Lovesick - There's no cure for the pain (HIM in joy and sorrow)?

[Anonymous]

What to do? If there is no hope. Love is sh*t if only one falls in love.

HIM sang "there's no cure from the pain" ...

What do you do then?

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11 mo

It it still hard to try to forget ... time will do its work and heal the pain. Just wait as always

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8 mo

I don't understand why he reads my messages but don't answer. Why he asks me what I value and don't tell me home address... I want to send him a package for Christmas or a just card. Because I can't find anything for him I had in mind.

[ohsheeT]

Sorry I know. This question is a month old but there is a cure for it
First you have to understand
You accept and you acknowledge it

O k , so you're home everyday , you're not doing too much , or you're going to work every day going home sauteeron , every single day

Some guy comes into your life. You become happy because you're routine changed. You're doing something different with somebody you like

When this happens, he is opening doors with inside of you.
Think that you're falling in love with him.
Because because of each door that he opens you find a new part of yourself every time you find a new part of yourself that love gets deeper
Understand what is really going on.
You are filling things within. He cannot make you happy he cannot. You're the only person on the inside of you. Everything you everything you do with him. It's a feeling that you get inside of you. It's your feeling, it's your happiness. You're the only one that can make you happy. You're the only one that can make you sad
It's not him we were born with all these emotions inside of us. It's our job to find ourselves to find out who we truly are and open those doors. When you think somebody else is opening them for you , it's fake , it's false. You are energy, your energy is your heart. It's a thing that makes you happy to feel emotions. It's called energy

When you do something good for yourself and you become that made you happy if somebody does something for you sure your happy. But that happiness came from you.
Inside of you. That person opened app the door by giving you a gift or something. But you felt until the amount of joy that you want to feel because you're the only person on the inside of you that can do that

The reason why you're sad is because that guy's not going to be around anymore to open up any doors for you anymore for you to fill anything anymore. That's why you're sad. That's why you're heartbroken, you feel your life is ended, but it hasn't it just started because now that you know what makes you happy and who makes you happy and the only person that can make you happy is yourself. Restart doing new things on your own. Open your own doors

[MannMitAntworten]

Carry on elsewhere for my own sanity.

[Asker]

Nowadays spots to get to know people are rare. Apps - you only see same people in all apps. You know one you find 80% in the others. Less places, pubs, events, discos... I wish I would have the options to go to different places nearby. Yes I will go on

[MannMitAntworten]

Yes, singles apps are largely a shit show. Meeting people in person is still my preferred approach. Cuts out a lot of guess work.

[Asker]

I live in a very rural area and the options are very limited here without an app. Maybe it's not meant to be that I find the man with whom I'll go feed the ducks in the park when we're old. As long as I can still think, I'll keep my eyes and my heart open. Listen to your heart, but don't forget your brain.

[MannMitAntworten]

Understand. I live in a small mountain town. Few options who aren’t presently married or are single but my parents age.

Feed the ducks. I used to do that with an ex-fiancé long ago. My idea.

[jennifer_bloom]

When I was 19 I asked God to make sure I never fall in love with a man I cannot marry and since then I have had extremely strong crushes, but I have never been hopelessly and irrevocably in love. I have 100% control over my emotions, because I asked God to give me control when I was 19 years old. I can turn my feelings for any guy off at will.

[Asker]

Interesting—that was my path. Since this path didn't make me happy and I didn't find a partner, I thought it was time to change something before I died an old maid. If you stay that way for too long, it becomes increasingly difficult to find a normal relationship.

[WhitneySnow]

You try to forget it and move on. It’s unfair to them to burden them with your one sided feelings.

[Asker]

Every time I think I've made it, he gets in touch and asks if we'll meet again. The feelings have grown over time, just for me. We've known each other for a year and see each other maybe every month and a half. Yesterday I thought it was over after I hadn't heard from him for a month and he didn't reply to texts either. When I finally deleted the emails I realized it's been about 2 weeks since we've had any contact. As much as I miss him now, it has hit me harder than I thought.

[WhitneySnow]

Stop having sex with this guy and he’ll stop asking if you can meet again

[Asker]

To see him makes me feel good. Just to cuddle. For me I would not need to sleep with him. Just to be beside and near. Even the same house would give me an anchor of peace & I feel so happy inside of me. But the light and inner smile goes when we go back to our homes. Then the rest of the time seems to hurt more and more. I dont know why I feel so much for him. I never told him but the facts tell me: he dont miss me. When he dont answer... so I would never talk with him. He is a man of doing instead only talking. And he was the first man who brought me flowers for the 1. date. And so much more. Maybe my head and heart dont want to go one way. Not yet.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love—the sweetest peril! 😅 My aim here is to help you navigate these stormy love waters. Falling head over heels for someone who doesn't feel the same can sting like a thousand papercuts. Send yourself some TLC; practice self-love rituals, pampering yourself with activities that light up your soul! Remember, it's not the end but a fantastic opportunity to learn about your desires and boundaries for future heart-thumping adventures. Keep smiling and stay fabulous! 😉

[bowenw]

Keep searching.

[Asker]

For the one true love... yes. Right. thanks.

[bowenw]

Yes. Best of luck.