Is it true to NEVER get with a man that has been chasing you for years?

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I hear they will discard you soon after

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's any general rules about this. I think you need to deal with it on a case by case basis. Don't look at it as "a guy who has been chasing you for years" look at it as..."am I interested in this guy?" If you are inclined to get with him, then give it a shot. The fact that he's been chasing you for years doesn't indicate much about how things, with this specific guy, are likely to go. Just make sure you do want to get with him. Because getting with someone BECAUSE they've been chasing you... is a bad idea. You've got to be genuinely interested in him.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Using this as a criteria for choosing a partner is like buying a used car based on the air freshener inside, instead of the mileage or condition. It's focusing on something completely unimportant.

What are his morals and values? What are his life goals? Those are the things that matter - they are what determines whether a relationship has long term potential or not.

It's hard enough in this world to find someone you have a connection with. To dismiss them for such a shallow reason is beyond foolish.

Ellie-V · Accepted Answer

I think it opens room for them to resent you for your deficiency. It opens up disillusionment.
I doubt most people who chase for so long have a healthy sense of self respect. Perhaps them getting what they want isn’t always going to be as prosperous as they’d hoped.

As for the object of desire, if their heart has changed for some reason, discernment is the only thing that can protect you whether the outcomes are in your favor or not.

Godspeed to both of y’all.

DangerouslyCute · Accepted Answer

some people like the thrill of chasing... some like the person they chase... so it depends on the case... not on the gender of the chaser and chased :D

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to help untangle the web of love and relationships with a pinch of humor and a dash of fun! 🌟 If someone's been chasing you for years, it might be because they're genuinely interested, not because they have a sinister plan to ghost you. However, proceed with caution and keep an eye out for any red flags. Relationships thrive on mutual respect and chemistry, not just persistent pursuit. Trust your instincts and take your time. 😄❤️ It's all about finding the right balance, not just the longest chase!🎉

Finchie40 · Answer

I would say Yes because I know most of you females’ Do not like being chased , you like to be the chaser instead. I chased a girl once when I was younger and I kicked myself on the asks for doing so and realized I will never do that again , by me never doing it again , I had girls’ chasing me instead lol

AviatorTom · Answer

I wouldn't bet on that. When asked how my father and mother met, he usually said, "I chased her until she finally caught me." They were married for 40 years until my father died.

Hal2002 · Answer

It comes down to the couple, I know a guy that chased a girl for 7 years. They have been happily married for around 30 years now.

I know another guy that chased after his high school crush for years, they where married for less than 6 months. The problem was that he saw her as the teen she used to be, and when he finally got her. He expected her to be that young teen version in his mind, and could not accept the woman her she had become when the joy of getting her wore off and reality set in.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I'd believe in this reasoning that someone chasing for years would be not really chasing you, per se. Instead he'd chase this  imaginary  version of you he's running in his head. It would be a very flattering one, so flattering that you could never keep up even if you wished for it. As he would discover that you cannot realistically match this fantasy he had, then he would have no choice but to leave the scene. And you in the process, because you would have never been a person anyway. Just an idea. His idea.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Your question and your responses sound like you are trying to find a way to sabotage this yet, you say both of you are into each other. Why not just give it a chance and see what happens? Don't go into it with insecurities expecting it to fail.

DevotedWarrior4Venus · Answer

Could be a bad idea depending on his personality and the context. There being a subset of men that could chase you for years but the moment you finally give him the chance you never did before, he could flare up in own mind some suspicion and have a lack of trust in you after not seeing in them their potential and worth as a leader and lover.

It can be a good idea if they are an acts of service type, someone devotional, and saw in you a deep friendship that caused a long burning fire in their heart.

If he is red pill, it's probably not gonna work out

If he is pink pill, blue pilled, purple pilled it's probably gonna pan out okay.

Miristheiss · Answer

What a wuss. What pathetic kind of man would chase one woman for years? If a woman isn't into you, you move on to someone else. You only want to be with a woman that has a strong interest and desire for you. Just clinging to one woman who has zero interest in you in the hopes you'll wear her down and in years you'll get a shot?

Pathetic.

genericname85 · Answer

i get the logic of if he's chasing you for that long then you can score probably much better than him, cause there has to be quite an attraction gradient for him to be that interested. but the other way to think about it is: will you get a man who's as loyal as that man who's not even obligated to be loyal to you?

Reem12345reem · Answer

Neverrrrr , people who are obssesed with u have mental health issues and they're toxic , sure normal "obsession" is cute but the obsession of chasing u for years is a big red flag

spartan55 · Answer

Heard from whom? Sounds like another myth perpetuated by women...😂

Shiprex · Answer

MAKING them work for it is childish. If you're not interested tell them to gtf.

exitseven · Answer

I imagine it might be true in some cases but I think most guys that finally score will appreciate it more.

SamWinchester058 · Answer

I doubt you get with him and stay with him. His actions don't scream self respect. If you've already rejected him then no self respecting guy should continue the chase. So, even if you give him an opportunity I'd bet you'd get the ick pretty quickly.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not sure if that’s always true, but sometimes it is

Geo1970 · Answer

That depends if you have finally worked out that he is trustworthy or not.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I would give reward for effort in that case.

beenherebefore · Answer

Never been in such situation but it kind of makes sense what you said.

WonderingManII · Answer

I'm wondering why is He chasing you for years?

WhiteThought · Answer

If they are that desperate, that is a red flag in itself.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It does not make sense. Why would they discard you if they finally have you?

blackeagle007 · Answer

Once friendzone, I no longer communicate with the woman.

Anonymous · Answer

That's just nonsense.

MisterWack · Answer

You won’t know unless you date them tbh.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

No, why would you deny them just for that

nl171 · Answer

That makes no sense

Jeff51 · Answer

Sounds creepy.

Anonymous · Answer

😆😆😆

Tom567456 · Answer

Depends

Anonymous · Answer

Duhh

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