Is it a bad idea to get into another relationship right out of getting out of another?

[DCVsMarvel2]

[Screenwriter]

Wellll, it's according to where you were in the former relationship.

If you were in a long-time relationship that had gone sour long ago, and you were actually done with the relationship all the way, except on "paper." You might have done the grief-work, and mourning of the loss already.

So, you were actually ready to move on and get with someone new, though you might have been living together-apart.

BUT, if you were in a longtime relationship that is hot off the presses. JUST finished. Anger still raw. All kinds of feelings swirling around, still: child support, alimony, splitting of property, visitation rights/splitting of custody.

If all of the former is still in the works, you aren't actually finished with the old relationship and are simply looking for someone/something to make you feel good in the midst of all the chaos you're in the middle of.

It's not fair to the person you might hook up with because they're Ms. Right Now, Ms. Fill in the Blank.

It's best to keep away from a relationship right after a breakup because it'll just be another breakup to come.

No one is ready for another relationship until they're done the difficult work of actually, permanently severing emotional ties, working through the anger and loss of the ex-relationship.

If you haven't, you're dragging that into the new relationship and it's like pouring poison on it. Won't do you any good.

See a good psychiatrist/psychologist/counselor/therapist to work through these issues so you can go cleanly into something new.

This doesn't mean you've forgotten about the former relationship, or aren't still disappointed or angry about its end. But it means you can look at it relatively objectively and recognize your part in the breakup as well as theirs. You can even remember good things about the relationship. It's simply that the bad outweighed the good and there didn't seem to be a path to solutions of the bad.

So, take care, and avoid rebound relationships which will end badly and shortly not only for the other person, but for you too..

[ariadneR]

I believe so, yes.

I feel that you need some time to recover and be able to go back to who you are. I have a friend who broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years and within a week she was telling me that she was sending nudes to her coworker. This coworker has apparently always likes her. I told her to just wait a couple months. Have some time for yourself, you loved your ex, you guys wanted to adopt together. Needless to say she didn't listen and ended up sleeping with this new guy. She's onto a new guy now, cause the other one she said just wanted her for her body whereas she wanted a relationship. She's sending this new guy nudes and I think they're meeting up for some oral before work.

She tells me that all these guys just want her for her body and they don't see her. I've told her numerous times, that they want that because that's what you give them, that's what you show them. But I don't know anything 😕. Between this new guy now and when her ex broke up it's been 3 months.

You need time to heal. I don't care what anyone else says. You end up sabotaging yourself in the long run

[EzraIsShy76028]

Depends...

For most people this is not recommended. I think it's called a "rebound." And rebounds usually don't end well. Usually in rebounds you don't even like the other person that much, you're just using them to cope with the pain of losing your ex.

However, some people really just can simply move on THAT quick. And assuming they like this other person THAT much, then it can work out. As long as it comes from a genuine place and not just replacing one person with another.

[Finchie40]

Not necessarily, especially if your previous relationship wasn’t the greatest and you weren’t to happy with your previous partner for some time. It all comes down to when you feel ready , nobody else can make that decision for you , only you can make that decision. If your new partner is ok with being a rebound , then that’s all that matters.

[DishLady]

I can’t speak for everyone, obviously, but I’ve never been able to do the Tarzan “singing from tree to tree” (or in this case, from boy to boy) as if I’m just switching buses or something. I need time to let go of my feelings about one person before letting a new person in. If you’re able to have a revolving door of partners in your life that just means it’s not anything meaningful for you….

[HollyK21]

I really think it depends on the situation, like why they broke up and how either party feels about it. For example, I have a friend who ended a 7 year relationship because her boyfriend was cheating, and while yes she was hurt she also had peace of mind to move on. She met someone 3 1/2 months after that breakup back in 2011 and they’ve been married since then. So you just really never know.

[Simslover92]

It works for some but I would never recommend it. You need time to heal.

[princeofromance]

No, but you must be careful not to get hurt too soon after just having your heart broken.

[Anonymous]

If you are an emotional wreck, you're angry and bitter, you want to date out of weird idea of revenge to get back at your ex, then absolutely it's a bad idea and it's unfair to the next person, but ending one relationship and deciding that you are mentally ready and wanting to dedicate time to the next, is definitely fine, even if the period between the old and the new is brief.

[Brittanyrunner06]

In my experience, yes. I’m just too vulnerable after a breakup. I need some time to get over that, first. To clear my head and think more clearly. If not I’m at risk of getting involved with someone for the wrong reasons.

[LiamJHayden]

It depends upon the person and the specifics. Some people "recover" quickly. Others realize that it was not meant to be and won't miss out on something good. Others checked out long before the break was official.

And some need time to recover and should avoid jumping to a rebound situation.

[katiesmuff]

Each person mourns, gets depressed or relieved depending on the situation in their own way! This makes it likely that some could easily jump right back into one where others need time to heal.

[thegreenyogi]

Everyone is different but I do think it's a good idea to give yourself a break before jumping into another relationship.

[lilBigPotato]

Well, finding someone new is the easiest way to get over the ex, but I prefer to have some break in-between

[exitseven]

No , I always say you should get right back up on the horse

[elizamichale1]

If u find someone who u think u can get along then why not... it can't be wrong

[Blackcat1952]

I am definitely not an expert , but my guess is NO , or maybe it depends if it's bad.
Enough, you could still be carrying that baggage over into the new relationship

[Jennz6]

Some say it’s not good. It’s like on the rebound. Give yourself some time to heal.

[BeachBreak420]

Yes You might like the other person when you're on the rebound.

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely not. You don't owe the ex anything. Live your life.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Often, because you're grabbing for another partner without proper healing time from the break-up.

[MOUTHWASHING]

It depends. Getting out of a relationship can be cruel or a blessing so... it depends

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I've never been in a relationship.

[itsannalee]

Yes because mostly you will hurt someone else

[mrshooiser]

Yes. Because you haven't healed yet.

[Staximus]

Usually a bad idea

[Anonymous]

If you feel ready then go for it.

[blackeagle007]

How you feel matters

[Account]

It is not for me.

[WonderingManII]

Yes.

[Twalli]

Generally, yes.