don’t hold commonsense and I view them as stupid. I don’t care if you’re a doctor and architect and or a housekeeper or just a person without any job. If you don’t have commonsense I view you are dumb. I don’t automatically assume you’re dumb, it’s usually after certain situations or conversations when it reveals a person lacks commonsense and it tents to be people who lean toward democratic leftism. Of course there’s many who are republicans or any other supporting party but just in general the most who ignore commonsense tend to be left leaning.

I can’t help but to think “why are you dumb?”

and the others who think like those people saying or thinking along the lines of but they are smarter because they’re a doctor a lawyer etc etc

that just proves to me those are even dumber than the others thinking that because they’re got a position in high men’s careers means they are “smart” .. they just read books did the time and got placed in what it corresponds, it has nothing to do with actual intelligence. They know what they read in books.

smh 🤦‍♀️

DishLady · Accepted Answer

My personality flaw is giving importance to nonsensical things (Hello GaG)…

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Helping folks with love and life is my jam, but shhh... don’t tell anyone I’m sometimes a perfectionist. I might spend way too much time analyzing relationship quirks or hunting for hidden red flags, making my family wait forever for a game night to start. But hey, at least I give love advice with flair, right? 😉 What's important is recognizing our flaws and working on them. Cheers to self-awareness and a sprinkle of charm!

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Chazmatazz269 · Answer

The one that bothers me most is my introversion. I don’t think of it as a “flaw”, but it definitely has drawbacks. It’s difficult to build and maintain good relationships with people because of it. Only a very understanding person can accept someone as deeply introverted as i am and deal with my proclivities. They are truly few and far between.
When i was younger, i barely noticed and didn’t much care. It’s difficult now, and often seems too late to do anything meaningful about it.

AviatorTom · Answer

I tend to overthink things, usually the important ones.

Simslover92 · Answer

Overthinker, procrastinator, and self-sabotaging.

Genie23 · Answer

Overthinking and short temper. These things led to problem at times. I'm working on them.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I am deeply analytical, which is exhausting at times and also causes me often to remove emotion. Something I am recognized for in a profession sense for but berated for within personal relationships sometimes being referred to as a “robotic”. Also causes me to overthink in my pursuit to understand every facet in the pursuit of a solution. I don’t struggle with emotional intelligence though which is often a challenge for the analytical thinkers like me.

I have always been me though and although I don’t personally see this as a huge negative I am hyper aware of it at times socially.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Self aggrandizement is probably a way to appeal to the rest of the tribe. If you are liked by the tribe you'll survive better. I think that's why people seek attention all the time so they're not forgotten by the rest of the tribe. This stuff evolved thousands of years ago, probably further back than that.

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

I have the joy of dealing with imposter syndrome in periods, making me overcompensate while being a overthinker which makes me retreat.

Beckybooboo · Answer

I'm too orderly. It drives me crazy if stuff isn't in it's proper place and if I didn't do exactly what was on my "list" of things to do. I have gotten up at two in the morning to dust! Only because I didn't feel like it when I got home but just couldn't let it go for one day 🤦

Crazymybeat005 · Answer

I think my personality flaw is I tend to doubt what others say and or don't believe them. No matter the assurance, I'll be fine then if something comes a little out of character for say another person I just overthink and doubt. But thankfully there are ways to manage and work on it haha

CTHuskyMan · Answer

Well... I'd say that my flaw is being stubborn. Sometimes, I simply cannot be moved. Other times, I might come off as being a bit weird.

Even so, on this kind of thing, I like to quote Marilyn Monroe..."if you can't handle me at my worst (weirdest?), then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best". :)

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I really try my best to not be this way, but I can be a harsh person at times and I have REALLY made myself look like an idiot a few times over the years. It's really important for me to remind myself that I'm dealing with someone with thoughts and feelings

Grond21 · Answer

Is this based on pride, do you think? Mine is being lazy

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Well - you always will feel ''alone'' with yourself :) No ''sharing'' of flaws will change this. My own one: I tend to say yes too early, and to say no too late.

molonski2 · Answer

I'm not even sure what that is?  I have many faults I'm sure , but no idea what they all are  55555  Maybe faultless?

