How do you come to terms with the fact that you will always be alone?

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Bricealan · Accepted Answer

@simslover92 Simslover, we are all alone, in a sense, even with family and friends with us. We are born alone and die alone, even with those around us... ... My brother died alone, but I should have been there to hold him when he took that last breath, and telling him "I've got ya bro" He still died alone. Sims, you are the kind of woman that will NEVER be alone, no matter WHAT! That too for the other wonderful members of our small Clique here on GAG.

Still-alive · Accepted Answer

You won't be forever alone as long as you keep trying.

And something else i would advise you as someone who has had to learn this myself is try to let go of the feeling that if you are alone that means there's something wrong with you. as long as you keep trying you just haven't met the right person yet. It should hopefully take some of the stress off your shoulders when you internalize that fact.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to sprinkle some warmth and positivity into your life! So, let's tackle this idea of being forever alone. Remember, being content with yourself is like the holy grail of happiness. It's important to nurture relationships of all kinds—friendships, family, and maybe some romantic spice later on! 😉 Life is filled with surprises, and you never know when love will come knocking or when you'll get to be the life of the party—or at least a cozy gathering! Stay open, and never underestimate the magic of loving yourself. ❤️

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ohsheeT · Answer

Remember this what comes out of your mouth will happen. It's energy. And it will happen time  And there is no way in this world your going to be alone.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why should you accept that as a fact. I was alone for several years and got married last year.

MrOracle · Answer

What did you prioritize over a relationship? I don't actually expect an answer, but if you had made a relationship a priority - which includes both having realistic standards for the man AND bringing things to the relationship that men value, you would have a relationship now. It's pretty clear that you had other priorities.

As a woman, your relationship value in your 20s, especially your early 20s, is similar to inheriting tens of millions of dollars on your 18th birthday, except you can only spend that value on the relationship market.

The problem is that this value that was bestowed upon a woman by being female and turning 18, depreciates throughout her 20s even if she does nothing, but depreciates much more rapidly with every partner she has, and even more with non-committed partners. Yet, even as her market value declines, most women want, demand, and feel entitled to more and more, which only reduces her chances of success.

If you were talking to a young man who had the potential to become a professional athlete - say baseball, football, basketball, or hockey - and he kept putting off pursuing that sport, thinking that he could put off taking it seriously, playing local games in the park but not playing in high school or college, would it be any surprise that he couldn't get a tryout at 28? Of course not - tryouts are for 22 year-olds who have an academic record. It's the same kind of thing.

The men you go for don't take you seriously because you are shopping above your league, and don't bring the value to shop at that level, even if you once did.

LaBron James can buy mansions because he brought the value to the league to get paid. Our hypothetical athlete isn't going to be taken seriously if shopping for mansions because he never brought the value to the league and thus never got the payday. You don't pay for mansions with past potential, but with current tangible value. Our broke athlete COULD have been a professional, but he didn't choose that path because he had other priorities, and now that opportunity is gone. He's got to find a cheap one-bedroom apartment because that's all he can get with the value he has to provide. Shopping outside his league won't ever get him a mansion, or anything but being homeless.

Of course, you can still work to increase your value and maybe increase your level a bit, but that would require learning what men value in a woman and becoming and embracing those things. That's like our athlete getting a job and cleaning up his bad credit - it won't get him the mansion, but it might get him a mortgage on a small starter home so he can get out of the apartment.

Screenwriter · Answer

Well, you aren't ALWAYS alone. There are times when you are, but you have friends, family, a job.

If you mean existentially. Well, there is no other way to exist, is there. The way to enjoy it is to read, experience film, art, poetry. Let your mind wander and relax after your experiences. Play games. Create. Even in our singularliness, there is joy in living life: waking every day to a new day and new experiences.

There are people to meet and places to go, things to do. Life is a gift, alone or with others.

