Can infatuation in a relationship become an addiction?

[Anonymous]

Although most of the times, infatuation Is the initial stage of a relationship, can it become an addiction too?

There are so many times of people breaking up, divorcing or even cheating because they fell out of love (they no longer feel the high and passion) and seek for excitement and sparks. It makes me think they either never really loved their partners and they really thought you would be infatuated for decades (and it being excitement forever) in a long-term relationship or marriage? That's like going to the fair and riding a rollercoaster but I'm sure getting stuck on that carnaval for days or weeks and going on the same ride would be bad.

Then too many people select a partner base on attraction and feelings but fail to see if they can later on tolerate their flaws and differences. They fail to see if common goals are shared, if they're even compatible in other areas besides the bedroom.

Therefore, can infatuation become an addiction too?

[Finchie40]

Yes it can , especially for selfish people that only really care about what’s best for themselves. Just because the infatuation period runs its course , that shouldn’t be a reason to end a relationship with someone , but sadly that’s what selfish people do, because they only care about themselves. Sadly there are a lot of selfish people in this world and that’s why I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl , because once the infatuation period runs it’s course , it’s a 50/50 chance on whether it’s going to continue or not. FWB’s eliminates having your heart broken by a selfish person , because every relationship is based on infatuation, FWB’s with some strings attached has been the best thing for me , because if her and I suddenly change our minds , her and I can still be friends’ without benefits if it doesn’t work out , instead of enemies

[Asker]

It's sad that there are so many relationships based on just infatuation. They forget about companionship, compatibility in other areas besides the bed, integrity, respect and trust; all those components is what love would have. Love isn't about constantly wanting/needing to feel sparks nor of fantasizing about them 24/7. That's not love.
Yeah I find that "but I fell out of love, the sparks aren't there anymore" a bad excuse to leave or cheat in the relationship/marriage.

[Finchie40]

Yea sadly a lot of people
Claim they want to find love and be in love , but they don’t realize it takes more than just infatuation to receive it. Selfish people will never experience love because all they care about is themselves , you can’t receive , unless you give and vice versa. All relationships take 2 people choosing each other through the good time and bad times

[TrimmedTip]

Absolutely—infatuation can feel like an addiction, especially in the early stages of a relationship. That rush of excitement, dopamine, and constant craving for the other person can mimic the way the brain responds to actual addictive substances.

The problem is, infatuation is usually temporary. It’s intense, but it fades. And if someone chases that high constantly—jumping from partner to partner, cheating, or leaving relationships the moment things feel “normal”—they might be addicted to that rush, not truly in love.

Real love isn’t just about sparks. It’s also about calm, commitment, and choosing someone even when it’s not exciting. That’s why people who only follow feelings without checking for long-term compatibility often end up hurt or disappointed.

Infatuation can start something beautiful—but love is what keeps it going.

[Asker]

Indeed. Relationship that are only base on feelings and are intense in the beginning tend to be the ones that either end fast once that period fades, has too much drama or end on bad terms.

[TrimmedTip]

Exactly. When a relationship is built only on feelings—especially that early rush—it often lacks the foundation to last. Once the excitement fades (and it always does), there’s nothing solid to fall back on. That’s when the cracks start showing: miscommunication, unmet needs, differences that were overlooked, or even emotional chaos.

The most lasting relationships are usually the ones that balance emotional connection *and* real compatibility—shared values, trust, respect, patience. The spark might start it, but it’s the deeper bond that keeps it alive.

It’s not about constant intensity—it’s about steady love.

[Asker]

It would be better if more people did a better vetting process and focus on long-term compatibility

[TrimmedTip]

Totally agree. More people need to focus on long-term compatibility, not just the spark. Attraction fades—shared values and emotional maturity last.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to dive deep into matters of the heart with a splash of humor! 😍 Infatuation, oh la la, it's like that never-ending sugar rush, and guess what? It can totally become an addiction! People chasing that high can make rash decisions, hop from one rollercoaster to another, thinking it'll always feel like those initial fireworks. Real love knows it's not just about staying googly-eyed forever; it's understanding and accepting each other's quirks. Falling in love is about grounding those butterflies for a long ride together! 🦋💕

[Anonymous]

In some ways yes. I have a big crush on one girl. I wouldn't say it was infatuation, because I know and experienced some of her flaws. I saw and recognized that we had some differences, but I still saw that as a good thing.

[Asker]

Then that's a good sign. It means you can distinguish reality from fantasy.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yes, it can. That’s why Love Addicts Anonymous exists

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it can.

[Asker]

If infatuation is the only reason many people are in relationships then it's a bad foundation to start with.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree.

[jazzy34]

Google limerence.

[Asker]

I did. That's an intense and obsessive romantic attraction (not love) towards someone. They don't love the person. They are in love with a fantasy, with the idealized version of the person. It's sad how many relationships are based on that. It's sad how people break up or cheat just because that infatuation period faded.

[jazzy34]

Exactly.