SotiCoto · Answer

How the fuck should I know? Isn't that sort of thing subjective?
So far as I can tell my personality is fine. Almost everyone else I've ever spoken to disagrees... but I regard them all as wrong. It is my body that is a complete and utter garbage heap.

Anonymous · Answer

my personality flaw is probably trying to be like someone else (not a particular person, just someone else that i wish i was like). it's exhausting.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm self aware to the extent that I know what people will say to me before they say it; I know what I need to do and just don't do it. I'm stubborn as fuck.

Communicationisking · Answer

Being too trusting... The amount of times I've been F'd over by someone that I trust or give the benefit of the doubt to that in my gut I know are going to do it but somehow I still have not completely just let my gut decide and say no

MrChinaski · Answer

I just call stuff as it is. Some people don't like that

NicholasRedone · Answer

Sometimes - some days - eyes 👀 "it's all about me, me, me*

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Never being satisfied or grateful enough for what I have.

TallAnon · Answer

I have low self-discipline; If I don't want to do something, then I won't do it until it becomes an emergency.

Staximus · Answer

Making a big deal about stuff that's not a big deal, or not knowing when to keep my mouth shut

WellBye · Answer

Girl, you're just a chronic loser and you know you're insecure, so stop giving yourself fancy diagnoses.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

I compromise in order to get along with people.

strateguy632 · Answer

Mainly i am boring, but also a bit awkward socially and quite cynical too, but even that is not enough to counter the boring.

msc545 · Answer

Occasional arrogance. I need to be very careful about this.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I'm EXTEMELY frank, plus I have little patience with fools.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

I don't like egoistic people, why are you egoistic?

Reem12345reem · Answer

i have all bad flaws unfortunately, irresponsible , self sabotaging , high ego , insecure , jealous , the list goes on

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

My anger towards all the bad things that have happened to me in life. I hate humanity and would like nothing more to wake up one day and be the last man on earth..

CaptainSmartass · Answer

I'm just too perfect. I don't have any flaws whatsoever.  Simples...

Anonymous · Answer

Shyness (more in person than online). But I’m working on that and I’m a lot better than I used to be.

DJB72 · Answer

I'm too accommodating. I look for the best in people even with hard evidence it isn't there

dragoblack · Answer

I don't understand sarcasm & "hints", and im not the best at wording my thoughts, so my intentions get easily misunderstood.

ilistengood · Answer

No problem I was just having little fun with you not critiquing your response.

Guanfei · Answer

I hate myself. Not like hating one thing in me, or a couple. I openly and entirely hate myself as much, if not more, as I'd hate my worst enemy.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Apparently I’m a people pleaser. I hadn’t really internalized it until a coach recently told me in conversation

Maria01_ · Answer

I tend to have hard time over thinking. Explaining things. I tend to have to have the last word.

4ngelic · Answer

laziness & procrastination

LiaRaven · Answer

Sometimes I am arrogant

Panthero80 · Answer

I tend to procrastinate.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Too judgmental in romantic relationships.

princeofromance · Answer

I am stubborn.

wkhan_87 · Answer

I be easily hyper and angry

MemeSupreme · Answer

my whole personality is a flaw lol

serious · Answer

There are quite a few to be honest.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes I'm too shy and introverted.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I guess stubbornness.

exitseven · Answer

I am too nice.

eagle1951 · Answer

i tell it like it is good or bad

DrPepper12 · Answer

People pleaser.

Anonymous · Answer

I am far too modest! :) :) :)

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I underestimate my ability to charm people

SamWinchester058 · Answer

Analysis paralysis

anmari2001 · Answer

Too flawless

TrevorPhilips79 · Answer

I think I just hold it all in.

themermaidqueen1990 · Answer

I have no patience

Godihateyou · Answer

Im a serial killer

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