Should MOTHERS be required to DO SOMETHING for the guy who gave her children on FATHERS DAY?

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A guy gets his female partner pregnant and she becomes a mother. As a show of thanks, should she then be required to do something for him on Fathers Day? IF so, what?

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Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

I’m a big fan of liberty. While meaningful freedom does require some sacrifice, legislating those requirements is diametrically opposed to liberty.
That said, fathers’ day should be about a man’s relationship with his children. Just because women made mothers’ day all about themselves, doesn’t mean men should do the same. Two wrongs do not make a right.
If men do want to be self-centered little piggies like their maternal role models, they need only remember that his part in procreation was easy compared to hers. In the current sociopolitical climate, it seems quite easy and widely acceptable for a woman to simply decide to terminate a pregnancy and make it happen. Furthermore, it’s perfectly legal and wildly common for women to weaponize the family courts against the father (s) of their children; taking custody of the kids and demanding obscene child support payments all while preventing him from seeing his children and developing a meaningful bond with them.
With that in mind, if a woman carries a pregnancy to term and actually allows the father meaningful parenting time, she’s already done more than most.
A reasonable man might consider that the greatest gift… the mere chance to let fathers’ day be about his relationship with his rugrats.
Just sayin’.

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

I'm pretty sure most women do something for the men who fathered their children on father's day without it being required. Requiring a gesture of kindness sorta negates the value of the gesture. If it is not freely given it loses its value.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

The bottom line about Mother's and Father's days are that they are BOTH greeting card creations, started by corporations to capitalize on emotions of humans about their partners and parents...

It's a nice thought, but no one is obligated to do anything on these faux event days.

I think remembering people on their birthdays is much more significant. And on a big holiday like Christmas or Hannukah, end of Ramadan or any religious/b day thing that suits you.

Should mothers be required to do something for the man who donated a sperm to fertilize her egg and she had to carry those kids for 9 months?

Wellllll... Guys don't do much work before the event. However, those who make up for solely being sperm donors to start, by being solid dads should get thanked in some way the mom thinks is appropriate. .

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

Making that a requirement and not just a gesture is a bit much, not every man deserves the acknowledgment on that day. Same goes for mothers, just because a woman gives birth does not make her fit for parenting or even interested in doing so.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Hey there, fellow love enthusiast! You're touching on a pretty sizzling topic. Fathers' Day isn't about obligations or, you know, "special favors" all day long. It's more about appreciating each other and the roles you've both stepped into. Maybe a heartfelt note or a loving gesture is way more meaningful than anything too risqué! Or maybe a little lovebombing to make him feel special. It really depends on what you both value in your relationship. Keep it fun, light, and full of love. 😘

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I think most women will give the father of her children a father's day card... if they're still together. Or still on good-terms.

But there are a lot of cases where there isn't any good feeling between a mother, and the "man who gave her children."

So I think this is not be something I can agree with. Not as a general thing. I believe, this already is the case, in most "happy families."

Genie23 · Answer

It feels great when someone does things for you as a gesture to show that they love you and you mean a lot to them... not because they feel obligated to do so but if it would become an obligation... then that'd be just sad 😭

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If a woman gives some trinket because she is obligated, and not because of love, respect, or gratitude, then it is a rather meaningless gesture.

ShellyB · Answer

“Required” no I don’t even know who would enforce a rule like that but, I think in a good relationship she would do something for him just as he would do something for her for Mother's Day. JMO!

alli-112 · Answer

I mean, I don't think anyone should be required to celebrate any particular holiday. I do think that it can be nice to celebrate those sort of holidays with your family or or partner (assuming it's relevant). That said, you're not celebrating someone for them having gotten someone pregnant, but for the ongoing role they play in the lives of their families. Producing a pregnancy is fairly easy, being a good parent is a difficult and complicated role that requires a lot of effort and sacrifice. That's what's being celebrated.

Weird interpretation of the holiday in my opinion.

Lliam · Answer

I can't imagine anyone not resenting being "required" to do anything. If you're not doing it of your own free will, you're a slave.
Even feeling obligated makes it a chore.
People should show their regard for each other out of love and affection.

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

For me fathers day (&mother day for that sake) are days where CHILDREN show appreciation towards their parents. If said children are to young to do such a thing on their own, then the mother should help them do so, regardless of their own feelings towards the father. (As long as they good to the kids). But it's starting to look like this is cultural, at least looking at this site - questions and replies.

EmmaMary · Answer

@aviatortom   Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award.

Anonymous · Answer

The idea behind Father's Day is for the children and spouse to show special appreciation for their father/husband on his day. But that means he should be worthy of their appreciation. The same goes for mothers, of course.

I am lucky to have the best dad ever, so I always treat him like gold on Father's Day.

Personally I don't think fathers get the recognition and appreciation they deserve, although it seems to have gotten a little better the last few years.

Communicationisking · Answer

No but they do when the kids are little the take the kids shopping to get dads something or just get a gift for the kids to give to dad etc. (not always the case though) :(

rluka · Answer

I'm choosing to purchase a gift for my child to give to her father for Father's Day. As a mother who doesn't receive anything at all, I know how it feels to feel unappreciated. It is not my priority, therefore it will be one week late. But I choose to do it for my child, not her father.

Miristheiss · Answer

Well, if something is expected on Mothers' Day then the same should be expected for Fathers' Day. Otherwise, neither can do anything. Just let the kids do it. It is their parents.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe fogive a month of child support? I guess that is asking too much. Maybe recant the false accusations? - again probably asking too much. Perhaps let him actually see the child - nah.

How about just leaving him the fuck alone for that one day?

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not required but it’s nice if she does, just like he should do stuff for her on Mothers Day. Assuming they’re a couple.

Shiprex · Answer

Probably though I don't think celebrating the ability to procreate is really a worthy thing to celebrate.

alice55 · Answer

No, it's children who do something not spouse

HelpfulGirlll · Answer

Societal expectations shouldn't dictate acts of intimacy or gratitude.

jeta33 · Answer

Yes, mothers should be required to DO SOMETHING for the guy who gave her children on FATHERS DAY.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Pretty sure if she “did something” more often she wouldn’t have gotten pregnant from a bum who can’t step up and start a family  Father’s day is too little too late I would say

Ariesman81 · Answer

Nothing. She didn't make me a father, the child did.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah, you’d figure many might be wishing they’d given more blowjobs… 🤔😂

exitseven · Answer

My wife cooked me a nice dinner today

sage2021 · Answer

That would be a nice gesture 😊

chrissykerdock · Answer

maybe a few it is a Sunday

slatyb · Answer

Thanks for what? Five minutes of his time?

Anonymous · Answer

It's every mother's personal choice.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Um, I get my wife a gift on mother's day?

jahaims · Answer

Nope

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

AT LEAST two b. j.'s !!!

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