Caroline91 · Answer

I think it is important to learn to like our own self first so we feel good about what we have to offer. That helps protect from getting into relationships out of desperation, which tends not to lead to a healthy dynamic. Then, the next step is concentrating on developing real friendships with both women and men, and nurturing quality relationships with those we surround ourselves with. At that point, allowing ourself to be open to a romantic relationship is key. It’s a conscious process. You can do it, I know. And I really hope you are getting the help you need for your depression.

aaron13547 · Answer

Learn to love yourself. Someone once told me that if you want a relationship you should write down all the characteristics you want that person to have (strong, hardworking, confident, successful...) Now when you finish that list you need to become all those things and the person you want will find you. I think accepting ideas like that attract it to you. Try not trying... just learn to love yourself. work on finding out who you are, not finding out who you could be with another person. I believe the truest love isn't something we look for and find. What's truly meant for us finds us

RavVid · Answer

@Simslover92 There are a lot of things that make it difficult for couples to form long duration relationship presently.

Marriage is the leader in relationship formation but it is now a bust. The median (50%) length is now 8 years with 1.8 children. That is not a viable deal for men as at least 70% of wives initiate unilateral divorce by 8 years. As only 10% of men initiate unilateral divorce the true figure is probably 90% of divorces are wife initiated.

I suspect relationships now only last till they stop being fun.

So whilst you might consider it an inferior option (as I do), the only choice you have is a series of short term relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

No one ever has to be alone. Get help, find groups and organizations, you might not like churches but there are a lot of accepting people there and there are a lot of different kinds of churches from very religious to not religious at all. And it doesn't have to be a church. Find any kind of group you can join and get to know people and make friends. School groups and work groups and community groups and volunteer groups and game groups and reading groups. Whatever it is, find it. Ask people you know now to spend time with you. Ask for introductions to nice people. The only catch to all of this is you have to do the work, you can't just sit around and wait for it to come to you. But it's not a lot of work and the payoff is much greater than the amount of effort you will put in. Do something. Don't just sit there and say you will be alone.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I've slowly been going insane so if I figure it out I'll let you know but what I've been doing is just trying to stay busy and keep telling myself over and over the juice isn't worth the squeeze. Too many people these days are so selfish and self absorbed they don't have enough love for others to be in a healthy relationship. All that love is focused on the self. Don't get me wrong self love is important but a lot of "Self love" these days in reality is just narcissism. I see a lot of people labeling toxic behavior as self love.

nawtee_me · Answer

I am not sure you really come to terms with that. Other than becoming a nun or something. Maybe I am a hopeless romantic but I believe that when you least expect it the right guy will make himself known to you. If you have resolved to be alone then you won’t notice him as the right one.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

I didn’t “come to terms” with it, I chose it. I want to be alone. If you don’t want to be alone, then find some company. Don’t act like being without a romantic partner means you’ll always be alone. We put romance on an insanely undeserving pedestal, you can live a happy life without it IF YOU CHOOSE TO not because you feel like you have no choice.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I have never been always alone, and I will never be always alone. That's for me.

About you, I'm telling you that you can't come to terms with something that is not a fact. If you really want to talk about facts, then come back when you'll be much older and tell me that you were always alone, I'll believe you then.

In the meantime, I can't believe you.

exitseven · Answer

I dealt with this years ago. I learned how to do things on my own and lived my life like I did not need anybody else. . I got really used to being alone. maybe too used to it.
When I finally found somebody that attitude really made me sabotage the relationship. I felt that I did not owe anybody any accountability for anything that I did. It caused a lot of friction in my marriage. Eventually I figured it out but it sucks that I got that way in the first place.

Abbycado · Answer

I don’t think you give up. You don’t want a defeatist attitude so young still.

sage2021 · Answer

I enjoy being alone and I am not lonely. It's so peaceful. But if I could bring back my Patrick John from heaven - I would do it in a heartbeat 💓

NoDecision · Answer

No one can really know that. Out of billions on Earth, all it takes is  ONE person  to make your day!

HighValue · Answer

I'd guess you are only interested in men that have many options. Dating/finding a partner for a relationship IS a competition, whether people want to admit it or not. People need to be more realistic about their own value and try to find a partner close to that instead of someone far above.

Or they can just be alone forever.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I dont think you should come to terms with that. You of all people knows how unpredictable this thing called life can be and just how when you think you got it figured out it throws you a curve. So instead of excepting you'll always be alone just work on yourself so when the right one does come along you'll be ready!

jazzy34 · Answer

How do you know? You're still alive and breathing, aren't you?

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Nah, you're too young to believe that.. Especially these days.. All you have to do is look decent, not have unrealistic standards, and not turn away a connection just because they don't fit the exact picture you want..

Zack-Bann · Answer

I haven’t  And never will Because everything else I have in life I went out and got So why should company of others people be any different

grungeberry · Answer

Depressing. Don’t read my fortune like that, rude. I’m manifesting that I won’t be forever alone—romantically. But if I am then…good for me? Lol. Change your mindset.

Brittanyrunner06 · Answer

Don’t get in to that mindset or it will become a self fulfilling prophecy. Try to remain open to meeting someone and getting to know them but don’t stress over it, too much.

Shiprex · Answer

You learn to love the most important person in your life, yourself.

There are also relationships of other sorts tp explore through work, hobbies, sports and community activities. Build in those and maybe that alone won't become lonely.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I don’t feel that way. I never did. But I guess we all die alone regardless so there’s that.

FreyaRed · Answer

Depends on the reason why someone says they always be alone. Someone can feel alone even while being in a relationship.

Account · Answer

I hope I don't catch feelings for anyone. I am tired. I am done. I want to be alone. It is the only think that works for me, the only thing I trust.

Nikki1989 · Answer

How do you know that?  It is very unlikely anyone will always be alone if they have the right attitude and mindset.

Anonymous · Answer

Stop playing right into into the 30+ year old woman stereotype pwese

alice55 · Answer

I came to terms with it when I turned 24, I don't really care much at least I won't have to worry about the guy cheating on me.

Anonymous · Answer

That means u are not loyal. Players end up alone

Benjiman19 · Answer

By keeping myself busy. Working until I come home and sleep or masturbate and then sleep. Just keep my mind off the fact that I have no one right now and how I'd love to have someone to be with.

hello4433 · Answer

That's how you feel when you are going through a breakup

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Why would you think that? I was very alone till 35. 5 years later I was engaged with 2 kids. If I can change things anyone can

katiesmuff · Answer

One's attitude could have much to do with it.

Likes2drive · Answer

I don’t think negatively like that but we are always alone actually, we meet different people through out our lives but we do end up with someone usually, just think positively

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

If you believe in destiny If you believe you're destined to be alone I personally believe you control your own destiny though. Life isn't planned out for you already

Sugar100 · Answer

It’s hard. No guy wants be my partner and I have no family so I’m alone in life. 😔

dudeinohio · Answer

Its never too late to find someone. I found my current wife when I was 57. Finally the right one. You can too.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

I have always felt alone even in a crowded room I think I just excepted it at a young age like 9 or something and never looked back.

qwerty2469 · Answer

I dont. Im 43 and I've only been alone for 6 hours my entire life from conception (I have a twin brother) they were the most dreadful hours of my life and ill never be alone again.

Staximus · Answer

If that's your choice then so be it, but it doesn't have to be.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a come to terms with being alone after realizing that men treat women like disposable toys and abandon them when they are bored.

4ngelic · Answer

i dont think you will be forever alone..

Lynx122 · Answer

I don't think you should. Never give up :)

EmmaMary · Answer

Never Say Never @simslover92 💕

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Just made peace with it and carry on.

zagor · Answer

I have no problem being alone.

McSteamy · Answer

Because relationships are exhausting.

msc545 · Answer

With difficulty.

Anonymous · Answer

I just feel sad :(

cavedweller1973 · Answer

Keep good books on stand by lol

eagle1951 · Answer

her memory is with me every day

Anonymous · Answer

I try not to think about it

WonderingManII · Answer

It scares me.

Twalli · Answer

I won't be. Ever.

Bunnybuny · Answer

Enjoy life

Dongie · Answer

Like this "fuck it"!

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